Originally Posted by macy
Wow, sounds like I'm the only first time parent with zero interest in non-typical hospital birth. That makes me wonder:
I thought it sounded like you were interested in a typical hospital birth, with an epi and all that, no?
My thought on the epidural issue has nothing to do with being a wimp or not. I don't want a natural birth because I want some sort of medal.
I don't want a c-section, and I feel like interfering with birth, which is a natural process that our bodies know how to do, is a bad idea.
I'd rather not have the epidural because of what's called "the cascade of interventions."
Having an epidural can slow down your labour, which means you then need pitocin to bring on stronger contractions. However, the contractions with Pitocin can be too strong for the baby to tolerate, and then you need an "emergency" c-section.
The thing that rubs me the wrong way about the epidural is the inability to move around in labour. It just makes sense to me that if the baby is working hard to position hirself appropriately, but I can't help out with that process, it's going to be more difficult. Once you have the epidural, the only position you can really birth in is lying flat on your back on the hospital bed.
Also, I really want that high after giving birth. I want all those crazy hormones, and I think having pitocin and an epidural and all that will rob me of that. I'm already losing out on the hormones that will help me bond and become a parent through breastfeeding, because I don't have breasts, and therefor, won't be breastfeeding.
everyone needs to make up their own mind. I'm trying to make an educated decision. I'm planning to do Hypnobabies and hoping for a water birth. Between those two things, I think I can get the benefit of an epidural without the risks and complications.
Also, I've heard too many stories of the epidural not taking, and I have scoliosis and lardosis, so it's likely they wouldn't be able to place an epi for me anyway.
I am a wimp in some ways! I've heard of people having a spinal headache for two days after the epidural. No thanks!What brought you to MDC?
I love this question!
I got hooked on the queer parenting forum, especially the TTC thread when I was trying and trying and trying and trying and then trying some more to get pregnant.
I think I found that thread just by chance. Then I started poking around the rest of MDC and found that a lot of the philosophies of parenting appealed to me.
I don't think I'm all that crunchy, but I live in a really crunchy area, so my perspective is skewed. I am pretty crunchy. I wear a poncho sometimes.
But I still have a car, and I still eat take-out food, I don't eat everything organic, but I do have a farm share for summer and a different winter one, and I do clean my house with nothing but two "natural" cleaners, but mostly vinegar and baking soda.
I think my parenting philosophies will turn out to be more AP than most, but I'm not into homeschooling or Waldorf. I do like some aspects of the Montessori approach, like the idea of trusting kids to do things for themselves like make their own snacks at a young age, with appropriate training and supervision.
I'm not mainstream in that I don't want to raise a hurried child, but I believe in kids taking swimming lessons and playing some team sports or being in Scouts or a similar organization.