This has been a really crappy month for DS at school and I have never been more angry in my life with what is going on. I need to vent and if anyone has advice on how they would handle things, I would greatly appreciate it.
In the last 4 weeks, 7yo DS, 1st grade, has had to deal with the following:
1 - Being held down against his will in the boys bathroom.
2 - A computer teacher grabbing his hand hard and pushing it into the keyboard. He told me "It hurt mommy."
3 - A boy coming up and pushing him down hard on the pavement at recess to the point that he had to have his knees looked at by the school nurse.
4 - A child relentlessly verbally bullying him in class. This has actually been going on longer than 4 weeks, but came to a head this week when I found out nothing had been done when I talked to the teacher about it awhile back.
After the bathroom incident, I went to the principal and discussed it with him because the teacher did not return my phone call. They found the kid that did it and he was "dealt with".
The very next day, I hear about the teacher incident. After doing additional investigating with other parents, I find out that this teacher is EXTREMELY mean to all kids, verbally abusive to them (yelling, calling them names, threatening to send them to the principal for minor infractions, etc.). I also found out the kids were encouraged to go home and tell their parents what was going on by the homeroom teacher.
I called the principal and asked for a meeting with the computer teacher and the principal together. He refused, telling me I had to deal with the computer teacher first before he would get involved. I didn't expect her to tell me "Yes, I am mean and I grabbed your sons hand" but I talked to her anyways and got what I expected. She basically called my son a liar. I went straight to the school board and they started an investigation.
The other day, I got an email from the homeroom teacher telling me that DS told her if she didn't move him away from Sam (the child that has been bullying him) he would tell his mommy and she would come in and take care of it.
Later that night, I asked DS about the move and he said "I asked Ms. Teacher and she said "Blah, blah, blah Go sit down." "
I said "what exactly did you say?" He said "I said "My mommy told me you were going to move me and I was wondering when that would happen and then she told me to go sit down." I told him what she had said he said and he said "I did not say that! Why would she say I said that?" I told him that he could ask her at parent teacher conference.
Well, we talked about it at the conference and both of them are sticking to their story so someone is lieing. Since I have caught teacher in a lie before (nothing major) I tend to believe my son. After the conference, DS left the building, sat in the grass and cried saying "Why would she lie like that?" I really didn't know what to say.
The more I think about it, the more I totally feel he is being retaliated against for me calling the school board and is now being made out to be a liar so that they can say he is lying about the computer teacher incident.
I don't know what to do or how to help him handle this. We only have about 8 weeks left, but DS will have 2 more years at this school. I can't switch schools as private is the only other option and I can't afford it.
Sorry this got so long...thanks for letting me vent!
In the last 4 weeks, 7yo DS, 1st grade, has had to deal with the following:
1 - Being held down against his will in the boys bathroom.
2 - A computer teacher grabbing his hand hard and pushing it into the keyboard. He told me "It hurt mommy."
3 - A boy coming up and pushing him down hard on the pavement at recess to the point that he had to have his knees looked at by the school nurse.
4 - A child relentlessly verbally bullying him in class. This has actually been going on longer than 4 weeks, but came to a head this week when I found out nothing had been done when I talked to the teacher about it awhile back.
After the bathroom incident, I went to the principal and discussed it with him because the teacher did not return my phone call. They found the kid that did it and he was "dealt with".
The very next day, I hear about the teacher incident. After doing additional investigating with other parents, I find out that this teacher is EXTREMELY mean to all kids, verbally abusive to them (yelling, calling them names, threatening to send them to the principal for minor infractions, etc.). I also found out the kids were encouraged to go home and tell their parents what was going on by the homeroom teacher.
I called the principal and asked for a meeting with the computer teacher and the principal together. He refused, telling me I had to deal with the computer teacher first before he would get involved. I didn't expect her to tell me "Yes, I am mean and I grabbed your sons hand" but I talked to her anyways and got what I expected. She basically called my son a liar. I went straight to the school board and they started an investigation.
The other day, I got an email from the homeroom teacher telling me that DS told her if she didn't move him away from Sam (the child that has been bullying him) he would tell his mommy and she would come in and take care of it.
Later that night, I asked DS about the move and he said "I asked Ms. Teacher and she said "Blah, blah, blah Go sit down." "
I said "what exactly did you say?" He said "I said "My mommy told me you were going to move me and I was wondering when that would happen and then she told me to go sit down." I told him what she had said he said and he said "I did not say that! Why would she say I said that?" I told him that he could ask her at parent teacher conference.
Well, we talked about it at the conference and both of them are sticking to their story so someone is lieing. Since I have caught teacher in a lie before (nothing major) I tend to believe my son. After the conference, DS left the building, sat in the grass and cried saying "Why would she lie like that?" I really didn't know what to say.
The more I think about it, the more I totally feel he is being retaliated against for me calling the school board and is now being made out to be a liar so that they can say he is lying about the computer teacher incident.
I don't know what to do or how to help him handle this. We only have about 8 weeks left, but DS will have 2 more years at this school. I can't switch schools as private is the only other option and I can't afford it.
Sorry this got so long...thanks for letting me vent!
