OMG! How terrifying for you, and for her! I trust she's all better now.
Yes, that book is fantastic. When I was wavering, and didn't know if I was doing the right thing (I felt right, she felt right, but other people thought I was "trying to keep her a baby". Now of course I know, she WAS a baby, LOL!) that book was the best. It's a whole book of encouragement and how much easier for you and for your child (and for Larry!
) parenting a toddler is when they're nursing. It was really an "aha" moment. It sounds like he gets a little uncomfortable about this age; it *is* kind of uncomfortable sometimes, because our society is so closed to nursing past 3 months. Your LLL can loan it to you, too (but you might want one of your own
).
You probably know all this, but sometimes men are a little better with the logic of it than the feeling of it: the average age of weaning worldwide is 4.2 years, which with our society bringing it down so much, means worldwide, people are nursing much much longer. Katherine Dettwyler has some awesome articles on the anthropology of it, too, like that our closest relative (the chimp) nurses about 6-7 years, and that weaning seems biologically tied to overall development. Somewhere someone mentions tooth eruption, but embarrassingly enough, even though I'm a dentist, I can't remember if it's the eruption of permanent teeth or the final eruption of baby molars
.
The mamas on here in particular have tons of great resources to fill Larry in on the science behind it all. That's what got my dh to "go along"; after we were into it, he saw how easy it made things and has become BF's biggest proponent. It's cool to see him talking about nursing with other men, soon-to-be-dads and dads of soon-to-be-toddlers. Tell me if I should arrange a lunch
!
Good luck to you!
P.S. As for the thread, it's gone in the changeover. Hopefully someone will read this and remember the link!
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