loosin it! help with 10 month old.

[conniebonnie]

hello. ever since my daugter has become mobile (around 8 months) she is sitting on the potty less and less. and less. we were doing pretty good, with only one or two misses a day, but now, she refuses to sit on the potty, unless you hold her down. and then 10 seconds later pees on the floor. or she will sit on the potty for a minute and then get off and wander off and poop in a corner. i dont know what to do. were down to 1 catch a day maybe, plus a trillion pee puddles. I dont want to just put her in a diaper, but i cannot keep this up.
any adivce?

[karika]

diaper her while you destress about it. take her to different places to potty, like the yard, bathtub, big potty, little potty, whichever is not the norm. This is a phase associated with a developmental milestone most likely. If you put a cloth dipe on her you will still know when it happens and can change her quickly. I think this will be fine for you two since you have had a very successful EC relationship it sounds like. Have you been diaper free? I also sometimes put underwear and pants on the child, this catches most of the pee. I have some size 2 panties from Walmart actually, they were dd1s but now dd2 is wearing them. sometimes I put a prefold in there too... but now it is spring, my favorite thing to do is put a dress on her with no panties and go in the backyard.... outside is my friend. dd2 has been a challenge as compared to dd1, so I know exactly how frazzling it is to have them pee right beside the potty, or stand and just start pooping.... but since you had prior success I am confident it will be back in rhythm soon, this is just a developmental temporary derail.

[theboysmama]

We went through this and it is so frustrating. I found that like a pp mentioned taking her different places in different positions helped. If I was pretty sure she needed to go and she refused the bblp then I would hold her over the toilet, the sink, outside, the potty reducer, etc. Usually she would just go realizing I wasn't going to give up.
I also put her in waterproof trainers for backup. They pull up and down very easily so it made it very easy for me to offer frequent pottytunities, they are waterproof so contain the mess if we were having an off day. Although she has been in underwear during the day since 7 months I use them at night and I still use them sometimes when she is teething and had diareah or if someone else is watching her. DD is taking herself a lot of the time now and this phase is mostly gone. (she has only been walking about 3 wks).
I purchased the trainers at www.sassycloth.com and have been really happy with them.

[averlee]

Around the same age, and when she started crawling, my daughter no longer enjoyed being pottied. I decided at that time to diaper her while continuing to read her cues, respond, offer the potty, and do the potty sign. On her 2nd birthday she started using the potty on her own and refused to be diapered ever again. Not exactly helpful, perhaps? But we started doing EC because she liked it, so when she didn't like it anymore, I let it go.

[conniebonnie]

and were back.
my mother came to visit for easter, and there were lots of misses, and lots of passive aggressive talks about why the baby didnt have a diaper on.
but really, im still feeling stressed. we have three potties, one in our bedroom, one in the play room, one in the downstairs. she hates them all. she screams, makes herself as flat and straight as a board and will not sit. or if she does, she then crawls off. and then pees on the floor.
i really dont want to give up.

[JMJ]

Not much help here, but I've been on the edge since about 9 months too. I got things back, and then DD started walking, and I lost it again. I'm just trying to keep my expectations from getting away from me and keeping my stress level down.

[tri31]

So stressful, but it sounds like what my ds went through. I would do diapers and try not to stress about it. Personally I needed to avoid disposables at this point. Your dc won't forget about potty. Or how to eat without spilling everything all over ect.. Oh boy, do I remember how up tight I was.

[BirthKathy]

My son is 11 1/2 mos. and crawling, but not walking. There was a time a few months ago when I thought he was ready for underwear, but that time is definitely not now. He's still willing to sit on the potty, but has more wet diapers than he used to. We diaper full time, and always have, so there's no stress. It's OK to use diapers! Just keep the lines of communication open.

We have a big bin of books next to each toilet, and we read to him. We've also taught him the all done sign and take him off when he uses it.

Have you tried a toilet seat reducer? That's what we use - I wonder if that helps him not try to get away!