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Originally Posted by song_of_the_soule View Post
Well she did come the next day. She proceeded to tell me a lot about her own life. This is ok in itself, it just shows that i am a very comfortable person to share with. Most people relate to me well. She has no concerns at all, she even admires me and my coping skills. She met only with me, not the children, at my request. i do not want my children to think that there is something wrong with our family, and that is why a social worker has to come over. She says by law she has to meet the kids, but said it was ok if she just came for tea and made it look casual, like a neighbor dropping by. She said, anytime i am ready, call her. As i said, we are in the middle of moving. we are at our newer house now. It is not perfect, but it is cozy, clean, and without a mold problem. BTW, it was not the daycare, nor the ex who reported me, she told me this, she said it was not either of them, but she could not tell me who it was. That only leaves the woman at church whom i had accepted food help from. See, my brakes went and i had only enough money to fix them, or buy food. Being that i had to move, i needed the brakes and looked at other ways to get food for the week. So, when things are all settled at home with moving, i will be talking to her about this.
Some people's children, i tell you, they need a good talking to! Thanks for being there for me ladies, you are super!
If someone at your church did this, I would be taking that to the pastor's ASAP! Of all the nerve!
post #22 of 23
You have to be very careful about telling your personal business to schools, hospitals and other government and city agencies. They are weird and always looking for something negative to report parents on. They also do not respect parent's as the primary authority over their children.

My advise is in the future don't talk to these kinds of people about what's going on in your personal life or any stressful situations you may be dealing with. I would have just asked the daycare if they could provide the additional care and not given them a reason why or lied about the reason.
post #23 of 23
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Yes, i agree yogamami, live and learn. I did not even get into so much detail with them anyway, people gleam and twist things sometimes. As far as who called, i am not 100% sure yet. I do have my suspicions. I do know the daycare or the ex did not.

Now i have the dilemma of help once the baby is born. I have no one to watch my other four children when i go into to have this baby, nor do i have help when i get home. In light of this stupid child welfare crap, i am afraid to ask anyone for help, for anything. My last child had to be in the hospital for a week when he was born because of severe jaundice, i do not like to leave my babies when they are sick, and i DON'T, ever, not even to shower. I might be forced to this time

I wish i had money for a great nanny or helper for the first few weeks. I have a sister who sometimes can help (like helped twice in the last 2 yrs,) but she is very undependable.

I have left our church and will not be going back. I was planning on it for sometimes anyway. I disagree with patriarchy, so i had to leave a very, very patriarchical faith. I am searching others a bit. I always loved Buddhism, and am also looking at nature religions, to an extent.

Does anyone have any ideas on how i can get through the birthing and postpartum periods, in terms of supports, help with the children?

I am going to look into government funding for home healthcare, maybe that might work. My mother worked as a homemaker for a while, when she was alive. I am going to see who funds that. Wish me luck!
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