i SAHM with a 6 month old and a 3 year old. i make raising them/being their mom my business. i am not a housekeeper (ie, i sure as heck wouldn't be a "housewife" if not for the kids). i keep up with laundry (washing and drying, not necessarily putting away), making meals for everyone, grocery shopping, and all of the childrens' needs.
i'm sorry to say, but husbands can be pretty clueless sometimes. take my DH, for example. on the rare occasion that i left DH alone with both kids while i showered, he actually stated to me that "so and so is supposed to be calling soon, and how am i going to answer the phone while holding the baby?" i just looked at him (like, HELLO!) and then he mumbled something about "i'll figure it out."
and finally i'll just have to add that there is "staying home with kids" who maybe you park in front of the TV all day while you go about your business, ie, talking on the phone, playing on the computer, obsessively cleaning your house... and then there is actively engaging your children, ie., actually playing with your baby, spending time looking him in his eyes, holding him and knowing and responding to his communications on a day to day, hour to hour basis. there's parking them in a swing and letting them cry, and then there's bending yourself backwards to meet their needs, even if it means that the only "break" you get happens when everyone else finally goes to sleep at night.
i'm sorry to say, but husbands can be pretty clueless sometimes. take my DH, for example. on the rare occasion that i left DH alone with both kids while i showered, he actually stated to me that "so and so is supposed to be calling soon, and how am i going to answer the phone while holding the baby?" i just looked at him (like, HELLO!) and then he mumbled something about "i'll figure it out."
and finally i'll just have to add that there is "staying home with kids" who maybe you park in front of the TV all day while you go about your business, ie, talking on the phone, playing on the computer, obsessively cleaning your house... and then there is actively engaging your children, ie., actually playing with your baby, spending time looking him in his eyes, holding him and knowing and responding to his communications on a day to day, hour to hour basis. there's parking them in a swing and letting them cry, and then there's bending yourself backwards to meet their needs, even if it means that the only "break" you get happens when everyone else finally goes to sleep at night.
