wic told me my son was over weight wtf. and blending family headaches

[SaraBravo]

So my son is 29 months and m.y daughter is 3 yo they are shy of 13 months apart. They r both 39in tall and my son weighs 39lbs while my dd weighs 34lbs. Neither of them r fat. Just tall. We have to take n his pants because to get something to fit length wise they r way too big around the waist. I've only take them to daycare a few times. Mainly just to get then used to being with kids their age. At the day care the tall kids in my ds's room comes to his chin. Is my son really that big? I think his weight and height are porportional so it doesn't matter where his weight falls on their chart. I'm not going to change his diet at all. He could do with a few less milk bottles. When his daddy michael is here he uses the potty and goes to bed by himself with no. Bottle and no fussing. I could try the same routine and he would be crying and screaming for me to sleep with him and give him a bottle.
My bf/fiance and I will be moving in together soon so to lighten the shock we r doing little sleep overs at his house and mine before we move into a new place. They do so much better at his house. The thing is I cannnot do the same routine at my house because they sleep in my or my moms bed. They don't like their toddler beds. I don't. Lame them the mattresses suck. But if he sleeps with someone then he wants a bottle and also I don't see the point in them going to bed b4 me because if bf is not here what do I need me time for? Sometimes there is more xleaning to do but I'm usually just as tired as them and we go to sleep together. Bf gets a little upset when I give him the bottle during the day. But I'm not ready to take it from him. Its the only way he will take a nap for me and it calms him down during a fit or something. I understand he needs to do his big boy things but its so hard sometimes when he just won't do them for me. Yes its easy for michael all he has to do is suggest it and ds is all for it. I don't get it. Oh well I'm doing my best. I'm sure when bf is here all the time things will be easier.

[sapphire_chan]

WIC is funnily obsessed with milk. As long as you're sure he isn't drinking milk when he's thirsty (thirst should be handled with water) then how much milk he drinks is probably fine. The risk with using a caloric beverage (e.g. milk, juice) to address thirst is that it makes it harder for kids to regulate their nutrition intake.

He is on the higher end of weight for his height and age, so I'd expect to see a growth spurt soon.

I think you're right that stopping the evening bottle would be stressful, so if you decide that he's having too much milk, I'd see about offering water during the day instead.

And fruit instead of juice. In fact, since WIC says he's overweight, maybe you can get them to get you fruit vouchers instead of juice vouchers. .

[SaraBravo]

Well he is tall for his age not just heavy for his age. When u look at him u wouldn't think he was 2. I usually get asked if they r 4 year old twins lol.

[Sharlla]

Doesn't sound fat to me, sounds like he's height/weight proportionate just really big for his age. My (almost) 5 year old is 41 in and weighs 35 lbs and he's really slim.

[eclipse]

Your son sounds tall - my 4.5 year old (admittedly a shrimp!) is 2 inches shorter thant your son, and about 6 lbs lighter. In any case, WIC uses children's BMI charts to determine kids who are overweight, and they are really, really bad for kids who are tall for their age. They told me the same thing about my daughter at about the same age as your son (and I'd guess around the same h/w - she was a giant LOL I think she might have been taller and heavier) and then told me to feed her icecream for calcium because she doesn't like milk (brilliant that, no? feed your fat kid ice cream everyday!). Anyhow, she's 6 now, almost 7 and his still tall for her age, but only weighs a fe lbs more than she did when she was 2 and a half - depending upon what she had for breakfast, she's usually at the very bottom of "healthy weight" BMI or at the top of "underweight" BMI. The thing is, to qualify for WIC, you have to have a "nutritional risk" so they'll put down anything they can to keep you on the program.

[LynnS6]

He's 'off the charts' for height and weight. So, yes, he's that big, but he's really tall. Really tall.

I'd worry about the milk more for what it'll do to his teeth at bedtime more than because he sounds overweight. He doesn't. As long as he's eating a range of foods and is running around like most 2 year olds do, I wouldn't worry. Make sure he drinks 1% or 2% milk, gets fruits and veggies and protein, and relax.

[sapphire_chan]

According to the measurements, his weight to height ratio is high for his age, that's why they're saying he's "at risk for overweight".

So, there are a few possibilities, he could be very muscular (does he seem stronger than kids his weight?), he could be gearing up for a growth spurt, or he could be trending towards overweight. "at risk" means you look at what's going on.

Because you were concerned about how to drop the night time bottle, I thought you were worried about how much milk he was drinking. In re-reading I see it's the change in routines between the two homes that bothers you.

If he does well with a routine with his dad and another with you I think he's clear that things are one way with some people and another with other people and will quickly adapt to a new routine when you guys move in with bf/fiance. I'd be prepared to settle him down and slip out for "adult time" but I don't think you need to do that now unless you've got extra stuff to do.

[organicpapayamama]

Originally Posted by SaraBravo

Well he is tall for his age not just heavy for his age. When u look at him u wouldn't think he was 2. I usually get asked if they r 4 year old twins lol.

I get this too for my almost 2 yr old ds. he is a very big boy. I also go to WIC and they have never commented on his weight or size being too much. To give you an idea DS was 30 pounds at 6 months. And has been at an even 40 pounds for about the last 10 months or so.

[SaraBravo]

He is very strong and you can def see muscles at work. Nothing like that little boy on tv with a 6 pack and out benching men. He is stronger than his 3yo sister. He doesn't know the difference in how hard or how soft he can be. He is a very rough little boy. U have to constintly remind him to do things gentle and soft but not too sure he understands too much or if he is able to control his strength yet.

[SaraBravo]

To clarify my bf/ fiance's name is michael and he calls him daddy michael or just michael. He calls his real dad daddy. Omg one day he was talking on the phone to his dad and told him he and daddy michael were playing baseball. Omg did I get an ear full. I can understand he was hurt by his son calling someone else daddy too but michael has spent the last 3 months with him while his dad only 1 week. During this new year. So its only 2 b expected of a 2yo I would think. He started calling him daddy michael on his own and we correct him if he only says daddy instead of daddy michael. Wwyd in that situation?

[finnmommy]

Don't let WIC get to you. Some of the people are every well trained and well some are not. My pedi said not to worry about the weight until 3 and by then it usually self corrects. Especially in a toddler that tall!

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by SaraBravo

To clarify my bf/ fiance's name is michael

So he can do a bed time routine with daddy michael already? See? It'll be fine when you guys are together.

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by SaraBravo

He is very strong and you can def see muscles at work. Nothing like that little boy on tv with a 6 pack and out benching men. He is stronger than his 3yo sister. He doesn't know the difference in how hard or how soft he can be. He is a very rough little boy. U have to constintly remind him to do things gentle and soft but not too sure he understands too much or if he is able to control his strength yet.

Then BMI's probably always going to be messed up for him, but at least YOU know he's healthy.

Tell WIC what they need to hear to be happy and be glad they've got a reason to keep giving you guys benefits.

[SaraBravo]

glad to hear all your responces I feel soooo much better!