How 'in tune' are you and your baby/child?

[ann_of_loxley]

If there is one thing I have noticed about co sleeping (within our family at least) - it is that we are much more 'in tune' with eachother. To a scary degree actually! lol... Not just with the basic benefits of co sleeping such as regulating baby's breathing and heartrate, etc... But we even have the same dreams sometimes!

I kid you not... One night I had a dream I was stacking books up on the bed and stacking them higher and higher and they kept falling over. Next thing I knew I was being woken by my son crying - he was really upset and he kept going on about how the books kept falling whilst frantically looking around for them wher they kept falling off during my dream! (hes a bit of a perfectionist like me lol) - I had to reassure him that there were no books, it was just a dream.
But that meant we were having the same dream!?!?!

But most noticable is the fact that our sleep/wake cycles are the same. In fact, if I know my son needs a bit more sleep - and I wake up early...I have to get up and get out of the bedroom fast. Or he will wake up and be grumpy for the rest of the day! lol Its been like that since he was born really. I would always wake up and he would follow a few seconds after - even if I am perfectly still and not making any noise! lol When he was younger and I really did need the extra sleep I would always think 'crap I am awake now - he will wake up now...there goes my chance of rolling over and going back to sleep!' lol

So how 'in tune' are you?

[kgreenemama]

I think that is a fantastic observation. It stands to reason that a mom who spends so much time close to her LO would notice those harmonious moments. A mom who sleeps in another room, uses the TV as a sitter too much, etc. would never have the chance to experience this.

My DS and I have a waking pattern similar to yours. Sometimes I wake a few minutes before my alarm rings, and I'll just lie in bed awake. Without fail, DS will wake too.

I haven't encountered anything like your dual dream, but I have to believe that the good feeling I have when we're snuggling in bed or the amount of time he spends on my lap or snugged up next to me on the living room floor fosters a sense of being in tune for both of us.

Sweet.

[CherryBombMama]

interesting about your dream!

(we co-sleep too) i have noticed that i wake up frantically when i sense that the baby has his blanket over his face or if he is upside down in between us or even if he is just about to wake up to need to be fed.

its nice to feel "connected" with family <3