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post #21 of 49
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post #22 of 49
I need some encouragement...

Griffin isn't happy in anybody else's arms. Seriously. You look at him and he looks around to find me. You try to hold him and he cries...until he's back in my arms. Needless to say, the kid has "attachment" down to a science. This crying/upset bit happens when my husband holds him too. He's a mama's boy. 100%. And he's with me all.the.time. when I'm working/with friends/etc.

Ok, at the end of the month I have to work *without him* for around 6 hours. My husband will be with him and he will cry. More than likely the entire time. He won't take a bottle yet (I pumped this past weekend and only tried once, but will keep trying until the day I leave him here).

I'm totally sad about the thought of him crying so long. And being hungry. And my husband gets overwhelmed with the crying. UGH!

I have two weeks to make this work. Help!
post #23 of 49
Has your dh tried draping a dirty T-shirt of YOURS over his shoulder for your boy?
post #24 of 49
AfricanQueen - sometimes I find that the children are more attached when dad is supposed to be taking care of them, but I'm still around...

...is the separation as bad if you are out of the house?

No helpful advice here...sorry.
post #25 of 49
I haven't been out of his reach since birth. *hides* Of course I didn't have this issue with my daughter since I was preparing her for my return to work - which ended up not really happening.
post #26 of 49
Rory is 2 months old now, 10 lbs and 12 oz. Despite the fact that weight and length wise she is a peanut, she is SOLIDLY in 3-6 months and probably will be in 6-9 months very soon. I am also considering a move to size 3 diapers (yes, we are using sposies this time ) because the 2s are getting really short on her.

We just had pictures taken:

http://bit.ly/aRXKD7

I haven't really talked about this to anyone yet but she has an appointment with a pediatric ophthalmologist in May. We aren't exactly sure what the problem is, but she has some sort of fleshy growth in the corner of her left eye that has been there since birth. It is inside of her eyelid and covers the white of her eye. I am optimistic that it is not a serious problem and hopeful that it does not require any type of surgery at this early age. While dh is hoping it is something that CAN be removed, I am hoping that it is something that can be left alone!!

AfricanQueen--are YOU the one trying to give him the bottle? I don't have a lot of advice since I have never really been able to leave my babies, and not being able to express much milk is a huge part of that. But I know that none of my kids have ever taken a bottle from me, or while I was visible in the home. Dh used to try in another part of the house while I was taking a shower, and that was the most successful. And the few times it came down to it and he was with a sitter and hungry, he would take it.

I am not even going to try pumping this time. It is so stressful and depressing to me when I pump and pump and get not even a half oz. I guess dd and I will be a package deal for quite some time...
post #27 of 49
So cute!
post #28 of 49

Laura at 2 months

She is a stunning baby. I've heard her laugh twice. She is a dream baby like her brother too, but still different personality. At her 2 month appt, we forwent vaccines and she is 10.13oz. Such a big girl to me.

Thankfully, bottles went soooo much easier than her big brother. Turned out big brother didn't want breastmilk in a bottle--it had nothing to do with nipple confusion--thankfully we weaned him onto breastmilk in a bottle from formula (no flaming).

Life is good; Dad is adjusting to her nicely, but I don't think I spend enough time with the kids.
post #29 of 49
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Angela, my oldest daughter was like that. It was agonizing to leave her knowing that both she AND DH would be unhappy, likely for hours. It wasn't awful every day, but it was pretty tough. It improved verrrry slowly and she did fine with someone else around 8 months.

post #30 of 49
StrawberryFields - yes, *I* am trying with the bottles as my husband travels for work a lot. I know it isn't ideal, but it's all I got right now. He'll be home this weekend so I'll have him give it a shot while I run to the store or something with our oldest.

Lauren - I think I'm most concerned about my husband's mental state with the crying for hours. He doesn't handle that aspect very well.

I pumped 8 ounces out of one breast (freaking dairy cow - it took 7 minutes) on Sunday to try with Griffin. Since he isn't taking any of it I have to dump it. God, pouring out BM is like a mind kill, isn't it?!

Hey, maybe it will go better than I think. Hopefully.
post #31 of 49
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Angela, my oldest daughter was like that. It was agonizing to leave her knowing that both she AND DH would be unhappy, likely for hours. It wasn't awful every day, but it was pretty tough. It improved verrrry slowly and she did fine with someone else around 8 months.

this was my first born...it was so hard to function at times.

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Lauren - I think I'm most concerned about my husband's mental state with the crying for hours. He doesn't handle that aspect very well.

I pumped 8 ounces out of one breast (freaking dairy cow - it took 7 minutes) on Sunday to try with Griffin. Since he isn't taking any of it I have to dump it. God, pouring out BM is like a mind kill, isn't it?!
you could do something like milk share or donate to a milk bank.
my DH doesn't handle crying well at all. It makes him very upset. zI told him that it wasn't anything he was doing, but just te baby being a toot



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the blocked tearduct we've been struggling with (constanly cleaning the goop, worrying about it impairing DS's developing vision) is finally cleared up on it's own. Just out of the blue. Yaaay!!!! Now DS looks so bright eyed all the time.
we had this too. it is nice when they can see clearly.
post #32 of 49
^^^ I have a thread on milkshare to donate, but haven't heard back. I'm not holding my breath though as I am on medication and I get that not everybody would be willing to take that risk. Luckily, I got to donate a full year after having my daughter. Milk for all!
post #33 of 49
This past week I registered my second child for kindergarten! She will be 5 in August. Just hard to believe I will have 2 in elementary school next fall and a baby at home.

Marissa is such a dream baby! She was laying under her play gym contentedly smiling and batting at toys for over an hour the last couple of evenings while I got her older siblings to bed, took a shower, and did some laundry! My other two NEVER did that at this age! She is so happy and mellow most of the time too, just a joy to have around. Another thing she does that the other two did not is sleep too, LOL. Only 1 wakeup time per night...vast improvement over her brother who was still up about 3 times a night at this age. Little sweetie is sleeping on my lap right now.
post #34 of 49
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See, that is precisely why I would not rely on any method of birth control that may or may not depend on the appetite of a baby. Too difficult to regulate and who wants to route for their baby sleeping LESS?
I agree. We were relying on this method up until this last Thursday when I finally got the Mirena inserted. Ela still nurses every 2-3 hours MOST nights, but DH and I were dtd 3 or 4 times a week and I just started getting too worried about it. We ABSOLUTELY can not have another right now, so IUD it is. So far so good, but it's been in for less than a week.

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... I looked and saw one of my nursing tanks from the dirty laundry basket over her shoulder and under Emily's chin...apparently the SECOND she smelled my "smell" she calmed right down and was her usual smilely self.
OMG that is so adorable, I teared up. I might try that trick when I have to go back to work in 3 weeks. She might not need it though because she and DH get plenty of time together and she's just as comfortable with him as she is with me. In fact, on the days when DH works I swear she KNOWS shen he's about to come home because she gets kind of fussy and impatient, and then he comes home and holds her against his chest while walking around the apartment until she falls asleep. Adorable.

I'm nervous about returning to work. I have to call WIC this week and see about getting a pump, and I'm hoping that I don't encounter any problems with that. DH and I are going to arrange our schedules so that Ela is home with one of us while the other is working, which helps. It might mean that I get to see less of DH, which will be tough, but we'll make it work

As for right now, things are going really well. Ela is a doll and just "talks" up a storm. The other day we were out and about almost all day and she sleeps like a log in the sling, so by the time we got settled in at home I felt like I missed her, even though I was wearing her all day. She's 10 weeks now and getting bigger every day. Over 13lbs and 24 inches long.

She sleeps really well in our bed. Even on the nights when she eats every 2-3 hours we all sleep really well. Side-lying nursing is a godsend.

I'm a little frustrated with my weight. I've been going back to the gym for the past 3 weeks and have seen very little movement on the scale. I had to take a break this weekend on Dr's orders after the IUD insertion, but I got back at it yesterday and plan to go 5X a week until leave is up. I've dropped a pants size and can now squeeze into a size 6, but the scale is being stubborn. I remember when all I had to do was think about losing weight and it fell off. Ugh.
post #35 of 49
Micah rolled over today! I was just talking to my friend (whose baby is 3 1/2 weeks younger than Micah) this morning about how he hasn't done it yet, but it's not supposed to be a concern, etc., and that if they're quick to do stuff, it's not necessarily good (or bad) and how Micah hates tummy time. Her baby will be on his tummy for 5-10 minutes. Micah gets fed up after 30 seconds or a minute. So I decided to put him on his tummy, and he started flopping his head over. So I showed him how to roll over (rolled him over once; thought he wouldn't be able to do it cuz his "big butt" cloth diaper lol), and then put him back on his belly. Immediately he did it! And I put him on his belly again and he rolled again! Rinse & repeat about 5 times. Looks like he won't do belly time anymore. lol He also was raising his head really well compared to last week. Even though he's my third, I never thought I'd be so excited about it. lol Just wanted to share.
post #36 of 49
Sasha has been doing belly to back roll as well, although sometimes he still likes to be on his tummy for a while. He is also starting to laugh. Overall we're doing well, although I threw out my back a couple of days ago and now it really hurts. I still want to wear him, sigh... so I'm sure I'm not helping it heal.
We're going to our first mama and baby yoga today - so I'm hoping to get some gentle stretches in. Sigh...
post #37 of 49
I hate reflux
post #38 of 49
Rollers already? Wow! My kid is a freaking lump...I don't plan on him rolling until Kindergarten.

Mary - You willing to try a chiro for Liam? It seriously worked for my daughter.
post #39 of 49
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Mary - You willing to try a chiro for Liam? It seriously worked for my daughter.
I would do it but our insurance doesn't cover chiro at all. I'm going to check into again though. Maybe my chiro would give a discount or something for an infant.
post #40 of 49
Skylar has also rolled front to back but only a couple of times...and not back to front yet. She's really close though and her head control is getting really strong. She liked tummy time when she was younger but hates it now. She'll be 16 weeks tomorrow!! Where oh where has the time gone?!

She has gained weight really well this month (almost 2 pounds) compared with just under 1 pound last month so I'm happy about that and not as concerned as I was. I have tried pumping a couple of times to see if she would take a bottle if absolutely necessary and she did take it from DP once so at least we know if I have an appointment or HAVE to be away for more than an hour that DP can feed her. I will try and pump enough for a few feedings and store it in the freezer. I haven't been away from her for longer than an hour yet and am actually scared to leave her....not because she'll freak out without me there but because I'm afraid I will miss her too much or feel too guilty about being away from her.
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