PLEASE DON"T JUDGE! Ok I'm going to try and condense a VERY long story that leads me up to this. For 10 years my 2dsd have lived with us. Through a series of events in the last year they started spending more time with their mother. Anyway in the last 6 months our soon to be 14yo sd starting acting out ALOT at her mother's home. She has had sex with a boy when her mother dropped her off at the boy's house without our knowledge (mom was doing the whole "don't tell your dad, he's so strict" thing) been in contact via cell phone provided by her mother with a 22yo man and an 18yo man and had sexual coversations via text. It is very important to state that her mother supplied her with the cell phone as we have no access to her phone records and it makes it much more difficult to monitor but you know "she has a right to privacy", and has sent nude photos of herself online to the above stated men along with several other boys at school one of which forwarded them to the whole class. SO we have sought professional councilling, she was admitted to a treatment facility for depression, and we are working towards mending her esteem. In the mean time her mother is still allowing her access to her cell phone while at her house and access to facebook and email. So my question is CAN YOU HAVE IT WRITTEN IN YOUR CUSTODY AGREEMENT SPECIFICALLY BANNING OR HAVING DETAILED RESTRICTIONS ON CELL PHONE AND INTERNET USAGE? I mean will a judge roll his eyes at this or do you think given the medical and legal records stating these occurances took place that it is a valid and legal concern? UGH.
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3/30/10 at 5:19pm