Thank you for the warm welcome ladies! So, his name is Dan, and we have been talking since early January. We met when we were both in 6th grade. I was 12, he was 11. We knew of each other, but didn't become friends till high school, after his dad died our sophomore year. From that point we were pretty much peas and carrots. I kind of knew that he always wanted there to be more, but we were VERY young, and I was dating an older guy all through my HS career. Dan (or Danny, as I call him), was my go-to buddy. In hindsight, I probably wasn't very fair to him, and I have apologized to him for that. He was my best friend, we did all kinds of stuff together...dances, concerts, hanging out on the weekends. He was everything to me, and I know now that it was kind of torture for him, to always be there, but not THERE. After my first disastrous year in college, I moved back home to VA and we did briefly try dating, but I was in no place emotionally to be with anyone, so it never even progressed past hand holding and hugging. I had never kissed him. Then I basically had a nervous breakdown and moved, without a word to him, 1400 miles.
Fast forward 11 years, 2 months to this past January. I had been married, helped raise a stepdaughter, had a son, and finally divorced in August last year. My marriage was emotionally, verbally and sometimes physically abusive in nature, so I was REALLY nervous about getting into another relationship. Then, on January 8, I got a Facebook message from Dan. It was just a friendly "hey, glad I found you, kids are gorgeous, congratulations on your happy life" kind of thing. That evening we Facebook messaged a few times back and forth, and I told him I was divorced. I couple of days later we talked on the phone, but still just sort of friends. A couple days after that I told him about Skype, and that we could try video chatting if he wanted to. And well, that first night on Skype was what changed everything for us. It was amazing to SEE him after all these years. I apologized to him, for the way I treated him in HS, for taking off and leaving him, he told me about his past 11 years, I told him a little about my marriage, my son, lots of stuff. We talked about our favorite music (we always had that in common), tv shows, movies, books, etc. I think that first night we video conferenced for like 4 hours. We have talked every single day since then.
He still lives back in VA, and I am here in MN. He was here a few weeks ago for a visit, and it was amazing. He's my best friend still/again, and I hope that I can be that for him. I think I am. We had such an amazing time for that five days he was here, and I'm not talking about intimacy in the physical sense, I mean that we were just very in sync with each other. We get each other. He's nice and sweet and quiet and attentive. He is a beautiful human being, inside and out, and I can't believe that he loves me. I adore him. I can even say I love him, even though yes, I know, it's very fast. I am going to VA to visit him in three weeks. Our relationship will be long distance for about another year, because he makes pretty decent money in VA, and wants to save money before he moves here. He also lives with his 91 year old grandmother now, and takes care of her, and arrangements will have to be made for her, and he will not (no would I expect him to) leave her until she is well taken care of.
Anyway, I am excited to go out there in a few weeks. Not only is it to see him, but VA is home to me, and I can't wait to go home.
Alright, that was long. Thanks for letting me be all gushy and girly!