My beautiful baby boy!!!! - Page 3

[HappiLeigh]

Congrats Katie! He's beautiful. So glad your long journey ended well.

[Keeta]

So relieved to hear your news! Congratulations, mama, he is gorgeous!

[Ambystoma]

Congrats Katie! We were all on the lookout for you--so glad everything turned out well. Your little boy is adorable!

[Snapdragon]

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[JessicaS]

I am partial to Sebastian but my dh didn't want to use that one.




I think your feelings are perfectly normal and what we all go through when we don't get our perfect dream labor.

Our bodies are not like perfectly tuned watches where we all react the same to the same situations, our parts are not all perfectly the same size with all our bits in a precise shape/size and our babies are not all the precise size or shape and they do not all act the same during labor. (obviously I need to spend more time diagramming sentences )

I still question my first c-section 9 years later, I know what was going on at the time but what IF I could have done something just a little bit different??

No matter how much we prepare and how much we plan, you are still not a watch. A perfect labor still isn't guaranteed. Planning, preparing and researching does help but we are only human.

I am sorry you don't feel supported by your midwives.


I would recommend talking to a local ICAN chapter if you continue to struggle, they can be a huge resource of help, support and information. Of course you can also discuss it here but ICAN has meetings IRL and all.

[NicoleS]

I read the whole post earlier but was NAK...

I don't know if it helps any, but here's my 2 cents.

1)I think the whole post partem thing is just weird, especially when it's your first. There's just this whole build up to labor and delivery, and I don't think we prepare ourselves too much for what to expect after. I know it took weeks for everything to sink in with my first - and she was a vaginal delivery - I loved her terribly but at the same time I sort of felt like the babysitter waiting for mom and dad to come and pick her up - it took awhile for everything to settle. So I'd give yourself some time to process and see how you feel a few weeks from now.
2)I can sympathize with the whole unplanned c/s thing, as that's what happened to us. So many what ifs. But I think either way you will end up with those unless you are one of the lucky few who have their birth go 100% as planned. Say you had gone in when they had suggested the NST. You could still have ended up with a c/s - then you would have been questioning whether or not the intervention had been necessary, and maybe if you had waited things would have gone better. You can't undo the past, so just move on and think of the future.

[hapersmion]

Congratulations! I'm glad your son is healthy and you're recovering well, sorry there was so much drama!

I really like the name Teo!

We're trying EC too - at least, when I have the energy. We have a tiny little potty - if potties can be cute, it is. I'm really surprised how often we can put him over the potty and just have him go right away. Perhaps it would be harder to find a time when he WASN'T excreting something, heh!

[majazama]

Congrats Katie! He's a little cutie pie Love this time as they grow up so fast.

[Snapdragon]

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[accountclosed3]

katie:

i'm so happy to read about you and your boy! after seeing you on the UC forum, i was really concerned about you! i'm so happy to read about your joyous result.

one of the things that i find so amazing about birth is how it can galvanize us. from the "most perfect" to the most traumatic births, mamas here are deeply changed and strengthened by the process. that is, imo, one of the miracles of birth.

as for names, i feel strongly that you need to go back in the family a few generations, and pull forward an old name. he wants that. something with tradition, something with an old-fashioned power. i feel that's what he wants.

he is adorable. very cute.

we ec'd from about the same age too (from about 8 days or less), and it's just been great. at 18 mo, he's doing very well. see you on the EC forum!

[Snapdragon]

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[punquin]

I haven't been in as Jax's great grandparents have been visiting...

Congrats on your beautiful baby boy!!

[accountclosed3]

katie:

i think that there is always a lot of room for second guessing, and it's ok to feel bummed about how it went. but it's also ok to acknowledge that you also made very positive choices for yourself and your baby.

birth has curve balls, and you were tossed a number of them. i felt from your posts that you really wanted a supportive birth team (rather than a UC), and that unable to find one, you struggled to really make peace with the team you had and/or a UC. that isn't an easy task! as you said in your OP, there was a lot of emotional stuff there!

and we do know that can inhibit labor.

but you didn't do anything wrong. to an extent, this is just another of those curve balls about birth--there are a lot of things that we can't and don't know. we just have to respond when we feel we need to.

*you did that*. you succeeded in birth by ultimately getting the supportive help you needed, and *that* is worth congratulating yourself over.

if you choose it, there will be other births. you will use this experience for the best, and you will be able to birth again.

in the mean time, keep processing. there are hidden gifts in how birth goes for us--things that we may not even realize or understand for quite a bit. you did great!

[~Adorkable~]

oh Katie this is soo good to hear this, i have been thinking about you all the time, warm love to you and your whole family!!!!