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post #21 of 56


Ds#1 is in his 3rd year in college. He has done some travelling overseas, so will be on the five year plan.

We'll see him for two weeks after finals, but then he goes back to the school. He took a job there this summer.

We miss him a lot, but it's really wonderful to go visit and see him living in an apartment, taking care of himself and managing just fine.

Skype is great! We don't use it as much now, but when he was doing a semester abroad, it was a really nice way to stay in touch.

Yes, the time does go by so quickly.

Ds#2 is close to finishing up his freshman year in highschool and I am trying to keep in mind that these next few years with him will fly by, too.

Good luck!
post #22 of 56
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My fingers are crossed for him and for you!
It has turned into a very ugly situation, unfortunately. And it's going to go down to the wire.
post #23 of 56
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It has turned into a very ugly situation, unfortunately. And it's going to go down to the wire.
So sorry to hear this . . . it's such a difficult, stressful time even with everyone on the same side. I'll be thinking of you both.
post #24 of 56
Well... it's been a difficult week here. Long story short, #1 was told he could go to his Dad's choice with his support (LOL he has a free ride there), or to his own choice and be on his own. There were other, very unsupportive and hurtful things said to #1. He has said that, while he is going to give it a few more days (he has one final visit to one of the schools on Monday), but he is pretty sure that he will commit to HIS choice. I support him 100%, regardless of which school he chooses.
post #25 of 56
mtiger so sorry for the stress your dc has to weather on top of making this huge decision. Bet your support means the world! We're all on the same side re school decisions here -- i.e. the kid gets to pick -- and it's still a wild ride. Our younger one's a junior now, so it hasn't really ramped up yet, but we're stopping in at a college fair tomorrow. Good luck to your son this week!
post #26 of 56
My son is officially a TU Owl! Much excitement and giddiness here.
post #27 of 56
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That is wonderful...that was his first choice? Good for both of you!!!
post #28 of 56
Congratulations mtiger's DS!

Just got back from a college fair w/our h.s. junior. My head is spinning . . .
post #29 of 56
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That is wonderful...that was his first choice? Good for both of you!!!
Yes, it was. He's excited, I'm excited, and my daughter can't wait to go visit him to play in the City together!
post #30 of 56
Don't you love when our kids pick fun places to live so we could go visit?

Looks like we really are doing an empty-nest dry run this summer. DS1 seems to have lined up a rental out where he's at school and will start job-hunting once finals are done. And DS2 is away at a program for six weeks. Now if I found a summer camp for my dog . . .

How about the rest of your college age kids? Do they tend to come back home, or are they staying near school / traveling? And high schoolers . . . any of them away for long stretches over vacation?
post #31 of 56
Both of mine will be home this summer (although my son is ready to move to Philly *today*!). They usually spend part of the summer with their Dad, but I gather that is not happening for reasons that I won't go into. #1 will spend the summer working and getting ready for August. #2 plans to work and play field hockey.
post #32 of 56
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We miss him a lot, but it's really wonderful to go visit and see him living in an apartment, taking care of himself and managing just fine.


Exactly!!! DS1 just moved himself out of his dorm and into an off-campus rental. DH and I just realized that we were around 40 the first time we did a move on our own (he was active duty military). It's great to see our kids doing what we hadn't done, and to see them doing it well. No help from us other than moral support, either, because he's on the opposite end of the country.

The visits are our next big thing . . . DS2 is just finishing junior year h.s. and will be away until August. After school starts it's college shopping, so we're trying to plan those trips as well as visits to DS1 for all of us. Some of them will overlap for DS2, because he's looking at schools in that area as well. My head is spinning.
post #33 of 56
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I know what you mean about your head spinning. It's so amazing making our way into this next phase of life. I can't believe that at the end of this summer, which is sure to FLY by, my DD1 will be away at college! Anything that we should do to prepare that I have not thought of yet? She pretty much runs her own schedule, does her laundry, etc. already. Does anyone have any good hindsight advice?!

TIA!
post #34 of 56
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I know what you mean about your head spinning. It's so amazing making our way into this next phase of life. I can't believe that at the end of this summer, which is sure to FLY by, my DD1 will be away at college! Anything that we should do to prepare that I have not thought of yet? She pretty much runs her own schedule, does her laundry, etc. already. Does anyone have any good hindsight advice?!

TIA!
If there's air travel involved, I'd make arrangements as soon as you can. They get so busy during school that maybe you can talk about it now -- i.e. once you get dates, will she mind if you just go ahead and present her with a done deal, or does she want to book things herself?

The other thing I'd do ahead of time if possible is get poster adhesive ahead of time! If your DD wants to decorate at all, I hear the stuff is great. DS is very very spare, so he never used it, but it was hard to find on campus and I ended up having to mail it from home after orientation week.

Wow. Those are pretty opposite extremes of "importance." That's what it's like, though.
post #35 of 56
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Thanks!

Well we are through graduation and party and everything, now it's just on to prepare for the start of college. I am happy about the change but will miss having her here!
post #36 of 56
I would make sure she has some basic tools (screwdrivers, pliers, hammer), extension cords and at least one power strip, a first aid kit, a basic toiletries kit - including birth control for her AND him.
post #37 of 56
Oh! And a sewing kit, and an ACLU card -- a "bust card."

http://www.aclu.org/racial-justice/k...ights-bustcard
(there's a link to download a print-and-fold version you can fit in your wallet)
post #38 of 56
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Well we are in the throes of getting stuff and packing. I can't believe it! How can time possibly go so fast?!

How is everyone else doing with this transition?
post #39 of 56
We started shopping today. It's all very exciting.
post #40 of 56
Some odds and ends that made our lives easier:

Consider arranging your DC's access to a credit card, and / or figure out what banking will be best.

Stock up on flat rate boxes from the Post Office -- the other day I sent one for around $15 that would have been $24 Priority.

I found it helpful to test-drive video chat software ahead of time. DS1 used skype throughout the school year, video and audio, and then went over to its IM feature once he moved off-campus (our voices carry throughout the house he's living in now, so he wanted the privacy).

Check cell phone plans and consider adding unlimited texting if you don't have it now.

Program some key phone numbers at school into your phones: Campus Security, Health / Counseling, RA(s), even local 24/7 drop-in clinics. Perhaps get local physician info if your child has health issues that need to be followed closely.

DS2 is a high school senior this year, so I'm taking a slow deep breath and gearing up for the coming roller coaster ride. I don't know that perspective from having done it already helps me!

Happy shopping and planning!
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