Occasionally, when upset, she will act aggressive, almost violent, towards me.
Two examples:
1) She was pushed by another girl, which upset her. She leapt on me and flailed around, almost clawing at me, while hysterical. I had to walk her away from the situation to even remotely calm her down. I tried to explain that the other girl was probably feeling upset and that's why she pushed (DD did nothing to upset her, AFAIK.) DD just kept asking "Why? Why did she push me?
2) A boy got upset as leaving preschool (not sure exactly what happened) and lashed out in frustration by yelling. DD was upset by this (scared her, I think?) so came running and tackled me as I was squatting holding DS. Almost knocked me over, and, again, flailed and was hysterical, almost hurting herself, me and DS. I had to hand off the baby and carry DD to another room to let her calm down.
When she's in this state of upset, she doesn't want to be around other people--almost like she's embarrassed or self-conscious.
I'd like to help her manage her emotions, but am at a bit of a loss...I'm guessing that she feels big emotions and is not sure how to cope, so lashes out at me (like maybe she feels attacked so thus attacks me.)
She is definitely an extremely sensitive girl, but also loud, social and likes to have attention on her. She's not a timid, frightened child hiding in the corner! Or, at least, not on the outside...
Two examples:
1) She was pushed by another girl, which upset her. She leapt on me and flailed around, almost clawing at me, while hysterical. I had to walk her away from the situation to even remotely calm her down. I tried to explain that the other girl was probably feeling upset and that's why she pushed (DD did nothing to upset her, AFAIK.) DD just kept asking "Why? Why did she push me?
2) A boy got upset as leaving preschool (not sure exactly what happened) and lashed out in frustration by yelling. DD was upset by this (scared her, I think?) so came running and tackled me as I was squatting holding DS. Almost knocked me over, and, again, flailed and was hysterical, almost hurting herself, me and DS. I had to hand off the baby and carry DD to another room to let her calm down.
When she's in this state of upset, she doesn't want to be around other people--almost like she's embarrassed or self-conscious.
I'd like to help her manage her emotions, but am at a bit of a loss...I'm guessing that she feels big emotions and is not sure how to cope, so lashes out at me (like maybe she feels attacked so thus attacks me.)
She is definitely an extremely sensitive girl, but also loud, social and likes to have attention on her. She's not a timid, frightened child hiding in the corner! Or, at least, not on the outside...
