Originally Posted by ollyoxenfree
You were rather vague for quite awhile about the issue. "Hair standing up on the back of your neck" isn't really a good basis for making a classroom placement request. If I've read through all of your posts on the subject correctly, you think he's a pedophile. It isn't that he is overindulgent or that he's rude or that you don't like him. You really did confuse the issue by raising these matters. If you are going to make a request to the school, I don't think you will help your case by being so vague and confusing, so I'd avoid these issues.
You may want to consider that if he lives in your community and is frequently in your child's school, then keeping your child and his apart during classtime will not lessen the risk to your child. That dad will still be in the school at the same time as your child. Perhaps you could clarify how you think it would help, since you've already said that you wouldn't let your child accept birthday invitations, ride in cars etc. with this man.
I can understand that you would want to limit your child's contact with someone you think is a pedophile. I'd suggest though, that you may also want to spend some time "street proofing" your child. It will likely be far more effective in keeping him safe than trying to separate the two children.
I had no intention of bringing those or any issues into the equation to be honest, just a simple request.
And for the record rereading my original post you are 100% right it does come acrosss as vague and I didn't mean to skirt the issue. I mentioned the limo to you guys I guess because yes it does seem over the top considering the age, no problem/great idea for a 16th birthday, a last day of elementary/junior high(going on to junior high or high school). I didn't want to outright accuse anyone of anything I think I wanted to se if anyone else said anything about the inappropriateness. But the huge issue the inappropriateness of all those little boys alone in a limo with a man...that is what I should have posted in all honesty. That is the BIG issue I had with it and I apologize for being vague.
I totally have made my child street smart, but even so an attempt to do something innapropriate even if failed would affect a child also don't you think.
We live in a big city and don't go to school in our neighborhood so the community contact with him is highly unlikely.
And yes the other issues are a moot point you are right.
I think I'm going to step back from the issue for a little while since I have the time to do so before it's an issue, I may hope for the best and worst case scenario if he is in the same class instruct my dc to avoid him, that he is never to ride in a car with him etc and I will continue to volunteer a ton. I'm not noticing now that he's been at the school so hopefully he won't be. And if there is ever any reason for me to suspect something I will do what I need to to protect all the kids.
Thanks for your input, I do appreciate it!