My DP has major depression, with other health issues that lead/fed the depression piece. For 8 months we were together with nary a hitch. He had episodes and I either gave him space, or was there for him as a quiet presence. Even crashed out/no energy, he remained gentle and sweet to me, was clear about wanting me there.
Last week he had a bad crash that has lead to him falling off his routine of care. (poor eating, no connections, changed meds). The difference in him is startling. On top of this, he has shut me out. I am worried that a new med is affecting him negatively given how sudden this all set in, but he won't talk to me. He is verrrrry sensitive and volatile, everything is read as criticism at the moment.
But here I am, completely shut out after 8 months of being right at his side, 1/2 living together etc. I worried this could happen but now that it has, I am at a loss. I emailed him (to give space rather than calling him) to tell him I am here, I love him, and I want to talk and be united in this, but he won't respond. I have seen him do this to others in his life, put them in the shun pile of "too stressful" and now I find myself there.
I am heartbroken, but also resilient...
What should I do? For now I have completely backed off.
Last week he had a bad crash that has lead to him falling off his routine of care. (poor eating, no connections, changed meds). The difference in him is startling. On top of this, he has shut me out. I am worried that a new med is affecting him negatively given how sudden this all set in, but he won't talk to me. He is verrrrry sensitive and volatile, everything is read as criticism at the moment.
But here I am, completely shut out after 8 months of being right at his side, 1/2 living together etc. I worried this could happen but now that it has, I am at a loss. I emailed him (to give space rather than calling him) to tell him I am here, I love him, and I want to talk and be united in this, but he won't respond. I have seen him do this to others in his life, put them in the shun pile of "too stressful" and now I find myself there.
I am heartbroken, but also resilient...
What should I do? For now I have completely backed off.
