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Originally Posted by thyra

This might be a stupid question - so please forgive me but I'm honestly curious.

Even if you have sole legal custody aren't you required to keep ex informed of things that are going on? I know you wouldn't need his permission to do certain things or make certain decisions - but I would think that you would need to still inform him of stuff. ??? Am I right?? Sorry, I'm learning as I go here.

Inform him yes, get his permission no. If she had sole legal custody she wouldn't have to get his signature for a passport (in the states I am familiar with). She wouldn't have to jump through all the hoops she does to notify an uninvolved father of medical issues and pretend to wait for feedback or questions. She is already making all decisions but because he has joint legal he could try to make things difficult for her by opposing her decisions just to cause problems.

[meemee]

also down the road, after you do get the passport and you do go, before you leave the country i would get ex to notarize the 'leaving the country' form. something to bring up in front of the judge too - if it comes to that.

passport would not be the only paperwork i would need to leave the county. i would also get that permission to leave the country paper signed too.

just to cover your butt.

i am not sure if you would need to fill out that form if you have sole legal custody.

[StephandOwen]

Just a quick update that ds had his surgery on Friday and, needless to say, we never heard from ex asking how it went. DS was admitted to the hospital Sunday just before noon (and is still there, and will still be here tomorrow) due to complications from the surgery/recovery (read in the special needs forum if you want more info). Needless to say, haven't heard from ex. "Father of the year" who thinks he wants to spend weeks with ds at a time can't even give a phone call/text/email to make sure ds is going okay. And I haven't contacted him either. And I don't plan to.

[singin'intherain]

Life is hard enough without having to deal with that kind of asinine behavior.

[Super~Single~Mama]

I'm sorry he can't be bothered. Just try not to let it take any of your energy away from helping your son heal.

I hope he heals quickly - I'll keep you and your ds in my thoughts and prayers!! Please update us when he's able to leave the hospital!

[LoveOhm]

Originally Posted by thyra

I'm sorry he can't be bothered. Just try not to let it take any of your energy away from helping your son heal.

I hope he heals quickly - I'll keep you and your ds in my thoughts and prayers!! Please update us when he's able to leave the hospital!

: Steph I hope O heals soon and I am so sorry your ex is so oblivious. Truly able to see his true colors.... SMH

[StephandOwen]

Thanks ladies! DS came home yesterday afternoon! He started drinking and eating (!!) so we made the decision to load him up on morphine and send him home. I was a little concerned that when the morphine wore off we might be in trouble, but we've kept up on giving him his pain meds (tylenol suppositories because he doesn't fight those... they are pretty strong at 325mg) every 4 hours around the clock (:yawning). By about 3 1/2 hours he's usually wimpering/crying that he hurts so that sucks but the tylenol seems to work mostly good for the 3 1/2 hours. As long as we stay on top of the pain and not skip any doses I think he should be good

[LoveOhm]

YEAH O!!!! Steph my doc actually me to take my next dosage of meds 30 mins prior after I had my c-section so consider checking with O's doctor - tell them what you experience and ask if you should have him stick it out or not. My doc said the meds I was on take 30 mins to kick in.....