I was single for 3 years before going on my first post-marriage date. In 8 years, I only dated a handful of times and I have to say, for me, personally, it was the best thing I ever did.
I had always bounced from one relationship to another and when my marriage ended and I was just pregnant with my second, I realized I wasn't going to be dating anyone, anytime soon. That helped me break through those feelings of loneliness and needing somebody and gave me time to work on myself and figure out who I am and what I really want.
I was very busy with 2 kids for the first few years of my divorce. I had a newborn and a toddler and I loved it just being the three of us and me having time to give them my total focus. It was a great time for us.
As my little one got older, I realized I was wanting something more. I started to take classes, learn new hobbies and skills and just spent time getting to know who I was and what I was all about. And I started to know me and like me and I kept building our circle of friends, our interests and I focused on my personal growth.
When I did finally decide to seriously look for someone to date, I found I was in a fabulous place and really met the most exceptional men you could ever know...including my partner, whom I've been dating now for a year.
Taking time can be a great thing. Getting to know yourself is the key to finding someone great and having a wonderful & healthy relationship.
Yes, it's hard sometimes to feel alone...but we have to remember we often feel lonely in a relationship too. It is something that comes from and can be healed from within.
I'm wishing everyone well, regardless of where you are on this journey and where you decide to go from here.