Anyone ever had a child who would not play with toys?
My oldest daughter "lacked' a play imagination. She is/was very realistic. She needed real props. We did tea parties and pretended to be different people and places. But for her to imagine and pretend she needed tea, tea cups, and pot.
Now she pretends with out the props. But it was something that had to be gently encouraged so she would explore that side of her.
DS1 doesn't really play with toys. He makes 'machines' or cooks or something, with whatever is around. I listen to him playing and he'll be talking away about these little stories that are in his head but he doesn't play with blocks or whatever unless I do it with him.
Some people like crafts, some people like hiking, some people like sitting down and reading. Everybody is different and everybody enjoys doing different things.
He's 5yo now, and still prefers to be around other people, but is able to play alone in his room if he has to. He prefers building type toys (legos, etc) but he does do some pretend play sometimes too, now.
I do know some only kids who definitely seem more adult focused, and a little at a loss for how to enter into the play of other children. Does your dd have any opportunities to be in situations where she can explore playing with other kids? Sometimes you'll see very different types of play with a group, versus one or two children.
We were fully waldorf and could have stocked a store with our open ended toys. My kids never played with them. Kids will play with what interests them, so maybe you have an idea of what engages your child?
He likes to draw occasionally, lots of running and jumping around, loves to go to the playground, and he likes his matchbox cars (but mostly to dump in a pile or line up and throw around). Other toys (and we have a lot) just sit idle.
I was concerned about it for awhile, and I mentioned it to my mom. Who reminded me that she had a child like that, too. Me! And I turned out normal enough.
She does not and never has played with toys - we have a pretend kitchen, dolls, Legos, K'nex and a variety of other toys and the only things that ever get used without my initiation and involvement are the craft supplies. She is starting to play games recently - Sequences, Monopoly Jr, Clue Jr. which makes me happy because I enjoy that, too.
She does play some with her little brother, but he's not much more into toys than she is.
She has a complete inability to entertain herself for even five seconds. I have reams of open ended toys, puzzles, books, etc. She is disinterested in all of it.
It was a real shock to me, because my seven year old dd was/is able to play imaginatively from a very young age. She could entertain herself for hours, and continues to do so.
Truth be told I find it very tiring and exasperating. She typically climbs on things, rolls around on the floor, throws herself off the couch - gets into stuff she shouldn't. She absolutely can't help me with anything, because she can't follow ANY instructions, even when it's geared towards HER having fun...
I really honestly thought it was only my dd, or that there was something wrong. At 27 months, she's way behind in expressive language (can only say about six words) and I'm almost positive she has SPD or ADHD.
It's very tiring and depressing. Most of her waking hours are spent going from thing to thing she's NOT supposed to be doing or touching, and/or screaming in frustration, torturing her older sister, the dog, etc.
I'm slowly getting rid of toys/puzzles because she just uses them to hit people or throw them at people.
Sorry for the ramble. But yes, my preschooler absolutely does not/can not play with toys - at all.
I have the same problem with my son. He does not play with most toys either. He is a very bright boy, knows his ABC's, numbers colors, shapes, but toys do not interest him. He loves puzzles though. I have to physically sit with him and play together otherwise he doesn't touch them.
Have you looked into Sensory Processing disorder. A lot of the symptoms your dd shows are typical of that. My son was diagnosed with that and it explains a lot of his behavior.