Edited by TTCH785 - 5/16/11 at 4:23am
I havent read all the posts...but wanted to say at 14 months, formula made up the bulk of my son's calories. He certainly wasnt eating "three meals plus snacks" at that age. All kids are different. I wasnt that worried because he was drinking alot of formula (and at 26 months he still has two (sometimes three ) bottles of formula each day...he doesnt like regular milk.
I didn't have time to read everyone's responses, but as a mom who is soon to be adopting a little girl from ethiopia, my heart goes out to you. I am also a family nutrition coach, so I hope I can be helpful.
First of all, I don't think loosing weight is a good goal for a baby. Babies come in all shapes and sizes and a better goal might be for her weight to be stable while she grows taller so that she is leaner. Second, I wouldn't worry too much about her weight at this age. I would encourage her to develop healthy eating habits, introduce her to a wide variety of foods, model good eating as a family, live an active lifestlye...and give it time.
I would take an entirely different approach from your pediatrician. I would invite her instead to be a part of the family, participating at family meal times. Second - and I feel very strongly about this - I believe it is the parents' responsibility to offer healthy, yummy food at appropriate times (3 meals and 2-3 snacks a day) and the child's responsibility to decide how much to eat.
Next, I would look closely at what your whole family is eating. If you want to restore your daughter's natural sense of hunger and fullness - or her ability to be an intuitive eater - you need as a family to eat real, whole foods the majority of the time. This means lots of fruits and vegetables and moderate portions of whole grains, lean meats, fish, tofu low-fat dairy products, and healthy fats. You need to begin to avoid highly processed foods, especially foods containing high fructose corn syrup and hydrogenated oils.
As your daughter is over a year, I would begin weaning her off the bottle entirely. It's also time to be done with baby food. There is no reason your daughter cannot be eating what everyone else in your family eats most of the time.
It seems like the bottle is a comfort object, so it might be a slow process, but I would try to look for alternatives. Maybe you can add a special stuffed animal or blanket that you always give her with the bottle and than slowly take away the bottle while still giving her the comfort object? Another strategy would be to transition to sippy cups.
I would offer milk in a sippy cup with at least 2 meals a day instead of at bedtimes. She doesn't need juice, but if you do offer juice occasionally, add 1 part water to 1 part juice.
One idea would be to create a nibble tray for her. Take a plate with several sections or even an ice cube tray and fill it with lots of little finger foods. Fill at least half the plate with toddler friendly fruits and vegetables. Fill the rest of the tray with a little whole grain (cheerios, whole grain toast squares, whole-wheat noodles) and a little protein (cheese, sliced chicken, edamame, tofu, beans).
And then let her decide how much to eat! Eating with her fingers will slow her down and maybe allow her to experience when she is full. I would also offer her plenty of water in a sippy cup so that she does not mistake her thirst for hunger.
Find ways to help her increase her activity level. Have her crawl up the stairs instead of you carrying her, encourage her to walk (with your help) to meals and diaper changes, go outside and play, take a baby gym class. If she is more active, it may help her lean out but it will also help her in so many other ways - among other things encouraging motor development and strengthening her immune system.
I would suggest several books: The Family Nutrition Book by Dr. William Sears and How to Get Your Child to Eat, but not too much by Ellyn Sater. Both are excellent!
|As your daughter is over a year, I would begin weaning her off the bottle entirely.|