Snakes from the past

[ebethmom]

Three years ago, my dh was ready to quit his profession. He felt beaten down and completely unappreciated. We found out that a former 'supervisor' (not this person's official title, but I don't feel at liberty to give that kind of detail online) was abusing his authority and putting my dh's job at risk.

Dh weathered that storm and we haven't had to deal with that kind of nastiness in the last three years. Today we received news that this %#$% may be dh's direct supervisor again.

I find myself just numb. There is a possibility that we may be relocated and not have to deal with this jerk again. But we might have to stay, and dh would have to work with him and jump through his hoops. Ugh.

Either way, we'll have to deal with change. I dread moving again. We've moved three times in 8 years. You'd think I would be better at moving, having done it so often. It's always rough!

[Cherry Alive]

That's really difficult! Would your DH consider looking for a new job in the case this guy ends up being his supervisor? Is there anyway he could transfer to another department instead of you having to move? Office politics suck!

[angelandmisha]

I'm sorry you and your dh are having to think about that again. Any chance there's someone higher up your dh could go to and ask for help? Others must have caught on by now to this guy's bad ways. Any chance of moving into
another company to stay in his profession? Sounds like he really likes it except for the personality of this guy. Maybe that guy will get relocated! Far away! Good luck, I'm sure it's really stressful.

[Ann-Marita]

I am sorry this is happening to you and your husband.

Moving is hard. I've moved a LOT. But it sounds like that would be preferable to staying and having this person as a superior.

Is the choice (to move or not) up to you, or would your husband's employer have the decision of whether and where to send you?

BTW, why didn't they kick the person out?!

[ebethmom]

This is actually even worse than office politics - it's CHURCH politics! I'm trying to avoid using titles and other official jargon. Our denomination's lingo is recognizable a mile away.

In church politics, it seems that as long as your pray about the situation publically, you can screw someone over without repercussions.

We'll know in about three weeks if we're staying or moving. Hopefully we'll get to move closer to my family. But we've wanted that moved for, oh, a decade. If we stay, my dh will just have to lie low.

Today, my dh did say that he would consider switching denominations if we're stuck with this guy. That would be a huge change. He has been with this current denomination for over 20 years.

[tinybutterfly]