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Originally Posted by CariOfOz View Post
I am having HUGE motivation issues mamas...
*there* you are! did you see the post i made at the end of march for you? i've been missing you like mad, sweet one. sending you some bright and happy!

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Originally Posted by Aeress View Post
It really seems like we, the collective we, need to gather together and work some magic and lighten our collective stress. *hugs* to all. Maybe we need a mini online vacation, like when we had the birthday ball?
yes, but can we do it NOW, like, before TM time? probably something warm and sunny? beach party?

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Originally Posted by wombatclay View Post
Come on TM, mama needs a new everything.
yep. so true.

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Originally Posted by gun View Post
Hi all! Sorry to have skipped out for a few days! I have been a tad busy! We have a new daughter and she is doing fab! She us 15mo and lovely!
oh, congrats!!! new home, new babe. ahhhh. i'm so so so happy for you!!!!

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Originally Posted by Valérie.Qc View Post
I hate being so in-tune with the stars/planets... I'd like to be able to do as the scientifics and ditch Pluto...
pluto is the one who breaks things so you can start fresh, yes?
so says i: "OK! i'm broken! can i start fresh now?"

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Originally Posted by mamaofthree View Post
i am not sure what i want to ask for, because when we did that before i don't feel like i was specific enough and left so much open and now we are in the middle of something that feels overwhelming and i am just so tired of it.
<nods, yep. hugs.>

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GA good friend cheered me up last night and reminded me that I have so many true friends, I don't need other friends.
i've been feeling that way 'bout you lot. <hugs>

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... I ordered a set of prayer flags from an etsy shop. I have attempted to make my own several times but they never seem to look nice.
ahhh, i should do that! remember mine from camp? they never quite seemed "finished." which ones did you get? me wanna see!!!

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Originally Posted by Maiasaura View Post
I posted in the TM thread, aweyn, but I think you ought to do a map. And I think you ought to get really "selfish" with it. ...

Call me, btw. I have something I want to ask you. Do you still have my #?

...Aww, I was missed
i saw that, hon. thank you so much for that. yep. i've kinda gone on a great big kick of deciding i'm going to be selfish.
pm me yer # and i'll call ya! when's good?
& heck yeah! i miss you when you dont post for 5 min.

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Originally Posted by Maiasaura View Post
... but it's one of those great friendships where it's like you saw each other just yesterday And now I found out she's on the TM thread
...Was thinking of having a Solstice campout in my yard, a smallish one. Do any of you live near me so I can invite you?
i saw that! so so awesome!!!
ohh, you know visiting you is on my list! soon. soon. life's too short.


~~~ i need some guidance, support, advice, wisdom, insight.... about moms.
i know we've talked about this one before, but i need a fresh take. basically, my mom's decided that she's not going to "be there" emotionally for me anymore, which, really, she's never been the most emotionally nurturing person, so it shouldnt be too much of a shock to me, except that i was really feeling like i "needed" some.... mothering... nurturing... soothing.... so her sudden denial of me is forcing me to do what i ought to have done ages ago, and (in her words) "grow up" ... and go get me some nurturing and support myself.... from ME.

~i'm looking into some flower remedies to help me, some aromatherapy... any advice in either of those areas is appreciated...
~i'll be focusing on my solar plexus, chakraly (new word, yep. gotta have it)... though i've never found a great sp stone, so any suggestions there would be loverly....
~basically, anything to help create a nourishing, nurturing environment for my self (and yes, this will be on my TM, but i'm starting NOW.).....

any and all suggestions, musings, etc, welcome!


now, let's go have a virtual holiday!!!
post #142 of 596

~virtual holiday for mopey, over-worked, under-paid, worn out, exhausted pagan wonderful goddesses~

i'm not saying we cant do one for earth day or beltaine, but we need one now, before TM!

i'm picking a nice blue-green for this one...

not everyone has the same ideas when it comes to the ideal beachy break, so the magical island resort we're going to has all sorts of options....

some of mine-- add yours!

warm, but not too hot, sunny, but with some clouds for a break, lush and green but not tooo humid......

yoga on the beach, a swim up bar in the pool, a great library to read in, thai massage, room service, a fun and vibrant bar on the beach for food and music and dancing, flowers on our pillows....

pick out swim suits, sarongs, hats, whatever suits ya!

eta: i'm wearing a yellow hibiscus in my hair. it's helping my solar plexus. ;-)

i'm going right for the mango margaritas, chips and guac.

(the resort, btw, has awesome child care......)



you all have seriously lifted me when i've needed it like never before. thank you. thank you. thank you. i wish i could take you to a real resort. or at least out for posh coffee!!!
xoxoxoxoxo
post #143 of 596
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Originally Posted by aweynsayl View Post
*there* you are! did you see the post i made at the end of march for you? i've been missing you like mad, sweet one. sending you some bright and happy!
Yep, I'm here My motivational issue seems to have even affected my keeping up on HERE.. which has been unheard of for what.. a couple of years at LEAST! Bright and happy would be nice, miss you too! Good to see you popping in so we can help you perk up a bit


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~~~ i need some guidance, support, advice, wisdom, insight.... about moms.
i know we've talked about this one before, but i need a fresh take. basically, my mom's decided that she's not going to "be there" emotionally for me anymore, which, really, she's never been the most emotionally nurturing person, so it shouldnt be too much of a shock to me, except that i was really feeling like i "needed" some.... mothering... nurturing... soothing.... so her sudden denial of me is forcing me to do what i ought to have done ages ago, and (in her words) "grow up" ... and go get me some nurturing and support myself.... from ME.
Wow.. big ole fail on mom's part. My mom was much the same, although we never discussed it really... she just didn't get into any emotional conversations or what not. She backed away. I guess I got used to that early on and it never really changed until right before she died... and then it was only a start that never really got finished. I wish I had some flash advice.. but I think that you are at least on the right track with your ideas

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now, let's go have a virtual holiday!!!
OMG I'd be SO down for that. You can have your tropical beaches I'll take a nice winter getaway myself. DH has always raved about how wonderful Queenstown NZ was (he grew up there) so I think we'd rent a holiday home on Lake Wakatipu. Lots of snuggling by a roaring fire, drinking of posh coffees and eating of comforting wintry foods!
post #144 of 596
Thread Starter 
i am all for the tropical holiday... so very done with winter. lol

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post #145 of 596
I have to get some sleep tonight. Migraine, the pain has faded with meds, but I am so tired...so this won't be as long as I would want

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Originally Posted by wombatclay View Post

huzzah huzzah huzzah huzzah huzzah huzzah to us all!
Right back at you, Clay. You're magic, you really are - hope you know that! I read your post and right after a knock at the door -- the Clarity necklace arrived in the mail. It's beautiful and I've sure been needing some of that! (And after that rather inauspicious sendoff, an arrival to the echo of your huzzahs was very lovely, indeed.)

Hugs mamaofthree, aweyn, Cari, unschooling - heck - everybody!

Hooray for little girls in fairy costumes and little girls and boys with rockin' hair!

Nothing quite sucks like feeling insufficiently mothered, aweyn, I'm so sorry. I think that's a root and heart chakra thing together.

I made a solar plexus necklace with tigers eye and citrine beads in it that I've been wearing while I do my taxes. It seems to be helping my motivation for the task, but I can't help feeling that it is just too orangy brown and there should be brighter yellows and golds?

Bright and happy to everyone!

I am *so* there for a beach party. My daughter is still in Hawaii -- someone asked if I was jealous of my daughter getting to go there, and I looked at her like she had multiple heads, because I'm actually extremely jealous of Hawaii for getting to have my dd for two weeks.....but now that I think of it....a resort with good childcare, you say, where I could have fun with friends all day and actually sleep at night with all my family under one (grass hut on the beach) roof? Wow. I'll be back for that!
post #146 of 596
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i just found a childbirth education class for nurses! yeah! i am so happy. and they have a distance program for lactation educators (something to do on your way to lactation consultant.) i am thinking i might ask my parents to pay for the class and pay them back when i can. there is a workshop in october in MA. so it is like a 2 hour drive from my house, and it is just 2 day workshop. (i have stuff to do prior to the workshop at home.) and i looked into birthing from within and i am hoping hey have something close to me next year. i might contact them and suggest maybe boston or something. feeling good.

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post #147 of 596
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Originally Posted by mamaofthree View Post
i am all for the tropical holiday... so very done with winter. lol

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Well, we've had 'summer' (for all practical intents & purposes) since the start of October... so even beautiful blue skies and warm days (ok hot as hades days lol) get old after THAT long!

I made myself a to do list for the day.. so far I did 2 loads of laundry & hung them out on the line, folded & put away towels AND undertook the ginormous task of cleaning the rat cage GEEZ three bachelor rats are about as feral as 3 bachelor men would be living together!! Still to do (with DH's help sweep & vac the floors except in the bedrooms, get laundry in/fold/put away, and work on our room a bit. Our room has gone back to feeling like a neglected storage space and I'm suspicious that it might have a bit to do with my sleep issues at the moment. Cluttered room = cluttered mind as I go to bed! I want my room to be as clean & clutter free by TM day as possible as that is where I hang my map. This years map is surrounded by crap NOT the best environment for manifesting great stuff in my life.. if I could even SEE the whole map!

It is also payday/billday... and I paid the evil power bill. And am pleasantly surprised that the budget is NOT as bad as I thought (and yep, I went down the list to make sure I missed nothing!) I have been REALLY working on my 'stinkin thinkin' about money lately.. retraining myself from stressing about it. It seems to be working as I'm less stressed, and more confident that it will all work out where $ is concerned.

I'm doing little things like shopping for groceries by the week, instead of fortnightly. I used to be worried about doing that as I was afraid there would not be any $$ for the 2nd week so I'd try to do it all at once. I've actually found I'm spending LESS this way?!?

anyway, back to my decluttering efforts! I think it's helping declutter my mind as I'm feeling a little more motivated alread
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post #149 of 596
Just flew in! After a checking in and getting changed into a cute sundress, in a beautiful muted orange, I grab my shades and head down to the dinner buffet. At the buffet there is fresh pineapple, mangos and watermelon with loaded baked taters (make your own), local grass fed beef, couscous, fresh cucumber and tomato salad, salad, bbq tofu (homemade) and loads of desserts.

Aweyn waves me over to the table where all the ladies have gathered with drinks and food.

As I walk over to the table I notice the sun is just starting to set. Maybe a midnight swim is in order?
post #150 of 596
DOK- hope he doesn't need a shot.

Aubergine- hope you are feeling better this morning!

Aweyn- no words dear, that totally sucks- my mOm is not the total squishy, comforting type but she will empathize. *hugs*

Mamaofthree- good news!

Clay- Awe, that helped to lift my spirits!
post #151 of 596
I'm all about escaping to a sunny beach NOW!

Pluto is using Mass Destruction Forces on me... I might be physically safe but will my sanity survive? And my astro friend is telling me I'm in that rocking boat till mid-july...

I hope the emotional overload will be tamed by New Moon...

Don't worry if you don't see me much; I'll be busy picking up all these jigsaw puzzle pieces I feel I've turned into.



Solar Plexus: I've used a Sun Stone - love the sparkles.
post #152 of 596
mother support: it's not that she don't want, it's that she can't. She's sick and very needy and is way too much affected by other's pain. Right now she's dealing with her nefew's pending open heart surgery (my sister's son) and in need of support herselve... she cries all day over it.

and my father have enough on his plate taking care of her 24/7...

So ya, I'm all on my own...
post #153 of 596
Oh no! Hope Roo boy is ok.... that sounds like a less than stellar landlord. Ugh. How do you feel about mirror spells? I'd so be working to bounce that attitude right back at them, but I know some people are uncomfy with that sort of working. (I'm ok with mirror stuff because it's such a basic "return to sender" thing, nothing added, no involvement on my part).

Yay! I'm sooooo glad Clarity made it safe and sound! (and thanks... I am totally blushing. it just seemed like the time to get up and dance)

Dancing- when I was working on papers during grad school I had a mix tape a friend had made of "songs that sound like clay" (meaning my personality, not 'splup splab blump" ). One of the songs was Son of a Preacher Man and every time the tape hit that song, no matter how involved I was in writing, I'd get up and dance. It was like a built in body recharge. And I realized the other day that I need something like that for my life. And if you look at this thread... we really do rock!

vacation- mmmmmmm.... just about anywhere that I can sit in a comfy chair, sip yummy drinks (mojito!), and Not. Have. to. do. Anything. That would be bliss! You know, I've even started thinking about a 'some day" disney cruise because it seems like they offer the best chance at "keep everyone happy". And before kids I thought disney cruises were a total scam. Oh how the mighty have fallen!

Today is dd1's pony ride. I hope it goes well... she has been so horse focused and I kind of want the real thing to "show well", you know? I guess I'll know tonight!

health- still a bit tender, and wouldn't you know I pulled a muscle on the other side of my belly from all the coughing? So everytime I cough now I end up completely hunched over. I can't wait for this cold to go away and stop picking on me. But it'll happen.

spring chores- it's supposed to be back below freezing this weekend, so I'm not putting any plants out. But we got a gift cert a year or so ago that I just cashed in! We're getting 4 apple trees, two cherry trees, 4 lilac bushes, 6 raspberry plants (the kind you mow down each year), and a huge pile of strawberry plants! So I need to figure out where those will go. I also planted 9 pussy willow "trees" along one of our streams in the front of the house. Then I turned over the garden beds and covered everything with garden fabric (I'm going to top the fabric with bark mulch and poke holes where I want to put plants in the hopes of having very little upkeep requirements). So I'm a bit achey from all that too!

Let's see... I have slowed down on the decluttering, but the current tally is 8 trash bags and three big boxes full of stuff to the thrift store and another 8 or 10 bags to the trash/recycling center.

kombucha- I can't stand it either! DH loves it, and I make him brush his teeth and rinse his mouth before kissing me when he's been drinking it. But then, I'm not fond of many fermented things. Beer, bread, and the now and then crunchy dill pickle are about it. I don't like slaws or other pickled "stuff" (veggie, meat, random bits). I think I'd starve on a TF diet.
post #154 of 596
After a beach-front dinner of grilled veggies and lemon sorbet, I'm gonna head off to meditate here http://lsa.uoregon.edu/lsa/pictures0...twood_fort.JPG and after I'm done in the water, I want a big 'ol book to snuggle down with, and drink an iced coffee with lemon verbena syrup. Later, dancing around a big bonfire.

Unschoolin'- adorable kiddos!

I never even heard of Kombucha until a couple months ago. The first time my sister had me try it I about died. My conversion went something like the scene in Open Season where Elliot is in the dumpster and sees a styrofoam cup of coffee and drinks it and shivers, says how gross it is, keeps drinking it, and eventually likes it. That movie cracks me up. Don't look at me! I'm a Unihorn!

Yesterday I did a bunch of decluttering. Went through sock and underwear drawers pulling out ratty stuff, then tackled the mountain of filed papers. Those are now sorted neatly, and I have a box ready to be shredded. Today: the girls room's.

DoK- I hope Roo's foot is ok and he's not in need of a tetanus shot!

Clay-woohoo for pony rides. May this one be the bomb

Less than stellar mothering- Big Hugs! I think being pushed away by a parent(more especially a Mama) is extra difficult for parents such as ourselves, because as a very caring, nurturing and involved parent, it is really hard to understand another parent choosing to not have that kind of caring and involvement. Kinda like a double-whammy.

aweyn- maybe a rose scented remedy? There are rose & jojoba eo blends, or a rose water spray? I'm getting relaxed just thinking about it

Valerie- I am so feeling Pluto lately...

Cari- more declutter motivation for ya
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while having all my money woes i have been doing some thinking on that... i was thinking about the movie the secret. i know it isn't everyones cup of tea, but is alot like doing vision boards and TM. sort of making you mentally focus on positive thoughts. my issue with money is that i feel guilty having a lot of it. like it is wrong. if i have more then i need then i am a bad person. i feel that our needs should be covered, some of our wants and a bit in savings, the rest... well i just don't get why we need so much. but i think that negative thinking has made it so i keep money away. one thing someone in the movie talked about was how if your in a relationship and all you focus on is the bad stuff, then that is all you see. if, however, you start paying attention to the good things, then suddenly that is all there is. not that much has changed just how you see it. i know the same things works for money for me. when i feel like we don't have enough, we don't. and when i feel we have enough then we do, no matter what comes up, we always have enough. for whatever reason i will keep this line of thinking for awhile and then let it slip and i start panicking again. i think for now, i am not going to apply for WIC or do the angel food thing, because i think that if i feel like we need assistance then i will live in this fear place and worry and we will just be struggling. at least that is the plan for now. i am wondering how i can make a visual representation of "enough"? something i am going to have to think about. lol

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Hello all. I have been doing a lot of thinking the past few weeks. I think it's time for me to not so much as move on, but relese you all from me. I enjoy being a part of this group, but feel like I am on the outside. It's difficult to be on the outside of a group that is on the outside I feel like I don't contribute to the over all well being of the group. I know some of you are my friends on FB. Don't worry, I will delete you all as well as disconnect from the group. I wish you nothing but the best. I hope this year is a wonderful,amazing year for you all I will not check in again so don't take me not answering as a snub. Bye
post #157 of 596
thanks for the hugs, all. i know a lot of you have mom issues, and yes, i agree, it's especially hard on such awesome and dedicated moms as on this thread. i was also thinking there's a link between that and paganism... i think we touched on that subject before... the need to feel nourished by a Mother Earth in place of a less than nourishing mother..... that might help me cope, as well.

val~oh, lady! you need a break! saw a planets mug that was very clearly missing pluto & thought of you.

saphire, rose, yes! i think i'm going to get this one. is it you that loves isis? i love this brand.

clay, you're just about killing me with that list of plantings! it's like reading a list of the dream that is dying. breathe... release.... i cant wait to see pics! but yeah, maybe lay off the plantings til you're better... although once i had a major back pain and awful migraine, and had to do massive yard work.... at the end, i was totally cured.... not that i'm advising that!

kombucha~ i *love* it! love. but can only drink it when i feel i need it. cant drink it every day. so... TF is about pickled things? man, i could totally do that. one of my friends was telling me about doing TF and losing a ton of weight. hmmm.....

aeress, i'll join you for that swim!

cari~ yeah, figured you'd be ready for cold. maybe there's one of those penguin encounters on our island, and you can hang out there....

aubergine, i keep forgetting to share this... i figured out a migraine treatment that's really been helping me a ton-- i do the eye part of the tapping, only just back and forth, with my eyes closed and my fingers pressing lightly against my eyeballs... when i start feeling one coming.... i've got rid of a couple and soothed another with that method lately.... hugs!!! and yay for perty beads.

i think today at our beach resort, i'll be hosting an anklet making workshop... shell beads and mother of pearl on super strong threads, meant to be kept on while swimming with the dolphins after....

sending great big hugs and sunshiney (or cold) vibes to all!
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redveg~ oh, hon. you posted while i was working on my reply. i totally disagree, but i do understand. i always look forward to your being around, and i feel strongly that you are a big part of what makes this thread wonderful. i know i will really miss you! i hope you find peace and joy, and will always think of you fondly!!!
post #159 of 596
RedVeg sorry to hear that. I always look forward to reading what you have to say.

Wow a virtual vacation and I almost missed it! Last week when we had the Easter Egg hunt I slipped. Details irrelevant, but a 6" fall on my elbow resulted in 2 chiropractic visits, a doctor's visit and the diagnosis of a "jammed shoulder". Ouch. I'm finally able to type a few minutes here and there, but still on pain meds and yeah, not fun.

Met with a group I've been assembling for the nature center yesterday. Plans are coming along well, and after a lot of thought and meditation, the educational center has had a focus shift. While it will still offer everything we planned prior, the focus will be as an educational and spirituality center. It feels like the right thing to do.

Was in the 70's last week. Woke up to 5" of snow today. Will be 50 degrees and melted off by tomorrow. I was saying that I wasn't quite finished with snow yet this year, so it's the perfect birthday present!

Ok that's about all I can type right now. Been reading along. Best to all.
post #160 of 596
Signs of spring -- warm today, sunny this morning. I cannot be outside enough to satisfy the toddlers!

My ds2 has been complaining about having the home child care littles around, saying he doesn't like babies, for months now. But lately he has been snuggling up to me and whispering a lullaby as I rock them to sleep. Today, he said "Mom, I just want to look at her for a while!" and spent a while peering over the edge of the playpen at the sleeping baby sweetness after I put the last one down. A nurturing side I didn't think my little guy had in him Makes cleaning lasagne-thrown-by-toddler stains off the floor and walls worthwhile. Almost. No, *definately* worthwhile

Will miss you and your posts, probably more than you know, redveg I wish I were more like you in many ways. I understand about needing to step away from online communities -- been through that too. Hope you find your way back sometime soon!

DoK -- Awful about the cut/scrape and the dangers around your apartment. How is Roo doing today?

Aw Valérie, what a lot to deal with! and thoughts of strength and collectedness and not-feeling-all-on-your-own to you, thoughts of healing to your nephew and mom.

Cari - at your bachelor rats. You go, decluttering goddess! You go, goddess of being-in-charge-of-your-budget! You are inspiring me, as I sit on the couch and do as little as possible.



And don't get me started on all you got going on, Clay. All those bags of declutter! That is some major yardwork for someone with three littles! Glad you are feeling better. There is a similar stomach bug going around here with some severe cramping associated with it.

Tainted Love is my "must dance" song.

Hope your shoulder is better, Sunshine.

Headache still bothering, thanks for asking, Karen. Will try the tapping routine you suggest aweyn. Thanks!

Can't keep track of where you posted this, Maia, but I love the idea of doing a treasure map in an open circle/sacred space. Thinking about this.

I want the Easter money bunny to come visit me, too. Also that extremely cute package delivery person from Canada Post that delivered 2 packages to my preschool and one to me yesterday and one my next-door neighbor just now. Anyone want to send me some bulky mail? How cliche, to have a crush on the mailman Must be the headache remedies getting to me.

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Originally Posted by mamaofthree View Post
while having all my money woes i have been doing some thinking on that... i was thinking about the movie the secret. i know it isn't everyones cup of tea, but is alot like doing vision boards and TM. sort of making you mentally focus on positive thoughts. my issue with money is that i feel guilty having a lot of it. like it is wrong. if i have more then i need then i am a bad person. i feel that our needs should be covered, some of our wants and a bit in savings, the rest... well i just don't get why we need so much. but i think that negative thinking has made it so i keep money away
Well, it is all connected to the Law of Attraction stuff, isn't it?

I have issues with money, too. My specific thing is fear that one must pay karmically or otherwise for windfalls/abundance. Like, getting a legacy but you have to lose someone you love to do so. Or using up all your luck getting that great high-paying job and then something bad happens to someone you love....I hate that I think like this, am working on it.
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