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4/3/10 at 10:26pm
o your parents live far away? I told my dad that we would hash out a plan closer to the time. He's all for that, he's actually reasonable, most times, it's my mother who is INSANE.
at least she doesn't call much anymore, she's decided it's too expensive to call the US on a regular basis. I'm into that.
They live about 35-40 minutes away from Toronto, luckily for me my mom does not drive so she could never just pop by! My dad is the more sane one too.
Oh and my mom only calls when she is just about to do something, so I get about 3 minutes of her talking before she has to go.
Lucky me I get to have dinner there tomorrow night!
(sorry to everyone for jacking this thread!)
You're not jacking anything! I wanted this thread to be here just for a place to chat, not just ask and answer questions.
Here's a lesson I learned this weekend: Do Not give any sort of opinion or advice to someone that's had a baby if you haven't yet!
How do you expect this baby to change your existing relationships?
My mom already annoys the heck out of me for so many reasons. When I told her my plans for a homebirth she said something about how she would be there and I bluntly told her that she was not invited. All of my friends keep telling me how much I will want my mom there right after the baby is born and I cant even imagine wanting her help. I watched how she was/is with my niece and I just know Id end up saying something horrible to her or slapping her. She is just not a source of comfort for me.
Fantastic thread! I'm a 1st time-er too and look forward to meeting other 1st time-ers!
What are you looking forward to in pregnancy the most?
I'm SO looking forward to feeling the baby kick! At my last ultrasound a week ago I got to see the little baby moving around and it was so exciting! Also, the baby kept moving that right arm so hubby is convinced that it is a boy that is practicing his jumpshot (DH coaches basketball). LOL!
Do you have any fears of being a parent?
I haven't had any fears about being a parent but I have had some anxiety about labor and delivery. I really want a natural childbirth but haven't got such positive feedback from some friends and family (none of which have attempted).
I've also been a little anxious because I'm job searching. I have been a consultant for many years and have always traveled for my job. Now of course I have NO desire to travel for work and want something more stable but am concerned that once I tell potential employers that I'm expecting they will hesitate to hire me. Fingers crossed!
Are you buying any parenting books?
I bought "What to Expect When You're Expecting" and I would like to buy a book that helps you with creating a birth plan as I have an "idea" of what I want but don't really have a "plan".
Have you decided what kind of birth you'd like to have? If so, what kind of birth, and how did you reach that decision, having never gone through the experience before?
The hospital DH and I have chosen has a midwife team that I absolutely adore so I will be going to them for all of my prenatal visits and one of them will attend the labor and delivery. I would like to have a natural childbirth but I am not putting any pressure on myself at this point to make a final decision. The hospital doesn't have birthing tubs but I am fine with that as I get really hot and really cold and don't want to have to worry about the temperature of the water not being comfortable when I know I can have severe temperature changes. I decided to use a midwife because I want someone who won't be in such a rush to intervene unnecessarily and allow the process to happen naturally as along as it is safe for the baby.
Glad to meet you all!
Totally unsolicited advice, so feel free to ignore.
Tell your partner that girls can do jumpshots too.
Take What to expect.... and THROW IT OUT. Ok, fine, recycle it. Or take it back for a refund, if you can. It really should have been titled "all the ways your pregnancy can go wrong, but probably won't."
DO NOT tell potential employers you are expecting until they have offered you a job. In writing. If you're so lucky as to be going into a unionized position, or something with clear policies, tell them at the latest date stipulated in your contract. I say that because I am in the middle getting completely worked over by my current employer, and I'm hoping to get a job back with my last employer, and I am so not telling them until after I've been offered the job.
Lots of sympathy on the job front. The advice I was given was to make really darned sure that you have practiced your answer to the "And why do you want to leave your current position?" Under no circumstances, I was told, do I want to accidentally blurt out "because I'm pregnant and they're screwing with my parental leave..." You want that answer rehearsed, you want it honest, but you don't want it to say anything about not wanting to travel any more for family reasons, or wanting to stay home to start a family, etc. Instead, you want to redirect the question to why you want this job. Remember, losers run from, winners run to. Talk about how you want to grow your career, or in your case, stay with a company long enough to see the results of your work, or something like that.