addicted to having babies? - Page 2

[eknuckles]

Well, even if this is an old thread, i'll add my two cents.
I believe children are a blessing. I do not think richness comes in money.
You can have a lot of money, but not be rich in life. Children , family, and
Love is what brings richness. More people to depend on, to have give you
advice, just enjoy life with. I will most likely never use any form of birth control
(for my own personal reasons, one being that the hormonal kind relly screws up
my body) and keep having children. I do not understand why being poor= you
cannot have more children. There are just so many options to helping with a large
Family... Growing food, coupons, hand-me-downs etc etc. i know it doesnt work
For everyone and that's ok. But for a lot of women it's a 'need' that is do-able.

[lilyka]

It is not about big families.  My neighbor only has two but she was absolutely obsessed with having another baby.  so much so that I doubt she has many memories from her sons childhood.  I have seen people set aside their 4 month old because they couldn't wait for another newborn.  It is the hyperfocus on having a baby to the exclusion of the ones you have (perhaps a complete lack of interest in the ones you have).  There s a difference between being jazzed about a big family (notice family, inclusive, everyone at all stages and yes, families are indeed a blessing!!)  and being obsessed with another pregnancy/labor/infant and then repeating every time the baby stops being such a baby.

[Juvysen]

Re: why I don't like the older ages as much...

I think the problem is that I'm not so good with the social/emotional stuff, so the older kids are so much harder for me.  I know how to soothe a baby and/or a toddler, I love learning that new little person.  I can help them via distraction and hugs and nursing.  The older kids (at least mine) are big on whining and their typical problems are more of a social nature.  I guess I'm just not that good socially because I'm completely dumbfounded by much of it... though I remember being in the midst of it.  I was dumbfounded then, too.  And I know that part's not going to be getting "easier" with time, unless they've completely cut me out of their social/emotional lives, which is not at all what I want either. 

Also, as they've gotten older (and I've had more children) I've gotten more and more stressed out (time as an at home mom who is also highly sensitive to noise), and so I've gotten less and less patience.  I'm in a pretty bad place, emotionally, right now.  The guilt of feeling this way is enormous.  I probably shouldn't have posted to this thread again.

[contactmaya]

Juvysen,  im glad you posted. I hear you on the noise factor as kids get older, and other elements that are less easier to control. ....like, why are all the other kids in summer camp? Should i send mine?, and then the whole becoming obsessed with commercial products, and so on ad infinitum....different challenges. Its alot to think about. Im becoming more the 'nagging'parent, because older kids dont listen!!!  I dont want to be like that!! Anyway, its a whole other subject, but again, an important one. Its about the parenting journey.