Another first birthday etiquette question

[GreenGranolaMama]

Is this weird or am I weird for thinking it is weird

I go to play group with three other Mamas that have babies around my DSs age. Two of the Mamas are pretty good friends and had decided to plan a joint birthday party for their LOs. However, when I got the invite this morning, it also includes my LOs name and the other Mamas LO. We didn't help plan the party/ time/ date/ place or anything at all. And while it is nice to have all of the babies parties at once as it kinda prevents cake overload, I feel a little odd.

Most of me is happy to have my LO included in the birthday party, but is it odd that I wasn't asked?

[firewoman]

HMMMM...that is strange. Is it a party that their families will be coming to or is it a party for just friends?

[GreenGranolaMama]

Party for friends... but the thing is I don't know some of their friends, and I wouldn't feel comfortable inviting my friends that they don't know (obviously as I didn't help plan the party!) But I know I have friends who would be bummed to miss out on seeing DS, so I guess I am just going to have a friends and family party at our house... so does this mean that I should not invite these Mamas to my party lol???

[woodchick]

Do you know for sure that the invite was sent to Mama 1 and 2's other friends? Maybe the invite is their way of saying 'lets have a party for our four little kiddos!' and was only sent between your four playgroup mamas.

[GreenGranolaMama]

Originally Posted by woodchick

Do you know for sure that the invite was sent to Mama 1 and 2's other friends? Maybe the invite is their way of saying 'lets have a party for our four little kiddos!' and was only sent between your four playgroup mamas.

Yeah, it was via FB so you can see the other folks that got the message as well...

[woodchick]

It does seem weird to me. I'd probably call the inviting Mom and just see what's going on. If you want to go to the party you could ask if there's anything you can do to help, and if you could invited a few of your friends as well.

If you were planning on having your own shindig you could say "y'know, we've already got something planned for DS and we'd love to have you there!"

It maybe sounds like they didn't want to leave the other two babies out and that this is just a bit of a misunderstanding.