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post #141 of 815
Okay, mamas, I'm going to post what's going on and then catch up on your posts and then report my (very little but some) FM.

First, I need a dingo hug. I haven't cried yet, but I'm about to bawl for the first time just reporting it here. Short story, a close cousin died Easter morning. Part of the short version, her daughter - and one of my closest friends - gave birth to twins 3 days earlier and called me knowing her mom was about to die and asked if I could come hold/help watch babies so she could be with her mom. I packed to go and boom, her mom died and I didn't make it. I spent the next 24 hours holding/burping/cleaning/helping an extremely distraught new mother who admitted to me she's just beyond coping and needs to cry but can't. Long Story (skip if you'd like). Do any of you remember my Winter of Discontent :-) in upstate NY? I house/dog-sat outside of Boston for almost a month while they honeymooned in Africa. She's in her upper 30s and has been trying to get pregnant with lots of professional help in Boston but is total natural mother kind of chick. Lots of tears, injections, several miscarriages, she finally had babies that stayed in. Healthy twins. Against everyone's wishes, she planned on everything natural, no-med birth, etc. We spent last Thanksgiving together with her mom, too, and everyone was fine, though her mom had an annoying cough but was her usual awesome self. After T-giving, she had the cough checked, then mentioned a by-the-way pain in her hip. They checked it out and she had full-body cancer, as in too much to even do chemo, too much to treat, and so much they couldn't even tell her where it began. Basically, it was just: you're about to die so get your ducks in a row. So this diagnosis came in January. They thought she might live 6 months at the most. We all live in Texas but her daughter, my friend, lives in Concord, Mass. At 34 weeks pregnant, and with no one's permission, she rounded up women who flew to her side and alternated driving her down to see her mom before she died. She went straight to MDAnderson Cancer Center in Houston, saw her mom, found on ob/gyn and told her she might deliver any day. They release her mom to Hospice in Waco, Tx, giving her 3 weeks to live. Everyone believes she is holding out for the babies and people are pressuring Sus to have them by c-section so mom can go. She insists on waiting until they are ready and keeping them as long as possible and her mom waits in pain for babies to be born. March 31, at 38 weeks, she goes into labor and delivers both naturally with yet a different doctor and different doula. They are healthy, latch on and nurse beautifully. But, their twins, you know? So she's not sleeping at all. She gets the sense her mom is going to die and e-mails me to come immediately and before I can even finish packing, she's gone. Right at the beginning of Easter service. To make matters more difficult, she has had to bounce around between houses. Can you imagine moving and living out of your suitcase with a newborn? with twins? and your mom has died? She's staying in a relative's available apartment now and we come and go. I finally was able to get there and help and maybe with the peace that the babies were fine, I heard her begin to finally let it all out, screaming, in her bath. Her mom was a Director of a Children's Museum. She lived for kids and lived for the day she could be a grandmother and in the meantime had numerous children who flocked to her, mine included. She also headed up the children's activities at every gathering with huge bins of stuff for them to do. And Sus needs her mom desperately. Her (rather new) step-dad has the house and she's not comfortable there so she's returning by car, with another entourage of women helping, back to Mass this weekend. They will once again drive without stopping, I think. Relatives are enouraging her to formula feed the baby, let them cry it out at night, anything to let Sus sleep and she is trying to maintain her strength to continue nursing the 5-day-old twins in spite of it all. She probably hasn't slept since they were born for more than 1 hour and looks extremely anemic right now. She's vegetarian and there aren't good food choices around here. She's an awesome, strong woman. She ran the NY (or was it Boston) marathon not too long ago and rock climbs all over the world. She was part of a crew who went with one of our cousins to Nepal several years ago. So she's tough. But no matter how tough you, giving birth to twins 3000 miles away from your home to be with your mom as she dies requires something beyond tough, I think. How is it that this happens in life. And in a cruel twist of fate, about 3 weeks ago, her father's intestines ruptured and he got some infections and has been in a coma for 3 weeks now. Can I cry now?

I've been fitting in bits of yoga for my own sanity while I hover around without hovering too much to be available. My dh has taken off work to be totally in charge of our kids so I am free to help. I had hoped to get in a run today and still might if I don't fall asleep after my crying jag. Thanks for listening. I know you have your own stories, too. I will catch up now.

to the Dingoes!
post #142 of 815
Oh, Lofty, many to your friend/cousin and to you. What an unbelievably hard and sad story. Bless you for being there to help her out.
post #143 of 815
Lofty, no words. 2

Sending love, light, peace, and prayers her (and your) way.
post #144 of 815
Oh wow. Lofty...just, wow. I don't even have words.
post #145 of 815
Standardized tests, and schools not meeting kids' needs. 'nuf said.

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Bec, did a part of your post get cut off... what might the leg thing be?
No, not part of the post, just part of my brain. My calf has been sore, sore, sore since the half a little over a week ago, and I'm worried it will need something more than the icing, massage, stretching, icing, etc. that I've been giving it! I think I may have had a little breakthrough today, though, as a long swim and sitting in the whirl pool letting a jet beat it to a pulp seems to have made a big difference.

Lofty - Oh mama, how hard. What a way to start out motherhood! I wish her and her babes strength, peace, and each other. So sad.

FMR: I swam for over 1.75 miles! 60 laps (35 laps = 1 mile). I had certainly meant to do 70, and had it in me, but there was an aqua class that was starting, so I had to get out. A little aggravating, but there it is. I just had 500 meters to go, and I know I had that in me. It felt really good. It felt like long runs used to feel before I lost my mojo. Maybe it will be back for Thursday's 15!
post #146 of 815
lofty to you and all around you.
post #147 of 815
oh, lofty, just heartbreaking,
post #148 of 815
of lofty

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Molly is RP's sister.
my worst nightmare . . .

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Oh my gosh, can I just vent for a minute? Without getting into specifics (because this is not a place for politics or activism) the whole emphasis on standardized testing as a way to measure academic 'achievement' just makes me . Not only are the tests obviously biased, and a very poor mode of measurement by any standard, but they absolutely cripple real learning and crush any intellectual curiosity or development of critical analysis skills of kids/students. And making teachers' pay dependent on standardized test scores is a sure way to push a lot of teachers right out the door.
sing it!

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I'm a little behind, but just popping in to sub and say that I just registered for the 2011 Disneyworld Half. Is there a nail biting smiley? I guess this one captures it too...
woot!
post #149 of 815
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I'm a little behind, but just popping in to sub and say that I just registered for the 2011 Disneyworld Half. Is there a nail biting smiley? I guess this one captures it too...
Good For You--I am dreaming of doing the Princess 1/2--As soon as DH gets a job I want to sign up (trying to positive and not saying if dh ever gets a job)

Lofty that is a heartbreaker.

Looking forward to my run tomorrow.
post #150 of 815
to both you and your friend, Lofty. I can't imagine. Make sure she's watched very closely for PPD- the exhaustion, the trauma, the multiples can all contribute.

I have had a crazy day, but one that included FM. Woke up to a text that a client of my academic preceptor's was in labor, and could I come as mom had a history of 10+ lb babies and sticky shoulders. Got the kids ready, arranged for dh to drive carpool, got another call that she was only 5. Took the kids to school myself, drove to Seattle to do a postpartum visit, drove home, went to the gym to kill time....more on this in a moment.

Finished at the gym, decided to drive home to shower, stopped at the dry cleaner to pick up my shortened new jeans, was almost home when I got the call that she was feeling pushy. Swung into the house to at least take off the super sweaty spandex, was completely nekkid when the phone rang again...in the course of 5 minutes she had gone from "feeling pushy" to "holding her baby". Eleven pound baby girl, attended by only the midwifery student left to labor sit, not a stitch required. Some women really know how to get a baby out! So, called back the doula consult client, headed to her house, stopped by the tattoo studio on the way home to discuss Friday's ink, and am now finally back. Phew!

My FM today: Started off with a planned 30 minutes of hills on the spin bike, felt so good I kept going and made it 45. Got off and my legs felt great, so I decided to jump on the treadmill for a bit........and it was effortless. My legs felt fresh, evenly balanced, fast. No calf cramp, no IT tightness, no shin splints. Just legs that felt like the could run forever. Ended up doing 25 minutes of speed work, with the resulting run coming in at an under 10 minute mile pace. Ummmm, what the hell? Does it take a full on workout on the bike to get me warmed up to run? The way this felt made me think I'd really like a tri, that's for sure! Anyhoo, I cut myself short because I want a real run tomorrow and didn't want to press my luck.

And now I'm going to attempt to make dinner.
post #151 of 815
Lofty How awful!

I just found out we're going to have to put our dog down, after all. Animal control is mandating they euthanize all the animals that were in the shelter at the same time as the infected dogs. Just yuck. Anyway, they will test her for rabies afterwards and then we will see if we need to get vaccinated or not.
I am just not sure what to tell the kids now... We had talked about it, and then we were given the all clear by the public health dept. Ugh. I have to take her in tomorrow morning.
post #152 of 815
Oh, Lofty, I'm so sorry. What a mama your cousin is, and what a mama she must have had, to give her that strength. Holding you all in prayer.

We managed another day, here. I'm putting off my plans for a marathon in July because my running mama friend is injured - she's pretty sure she can come through it to do a half, and is feeling bad because we're scaling down, but I'm really happy she can still run. I can do a full in September, if I feel like it, and a half is not daunting at this point, so - it's all good.

Work, sigh. No RR today, but I'm hoping to do a quick few on the TM tomorrow morning.

eta, we cross-posted, Nemesis, I'm so sorry.
post #153 of 815
Lofty, in all that sorrow, she is lucky to have a cousin who clearly loves her and honors her as you do. I'm so sorry.

Nemesis, That's so sad. I'm sorry.

Not that a funny story will cheer you, but I was on the TM today when I was overcome with the smell of BO. Like, I was about gagging. Getting secretly mad at the woman next to me. Guess who was actually stinky?
post #154 of 815
Nemesis, I am so sorry
post #155 of 815
Lofty:

Nemesis: oh no!!!!!

RR: spent 2 hours grocery shopping with ds3 (5yo), did 20 minute super work out, ran around neighborhood with yorkie and ds3 on his bike, stopped at home for water, ran/walked around neighborhood again with ds3 running/walking and yorkie. Came home, played catch with ds3 in yard, showered, did yoga in yard, took yorkie to vet for check up, to school playground to walk yorkie and ds3 around for half hour, then hike in connecting park up and down hills for half hour. Bring kids home and do homework, put away more groceries, call my dad, take dsd to work and attend school meeting for an hour. If that didn't burn calories, I don't know what will!!
post #156 of 815
lofty.

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Ummmm, what the hell? Does it take a full on workout on the bike to get me warmed up to run?
Whew, I'm glad your leg was feeling better. And yes, I find I need about 20 minutes minimum to warm up. So for speed workouts, we've taken to running a slowish 2 miles before starting, and even then, we don't feel warm.

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Not that a funny story will cheer you, but I was on the TM today when I was overcome with the smell of BO. Like, I was about gagging. Getting secretly mad at the woman next to me. Guess who was actually stinky?
I'm on day 3 of the same running shorts and bra. I rinse the bra in the shower, but still, for the sake of my RPs, I'm glad I run outside.

We've been mixing up the running workouts more lately. Speed work at the track Sunday, sprint ahead of the thunderstorm blowing in at 30 mph last night, Stretch the gossip muscles tonight (actually, very pleasant chat about teaching kids to sing rounds.)

: The principal is retiring. DH sez: sometimes the unknown is better than the known.
post #157 of 815
Oh, lofty and nemesis. Major and to you both. How heartbreaking, on all accounts. to all.

eks~Woot!

bec~Wow. I was feeling pretty good about my swim today, and then you go and post that.

jo~


Argh. I finally got around to making the tomato sauce today that I've had all the ingredients for over a week (including having to buy more basil b/c I didn't use it in time). I made it this morning, but it needed to simmer awhile, so I just turned it down really low while I took DS to school. Came back and it was barely warm, so I cranked it up to bring it back to a simmer and proceeded to get completely distracted and burned it. Double batch. I went ahead and finished it in hopes that maybe if I use it *in* things rather than as a standalone sauce that the singed taste won't be as noticeable.

I'm in the middle of the 17 loads of laundry I need to do before we fly out tomorrow (because, of course, you ladies know how I roll...why bother doing yesterday what I can wait till the last minute to do? ). And trying to figure out if I can either a) cram everything the two of us need for 5 days into one large suitcase or b) manage to haul a rollaboard suitcase, diaper bag, laptop bag, carseat, and kid through the airport without losing my sanity so I don't have to pay to check 2 bags. Taking DS *seemed* like a good idea when I booked the tickets.

rr~2000 yds in the pool. Which sounded more impressive before bec dropped her nearly 2 miles. I'm taking my running shoes with me, but don't really expect to have too many opportunities to use them. I'll be ecstatic if I get 2 runs in. Oh well.
post #158 of 815
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lofty how awful!

I just found out we're going to have to put our dog down, after all. Animal control is mandating they euthanize all the animals that were in the shelter at the same time as the infected dogs. just yuck. Anyway, they will test her for rabies afterwards and then we will see if we need to get vaccinated or not.
I am just not sure what to tell the kids now... We had talked about it, and then we were given the all clear by the public health dept. Ugh. I have to take her in tomorrow morning.
post #159 of 815
Lofty--I'm so very sorry about your cousin. I'm glad she got to see her mom before she died, and that her twins are healthy. I know I don't really know any of you in real life and that your cousin probably has lots of support from friends at home, but I'm in Littleton, just a couple of towns over from Concord. If she should ever need anything, even just someone to hold babies for a bit on a weekend so she can rest for five minutes, think of me and send a message. I know some people have more help than others and some people don't know how to ask. And I do so love to hold babies.

Nemesis--I'm so sorry about your new puppy. You all must be so devastated; I hope your kids are okay. I'm thinking of you.

Mel38--I'm glad you're getting answers on your knee issue. I hope it's something relatively easily fixed.

EagleVoice--Hooray for getting back to running! I'm always so mad when a non-running-related injury sidetracks my running. It feels good to get back to it.

Nic--I'm so glad I got out of teaching before standardized testing swept the country. It's terrible to be trapped by the test, instead of having freedom to explore the things you want, for the amount of time you want.

No running for me today; it felt really good to sleep. And, of course, I made the mistake of thinking. Don't think, man! Don't! Today is playgroup day for us and we had plans to meet at a park, since the weather was supposed to be nice. I offered to be the backup location, but weather.com said all should be clear until about 4:00. So I put DD on the bus at 8:24 and then raked for three straight hours. I got totally gross and sweaty and figured I'd get DD off the bus and then shower while she and DS ate lunch, then skip off to the park.

At 11:25 it started to rain. I need to head to the bus at 11:35. People will be arriving at my house between 1 and 1:30. Nothing is clean, I haven't showered, and I don't have snacks or cream for coffee. One of my friends won't use my fake cream and I always tease her that when I know she's coming I have to run out to buy the real stuff. I don't know if she believes that's really true. It was a hectic hour, getting ready to host.

All went well and I love seeing my mom-friends, but I stress out too much about having a clean house and carefully diced fruit and the right coffee stuff. Because I've known these women for five years and none of them care. I'm just being dumb and perfectionist and ridiculous.

Tomorrow is supposed to be gorgeous here--85 degrees and sunny. Hooray! Finally! I definitely can't resist running in that. And then raking the rest of the yard, pulling poison ivy, planting gardens, building stone walls, rebuilding the wood shelter.... it will be so great.
post #160 of 815
Sorry to be such a downer, guys.

I'm surfing the net, drinking too many beers..

DD is overly dramatic, so we've decided to not address the issue until the morning. Otherwise this will be "the last night!" and I am just not really prepared to deal with that.
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