do you all REALLY have it together - Page 2

[sapientia]

I've been a mom for almost sixteen years and it got a heck of a lot easier when I learned:
1. what is priority to me and the family
2. we don't need lots of stuff
3. It's ok not to be perfect!

EH, some days I'm spot on-other days I sit on the computer and we have pasta. The house is usually a little untidy, my bed seldom made, and sometimes I'm just laazyy. But overall, we have a system...far from perfect, far from perfectly granola-(we like tv far too much for that!) but it works for us.

[sewcool]

i honestly have to say this is helping me feel a little better, i obviously have my standards way to high and observe others much differently then the reality is.

[major_mama11]

Around here, having it all together means that the kids are fed and nobody is sitting around in a poopy diaper. Everything else is pretty much gravy!

[Storm Bride]

My house is a disaster, and would be worse, except that dh does a ton. We need to declutter in a major way, but we both - especially me - keep putting it off.

I cook dinner most nights (not so much since dd2 came along, but I don't count anything that happens in the first year with a baby ). I make lunch, but it ranges from really healthy to boxed crap. We eat too many treats and granola bars and stuff when we're out and about.

I don't play with the kids all that much. DD1 and ds2 play together well, and they spend a lot of time playing with their friends. WHen ds2 is at preschool, dd1 and I have various outings and activities.

I homeschool, but it's been pretty hit and miss so far. I tend to an unschooling mindset, but don't get them out as much as I should, imo. DD1 is in her second year, and ds2 starts "kindergarten" next year. I'm hoping that next year will run more smoothly as I won't be A) pregnant (got pregnant right at the beginning of dd1's kindergarten year, and had the baby at the end), B) nursing a newborn, C) recovering from a c-section, or D) running ds2 and the neighbour kid to and from preschool three days a week. But, we'll see what actually happens.

My kids are pretty free range, which is partly philosophy...and partly exhaustion.

[Joyster]

This deserves a hell no!

I like to keep the place tidy for my own sanity, but when it's looking it's best, it takes a big effort from me and DH to keep it that way. I home cook meals, because I love to, it gives me 30 minutes where the kids don't really bother me and I dance around the kitchen. I do order take out generally once a week thuogh. I don't like playing a lot, so I try to schedule more real life activities like baking/gardening/swimming/crafting/nature walks with the kids. We don't co sleep once they are big enough to kick the stuffing out of us at night. Right now both of my guys go to Montessori 4 days a week, so I have the days to myself until number 3 arrives. If I tried to home school them, they'd be idiots. I don't believe in yelling, but I've been known to say very loudly "knock it OFF!" to two squabbling boys once in a while. Crafting has gone by the wayside, but I do try to read every chance I get, which often leaves for late nights.

I get together with my mom friends at least once a week and DH is involved in every aspect of parentdom and housekeeping once he gets home. If not, I don't know where I'd be.

[newbymom05]

I don't have it all together, I have it semi-together. It's tempting to buy into the "everyone else is doing it better" mindset, but that's such a downer, and what's the point? When I have my moments, I just remind myself that I"m trying my best, just like everyone else.

[Pepper44]

I try to keep the floor vacuumed, the trash taken out, and the bathroom semi-clean. Sometimes it all implodes upon itself though. I also try to do all of our laundry--start on Mondays and finish up on Tuesdays--so the dirty clothes is never over flowing.

While I've been pregnant we have eaten way too much crap food.

There's a beat up rooster in a cardboard box in my kitchen and he crows. A lot. (Another rooster beat him up.)

My DD watches TV a lot (thank you pregnancy, again) and sometimes I desperately wish she would sleep through the the night and try sleeping in her own bed. She's 3.5 and she still wakes up at least twice a night if not more.

My sink always has dishes in it. I can never keep up, but I aim to be sure they get done every other day. Every day would be nice, but in reality it doesn't happen.

For the most part we're happy and I can't honestly think of anything I would truly want to change...I think it's ok if your home isn't totally spotless! I go for a casually maintained lived-in look.

[eclipse]

um, no. Not even close

[zinemama]

Not when you put it like that, I don't. Nor would I want to.

I have it together.

I have never been one to play with my children all the time, or even often (though I do involve them in what I'm doing around the house). Consequently, they have been accustomed to entertaining themselves from as early as they could do so safely.

I am very happy to send my children off to public school every morning. I have never felt the slightest inclination to homeschool, nor has it ever occurred to me to feel guilty about this.

I lose my temper with my kids on a daily basis, but I don't whack them or scream at them as I am so often tempted to do. Instead I take a deep breath and try to remain calm. And sometimes I raise my voice. Many of my sentences in these instances begin with "For the love of God, why can't you...?"

Co-sleeping (not with multiples) really did make me happy - as soon as they started sleeping through the night. But those two years prior were still ok because it was easier than getting out of bed to nurse.

I get the things done that need to be done, like laundry and meals. Other stuff slides and I don't care.

I have lots of time to relax now, thanks to that wondrous institution, public school. When they were little I didn't have the six hours a day I have now, but thanks to my wondrous dh, I got regular time alone to do as I pleased.

Yep, I think I've got it together.

[berry987]

I was just talking to my sister on the phone the other day (she also SAH with her kids) and we were laughing about some days at 4 or 5pm you think "Man, I must be supermom! Today was fun and I got stuff done and the kids are happy and there's a home cooked meal in the oven. It will be like this every day!"

And then the next day the kids are fighting non-stop, whining about boredom, I've had six cups of coffee, the house is a mess and I am counting the minutes until DH is done working.

So, no, I don't have it all together all the time. Some days it feels like it, other days it feels far from it.

[SoCaliMommy]

Not really

my house is kinda messy, i think i still have laundry in the dryer from yesterday lol,there are days my kids fight constantly from the time my daughter gets home from school til dh gets home from work.

I plan to start a preschool homeschool curriculum with my ds because dh wants me to show him i can teach ds stuff since we are talking about pulling our daughter out of public school.

I knit and sew which i love but lately have been knitting more since i can take projects with me when we go to the park and i can sit and knit and what my son play with other kids.

I find it easier to tackle 1 room in the house a day. that way the whole house gets somewhat clean over the span of a week.example our house is small so it'd be livingroom,bathroom,kitchen, 2 bedrooms.