a loooonnnnng post about baby that won't nap!!!!!

[snadaska]

not sure if this should go into life with a babe or here...

anyway, i am having a lot of sleep with issues with my daughter. we cosleep which is going ok. the thing i am working on right now is getting her to nap.

she used to nap on me. this changed about 3 weeks ago when she started napping in the stroller. i would literally put her in the stroller and stroll her around my house. i felt absolutely ridiculous as dd is 7.5 months old. isn't that a bit old to have to have to stroll a baby around to get them to sleep? i don't know. i think i have been spending too much time with non ap parents who can just put their babies in their cribs and they fall asleep. no assistance and no crying. amazing. anyway back to my dd.

so a few days ago the stroller thing, to my horror, stopped working!! she will still sleep in the bob stroller when i go on my walk at 3 but the morning nap is gone. and she needs it. she cries all the time is super crabby etc. and in my sleep deprived state it is driving me mad.

so today i was trying to get her to sleep upstairs in the crib, in hte bed anywhere. she won't go to sleep. i try to walk her around. she might fall asleep but then when i put her down she is up. i have no idea what to do. its almost 1pm . she has been awake since 7 am iwht only a 15 minute nap since then (dh got her down around 820).

i am against CIO but am tempted to try. she already is crying a lot because she is so tired and i am too stressed to always stop her from crying (i know that's terrible but i get so angry i have to walk away). but realistically i cant even do CIO because anytime i leave her in her crib alone she flips onto her tummy and gets stuck there. she can only roll one way.

any tips, advice, support, anything, anyone? id really appreciate it. i know a lot of you have been through this before. i want to be a good parent and do the right thing for my baby but i have no idea what that is. i think i am going to try and walk her to sleep again

[sosurreal09]

babywhisper.com the non CIO method that works

[sgeiger]

naps

As for naps - have you tried to wear him in a carrier like the Beco? or Ergo? My son won't fall asleep like those "others" alone in their crib and is very sensitive to movement (wakes when i put him down if he is asleep in the carrier), and is very active so he can't settle down unless he's in there. but it works like a charm, and we live a frustrating-free life this way. there is no rule that says your kid MUST sleep in the crib or stroller. I get a lot done around the house while he sleeps on me. Otherwise, I'd spend a lot of time (some of it just getting angry at him for waking when I put him down, etc.) working on getting him to sleep, I'd miss out on his and my toddler's lives! This makes things peaceful, and he' seems happy. But I SO hear you, and sometimes wish I could just put him down and get on with my life ...however I'd miss lots of cuddles and he'd miss lots of kisses if it were the other way around!

AND, the baby whisperer is CIO - just more confusing! I was desperate with my first and went there, and after picking her up and putting her down 1000 times, she finally fell asleep, all the while screaming her head off, and i just cried. It was an exercise in cruelty and I vowed never to do anything like that again. My son is having even worse sleep "habits" but I manage the nighttime with nursing and cosleeping. I do hope someday to have my nights, privacy, and sleep back, but for now, it is ok. Maybe when he's older, he'll need me less.

[sosurreal09]

oh i dont do the pick up put down! i think thats torture! i do a modified shh/pat

i dont follow it like the bible lol but its helped me teach my LO independent sleep. i take what i need from it.