DD turned two in February. When she turned one a year ago, we switched to underwear/trainers full-time during the day, and she was in underwear with few or no misses from 18 months on. Still in diapers at night as we never EC'd much at night. Well, I was planning on getting on the nighttime thing when she turned two. Instead I've found us backtracking as she no longer wants me to remind her to go potty. Actually, when we talk about it she says she DOES want me to remind her, but when I ask her if she needs to go, she always says no. I try to gently encourage her with different options, but she insists she doesn't need to go. Then she pees in her pants a minute later. She was never really initiating when we were having all the success; it was mostly timing and my initiation. And I totally understand that she wants and needs more independence now. But it's so frustrating to have her wetting herself all the time, especially because she HATES it when she pees on herself! Which I do realize is a good thing. But she freaks about it and I feel bad for her. 
Anyway, I know it's normal to have a pause right before new stages, and I know she's probably close to the next stage of graduation, but I just feel very frustrated about it right. I feel like there's nothing I can do to help her. That's driving me crazy. Maybe that's what she needs--for me to let her be and let her figure it out on her own. I keep telling myself she won't still be peeing on herself when she's five. I hate the thought of her still having misses when she's three. I realize both of those ages are a long way away! But I just want this part to be over quickly...
Suggestions and encouragement welcome! I did kind of try bribery
-- not in a "you get a treat if you go potty" kind of way but more in a "what do you need to be happy with going potty" kind of way--a special toy or occasionally a treat. That doesn't work anymore at all. I've talked with her about it a lot, about how she doesn't like to pee on herself, and does she want me to remind her or does she want to take herself. I'm also thinking about taking her shopping to get some new potties--we only have one BBLP and one big toilet insert, but no step stools, so I was thinking that might help with her whole "I'm a big girl" independence thing, if she could climb onto the adult toilet herself.
Anyway, I know it's normal to have a pause right before new stages, and I know she's probably close to the next stage of graduation, but I just feel very frustrated about it right. I feel like there's nothing I can do to help her. That's driving me crazy. Maybe that's what she needs--for me to let her be and let her figure it out on her own. I keep telling myself she won't still be peeing on herself when she's five. I hate the thought of her still having misses when she's three. I realize both of those ages are a long way away! But I just want this part to be over quickly... Suggestions and encouragement welcome! I did kind of try bribery
-- not in a "you get a treat if you go potty" kind of way but more in a "what do you need to be happy with going potty" kind of way--a special toy or occasionally a treat. That doesn't work anymore at all. I've talked with her about it a lot, about how she doesn't like to pee on herself, and does she want me to remind her or does she want to take herself. I'm also thinking about taking her shopping to get some new potties--we only have one BBLP and one big toilet insert, but no step stools, so I was thinking that might help with her whole "I'm a big girl" independence thing, if she could climb onto the adult toilet herself.
