Hi ladies, my beautiful 4 month old daughter was delivered via c-section. I'm starting to believe that my c-section was unnecessary. I would really appreciate some insight into what happened to me.
1) My water broke before going into labor. I think this is really the key to what happened to me. I had a few light contractions and my water broke. I was sent to the hospital where they immediately put me on pit. I know their fear was that I would get an infection. As I understand it the real risk of infection was the numerous internals they did while I was in labor. What should be done in a case like mine? Had I gone to a midwife instead of an OB, what would the standard protocol have been?
2) I wasn't allowed to eat or drink anything after admission. They told us during the tour that we could have juice but I wasn't allowed anything other than ice chips and popsicles. I suspect that I wasn't allowed to drink anything (not even water) because they knew there was a huge chance I would end up being sectioned because I was being induced and was a first time mom. How is it possible to do the hardest physical thing ever without eating or drinking anything? Would a midwife have let me eat? I remember being so thirsty and waiting until the ice chips had melted and drinking as much melted ice as possible while the nurse wasn't looking.
3) I had an epidural because the pain was so intense from the pit and then had to stay in bed. They told me that my DD was sunny side up and got stuck. If I had been able to move around could she have moved naturally?
4) I was told to push before I felt the need to push and had to push while lying on my back. While I was pushing I remember how ridiculous it was to push that like. It was so uncomfortable and felt totally unnatural. Because I was still on pit, the contractions were almost on top of each other and I had to push at every contraction so I couldn't get even a second of rest. Should you push before you feel like you need to push?
5) They told me that my "membranes" were very swollen. What did that mean exactly? Was that from pushing for 2 and 1/2 hours? They said because I was so swollen that I would have torn badly.
If I had done what I believe I should have done, gone to a midwife and delivered at a hospital that is friendly to alternative births, how could things have been different?
1) My water broke before going into labor. I think this is really the key to what happened to me. I had a few light contractions and my water broke. I was sent to the hospital where they immediately put me on pit. I know their fear was that I would get an infection. As I understand it the real risk of infection was the numerous internals they did while I was in labor. What should be done in a case like mine? Had I gone to a midwife instead of an OB, what would the standard protocol have been?
2) I wasn't allowed to eat or drink anything after admission. They told us during the tour that we could have juice but I wasn't allowed anything other than ice chips and popsicles. I suspect that I wasn't allowed to drink anything (not even water) because they knew there was a huge chance I would end up being sectioned because I was being induced and was a first time mom. How is it possible to do the hardest physical thing ever without eating or drinking anything? Would a midwife have let me eat? I remember being so thirsty and waiting until the ice chips had melted and drinking as much melted ice as possible while the nurse wasn't looking.
3) I had an epidural because the pain was so intense from the pit and then had to stay in bed. They told me that my DD was sunny side up and got stuck. If I had been able to move around could she have moved naturally?
4) I was told to push before I felt the need to push and had to push while lying on my back. While I was pushing I remember how ridiculous it was to push that like. It was so uncomfortable and felt totally unnatural. Because I was still on pit, the contractions were almost on top of each other and I had to push at every contraction so I couldn't get even a second of rest. Should you push before you feel like you need to push?
5) They told me that my "membranes" were very swollen. What did that mean exactly? Was that from pushing for 2 and 1/2 hours? They said because I was so swollen that I would have torn badly.
If I had done what I believe I should have done, gone to a midwife and delivered at a hospital that is friendly to alternative births, how could things have been different?








It did help dd move along, even though I had a loooong pushing phase and couldn't feel myself push. I still had 3rd degree tears, which I think were a result of me pushing too soon and not being able to feel it, so I couldn't adjust. When I became pregnant and she just said "oh, you'll tear again since you did last time" without any discussion or options for helping reduce my chances. I decided I deserved better care.
Just wanted to send a hug after reading. I'm sorry it was a rough birth for you.

