Bad, bad pedi experience

[AspieMom]

1-year old check up a little early because I wasn't expecting them to have an appointment open. At first the nurse thought we were there for a sick baby, so she only took his temp. 10 minutes of waiting, she come back and asks "wait are you here for a physical?". After finding out yes; speculation of if he is old enough for the appointment being 11m, 1 wk old because he needs the 1y vaccines, and being told that he isn't vaccinated because of religious beliefs, she weighs and measures DS. We wait another 45 minutes for the DR, who comes into the screaming. -What do you mean he isn't vaccinated because of religious beliefs?- What does religion have to do with vaccines?-You have to explain this because he has to be vaccinated!- She then proceeds to make fun of my religious beliefs, plays the dead baby card, the you are going to kill other kids card, explains that all these "educated parents" are just being bad, what if he wants to go to college, he can't CHOOSE to be vaccinated himself because I have modeled bad behavior, made fun of my work as an Audio/Visual Technician "so you are used to shining lights on the tiny things in the background that should remain hidden" and then told me that I have to have DS vaccinated against Hep B because my husband is lying to me about not having sex with other people, and I probably have it.
She was disgusted that DS isn't circ-ed saying "you guys decided against a LOT of stuff, and told me you have to retract to get the pus out."

She was also surprised that he could sit unassisted after knowing he can walk across the room. I have heard of bypassing crawling, but sitting?

[rlmueller]

Next Dr please!

Dr. should have paid you for the visit.

[Marnica]

That's disgusting behavior for a human being, let alone a pediatrician. Needless to say you won't be returning to that office right?

On my way out I would have told that ped exactly what I thought of her and where I think she should go. Maybe not the most adult behavior, but it sure would feel good

I'd also file a complaint with the AMA against her.

[Asiago]

To file a complaint, click on your state medical board on this page:
http://www.ama-assn.org/ama/pub/educ...l-boards.shtml
Then locate the complaint section. Good luck to you. I am sorry to hear about your experience.

[A Mom's Love]

So sorry, Mama! No doctor has the right to treat a client that way. You are her client & she serves as a medical advisor to you, never a medical dictator. Her scare tactics are despicable. So sorry you had to go through that!

[laohaire]

Awful. She has every right to believe in vaccines but that's not what this is about. It's not even just unprofessional; the contempt she showed you is inappropriate for ANY relationship, not just a professional one.

[AllieFaye]

Originally Posted by AspieMom

and then told me that I have to have DS vaccinated against Hep B because my husband is lying to me about not having sex with other people, and I probably have it.

This is grossly inappropriate. This alone is reason to report her to the medical board. You have an almost one year old. If your child had been infected at birth, you would know by now. Plus, the odds of this being true anyway are so low that the comment borders on malpractice.

[Emmeline II]

I'd file a complaint with the medical board . That is abusive behavior.

Though, if you are vaxed you could have said that your parents modeled vaccination for you, but you chose otherwise.

[mamadelbosque]

Seriously. File a complaint. That is AWFUL!!

[Arduinna]

Holy crap. Talk about unprofessional.

[caned & able]

Go in and get your records, NOW, before he doctors them up...so to say.

File a complaint with your State and county medical board against the nurse and the doctor. They made you wait and then insulted you.

You are the parent of this child. NOT them. YOU call the shots, so to say, and if your religious beliefs do not permit the vaccination of you own child, you are the parent and you have made the decision.

Find a family practitioner or naturopath or chiropractor as a primary care doctor; that is, a doctor who does not depend on WBC and vaxes for his main income.

[paquerette]

Who does she think she is, Dr. House?

[PrincessAnika]

Originally Posted by AspieMom

because my husband is lying to me about not having sex with other people

oooh its a good thing that was not our family....DH would have leveled her flat.....

ita - file a complaint. with everyone - the office, the AMA, the AAP, the hospital where this dr has privileges (all, if more than one), and anything else i cant think of right now....

[Marnica]

Originally Posted by paquerette

Who does she think she is, Dr. House?

LOL!!!

[crunchy_mommy]

YOU NEED A NEW DOCTOR!! ASAP!!!

Sadly I have heard almost the exact same comments.

You won't believe the world of difference it is now that we have a doctor more in line with our beliefs & who respects our choices! We leave appointments now feeling happy & optimistic instead of beat up, we really ENJOY seeing our doc!!

I'm so sorry you were treated that way.

[soso-lynn]

I would file a complaint.

Also, well baby checks are kind of pointless, in my opinion. Their only purpose is to vaccinate and obssess over food (when are you weaning? How much food does he eat? What percentile is he in? If he is breastfeed, he surely is anemic...). I just don't see a doctor unless there is an actual problem. Doctors are not vaccination experts, they just follow a schedule.

[PuppyFluffer]

And the medical community wonders why some educated parents are not fond of them!

[soymilk]

Yikes, this pediatrician sounds horrible. I noticed that you are in the san jose area, as I live in silicon valley also. Can you provide the name of the doctor either through a PM - I would like to avoid that practice.

[MittensKittens]

Originally Posted by paquerette

Who does she think she is, Dr. House?

LOL

And please file a complaint. This is too horrific for words! A person like this should not be a medical practitioner.

And a big to you of course. You must feel awful.

[henny penny]

So, so, unprofessional, inappropriate, mean, nasty, UGH! I'm sorry you had to listen to that. My very first ped visit alone with ds (8 weeks old, my first baby) the ped had me in tears. Now I know better, and it taught me that I will never take that abuse again and I'll just walk out in the middle of the exam if I find us in an abusive situation!