How to discipline a 9 mo and toy suggestions - Page 2

[MamaPhD]

I've read your command should have as many words as the age of child. Seems to make sense for me.
1yr = "no"
2yr = "no hitting"
3yr = "no hitting dog"

[ctrygirlatheart]

Thanks SO Much for all the advice, feel like printing it all out and leaving copies at work and in the car too as my brain doesn't quite fire like it used to. I especially like the idea to sit down with my husband to go over some different phrases to use because his serious "no" voice scares even me! It is so hard and different being a momma add in the fact that I actually need to think about what I am doing with only a partially functioning brain and it just can feel like too much a lot of the time. So glad that this forum exists so I don't have to try and figure all this out on my own. It really does take a community to raise a kid (and a momma) and to have one that actually raises their kids the way I want to raise mine is so very helpful and comforting.

[HarperCait]

You should have a neutral reaction to biting and hitting. Stop her, but otherwise act lke nothing is going on. Having a no no no reaction or mad face can reinforce it and make it fun for her to do it more, thus increasing the behaviour not reducing it.

THEN, most importantly, draw attention to her when she is playing nicely and not biting/hitting. Like "Wow, you're playing nicely with your friends!" + big smiley face and voice.

I think she's too young for all of this, really, but it's better than setting up a frustration/negative attention cycle now. You should not be "disciplining" her. On the other hand, the technique above will help to encourage her to be social, without it being punitive.

As for toys, there's nothing you can do. They just do this at that age. You can take it back and say "let's share" or soemthing, btu she won't get it until much much later.


(HarperCait- ABA Behaviour Therapist)