giving up and going home

[mamaflutter]

Hi everyone! So I think I have come to the conclusion that I have failed! Its a horrible feeling but I think we are past the point of salviging less some kind of miricale. In may we were supposed to move to tenn. I found this woman on craigs list who I thought was my angel just what I needed when I needed it the most. Anyway she had this house and said we could move in rent free she wanted nothing but us to fix up the house. She said it needed minor cosmetic work. We thought great this will be perfect she said she could get my husband a job and sent me pics of this house. It didn't look so bad. So we packed up and moved from ct. Well then we got there! I don't know how anyone could live in that mold up every wall u could see outside trough everywall in one spot or another holes in the floor roaches rats stray cats and the smell was truely unbareable! So we came up to ky with my sister rented a trailer well about 3 moves and a hotel stay later we rented a really nice trailer with an awesome landlord that is very kind but my electric is more than my rent and my water for 3 people is 50 a month! I have a 700 bill for 2 months!!! I don't know what to do I've done everything I could to get the bill down but it just goes up! So anyway now we are behind in everything all our bills rent and now walmart cut my dhs hours, icing on the cake. So I think it may be time to give up and go home.
We can't afford to move into another place here or up there but we can stay with my dad up in ct. I hate the thought of quiting but its better then being homeless or without any utilities I guess. I just feel like an absolute failuer. When I left everyone said I'd be back and I swore not me once I'm out I'm not goin back but what else can I do? This is a horrible feeling I really never thought things would ever be this bad I've been on my own since I was 16 and to have to go to my dad kills me and my dh even more because he feels like he's failed us. This is truely no good at all. I just don't know what else to do anymore.
Candi

[happyhats]

Just wanted to give you a hug. I don't know what to recommend really. Is there any aid you can apply for? Have you tried to call 211? And sometimes sucking up your pride and starting over is best, truly. My sister had to move home with her three kids to leave an abusive marriage. Now she's fully supporting herself and them, has her own place, and is doing well. My husband and I had to move in with my parents for a short while, and borrow money to come home from CA. My husband went to school, got a loan, and we got our own apartment. Now we're self sufficient, have been for a couple years, and we have one dd and thinking of having more. I could NEVER have afforded any decent apartment in CA, we were homeless and no work was to be found. My dh couldn't get into school either without jumping through multiple hoops, etc. But here we have been successful. We're still low income, and we've still hit rough patches, but we can survive here. So don't think of this as a failure or the end, it's a new beginning.

[AAK]

You are making a decision that is best for your family. That isn't failure, it is the action of a responsible adult. We all need help occasionally--it doesn't make us failures. Take this as an opportunity to grow as a family and to do things that will help your future.

Good luck,

Amy

PS, I would call the electric company though and ask them what makes your bill so high. That seems so wrong--I would want the meter checked at least.

[MommaLura]

Hugs! try not to feel like a failure, this is a very challenging time for so many right now. I know electric is almost always more in a trailer, they just don't have the insulation, ect. of a "stick built" home. I'd have the water checked, I'm wondering if stuff is leaking and I would check into assistance. However, sometimes moving away isn't what you expected and if its best for the entire family moving back is not a failure.

[SunshineJ]

My mom once told me something that has always stuck with me. There's a difference between running away and giving up, and having the sense to know when it's simply time to walk away. There is no shame in choosing the best action for the well being of your family. Go to your dad's, get your feet back under you, remember that it's not forever and you most certainly are NOT alone in this economy, and then fight the good fight again on your terms. ((hugs!))

[TiredX2]

Originally Posted by SunshineJ

My mom once told me something that has always stuck with me. There's a difference between running away and giving up, and having the sense to know when it's simply time to walk away. There is no shame in choosing the best action for the well being of your family. Go to your dad's, get your feet back under you, remember that it's not forever and you most certainly are NOT alone in this economy, and then fight the good fight again on your terms. ((hugs!))

You're taking care of your family, you're making sure they are safe and loved. That is not failure. It sounds like a good chance to take a breather and start over.