•TTC #1 in Our 30's April Thread• Let BFP's Spring Forth!• - Page 3

[AmandaMom]

Originally Posted by iheartmyfamily

amandas mom ur temps look great!

Thanks for noticing!

[Newbian Mama]

meander - s I understand where you're coming from. I'm with everyone else, plenty of people get pregnant at 37. Everyone in my family, I mean *everyone* has children while they're in their 20's. I will be the only woman who will have a child while I'm in my 30's and sometimes I feel old because of that.

I'm so sorry for your m/c s

JJ'sLove79 - Welcome, Tammy!!! I hope your stay here is short. Feel free to jump right in with questions or advice!

AmandaMom - Your temps do look great! How are you doing with the testing? Is your partner anxious for you to test?

AFM - I ordered sperm today! It will be about three weeks before it actually ships but I'm super excited.

I'm thinking of you orandalady and Monarchgrrl and wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy. Here's hoping your BFP's rub off on us this month.

[Monarchgrrl]

Originally Posted by Newbian Mama

I'm thinking of you orandalady and Monarchgrrl and wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy. Here's hoping your BFP's rub off on us this month.

Awww thanks, NM! I'm still lurking and keeping up on everyone's progress! Baby dust to all!!!! Come on BFP's!!!

[AmandaMom]

We've had three BFP's so far this month over on the Queer TTC board, so I'm hoping to spread some of that baby dust over here!

DP is anxious to test, but she doesn't bring it up for fear of adding to my stress. She insists we wait until Friday, which would be 10dpo, but I'm not sure I can make it that long! I've just been trying to keep my mind off of it, but honestly, I'm not having much luck. My temp is higher than it's ever been (only by .1), but that may be because we had the warmest night of the year here last night. Or it's because I'm PREGNANT! I'm trying my best to stay positive.

[iheartmyfamily]

ladies i need to see some bfps this week so that i can keep hope alive.

i am at rock bottom. got my positive opk today... finally. but, got bad news on dh's sperm yesterday and he isnt taking it well so it looks like he doesnt want to be anywhere near me today. dr said that his sperm count is very high, 81 million but his morphology is abnormal. 2% of his sperm is normal with 97% of the abnormalities being in the head. dr said that i am unlikely to get pregnant naturally with dh's sperm. (but i have gotten pregnant b4 and mc). i am scheduled to go in for a dnc tomorrow to clear everything out and then he wants to discuss insemination. dh is not on board with the dnc or the insemination. looks like i will have to go alone tomorrow for the dnc. i dont know how to deal with all this and i dont think i'm doing a very good job of it. i feal defeated.

[~Adorkable~]

iheartmyfamily, of hugs hugs hugs. sounds hard.

my dh had issues with the idea of the insem as well but in the end has found it to not be so bad. i don't know how dh would deal with bad sperm issues, he would probably take it pretty hard too.

my gut says go slow and get him get his head around it in his own time. they work different than us and he is likely feeling like a big failure at some point. show him how much you love him and take it one day at a time.

can i ask what his issue is with the dnc and also why your doctor says you need it. sorry i probably missed you explaining this already.

[Newbian Mama]

iheartmyfamily - I am so sorry you're going through so much. And I'm sorry for your husband as well. It may feel like he's "not a man" because his sperm has abnormal morphology. Donor sperm can be a big deal for some couples and especially men. I'm not sure why your DH is not on board with the D&C? Do you have any friends or family who could go with you? Are you anywhere near me? I'll go with you. It sounds like you both need big warm hugs and a safe space to cry (or scream).

You and your DH *will( get through this

AmandaMom - I lurk on the Queer TTC board but I never post. I'm too shy (don't know why?!) I hope all that dust blows over our way. I had a pregnant lady touch her belly and then touch my stomach, totally out of the blue, and tell me I am going to be a great mom

You can hold out until Friday, you can do it!! Your chart looks fabulous

[Blanca78]

I'm so sorry, I Heart My Family--at a time like this you need his support and he needs yours. Maybe he's just taking some time to adjust. However, I wish he would go with you to the DNC--is this as in, D & C? If so, they usually put you under and you def. need someone there!

I hope after he has a little time to process he is able to talk to you more about it.

[orandalady]

Originally Posted by Newbian Mama

meander
I'm thinking of you orandalady and Monarchgrrl and wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy. Here's hoping your BFP's rub off on us this month.

Thank you Newbian Mama! I've been thinking about and missing everyone here alot lately and lurking to check up on you all! Can't wait to see more BFPs from this group!

[orandalady]

iheartmyfamily- you're in my thoughts

[~Adorkable~]

Thou Shalt Not Read To Much Into Sore Boobs

[AmandaMom]

Adorkable - It's been a long time since I've been to church, but I don't remember that being one of the ten commandments!

iheartmyfamily - X 100.

[~Adorkable~]

Oh I'm sure it is, its the one the 7th(dpo) one!

[iheartmyfamily]

lol. i learned my lesson with sore boobs last month. they really really hurt and my hpt were really really stark white. lol.

thanks for the support ladies. when r u going to test amandasmom? i canceled my dnc. the dr wanted me to have it to clean out my uterus and prepare it for iui and to biopsy it. i got a second opinion and dr said no reason to do it expecially now that dh is confirmed problemo. dh did come to me yesterday and say he wanted to find a specialist and he was sorry and really just cought off guard. so we did the bd and i felt better what kind of dr specializes in sperm morphology?

[rmiriam]

iheartmyfamily, I'm glad your DH is starting to come around. I suppose it would take anyone a bit of time to adjust to that, and he probably hasn't been thinking about it as much as you have. I know mine just thinks we'll have fun trying and it'll happen, while I put a lot more thought into how to time everything right, possible issues, etc. But at least you have a clue to what you need to do!

Guests are gone, and I think we managed to BD before O. Although you guys are not the only ones who suggested the floor (guest was my best girlfriend, 16 wks pg, and appalled that she may be hindering our efforts ). Now I know why people carpet their bedrooms! Trying not to get my hopes up, though.

[Blanca78]

Originally Posted by •Adorkable•

Oh I'm sure it is, its the one the 7th(dpo) one!

Ha! 8 DPO here and thinking, my boobs are sore! And yesterday I caught myself googling "Possible to get pregnant 4 days after ovulation?" Because that's when we did it.

I Heart My Family--I'm so glad the two of you were able to talk about it and no D&C for you. The surgery itself isn't that big of a deal but I know mine was like $8000 before insurance, and they put you under, and...just not something you want to do unless it's definitely necessary, I would think.

Hi Orandalady! Hope all is well!

[~Adorkable~]

Originally Posted by iheartmyfamily

. i got a second opinion and dr said no reason to do it expecially now that dh is confirmed problemo. dh did come to me yesterday and say he wanted to find a specialist and he was sorry and really just cought off guard.

Verey happy to hear you are being spared the d&c, it just seemed so silly and invasive. And good to hear that dh is coming around and calming down, I can imagine that ir is hard to deal with for him and I think it shows well of him that he realist that his reaction was a trigger response.

[somegirl99]

iheartmyfamily, glad to hear the positive update with your DH's attitude and no D&C!

rmiriam, for good timing for you.

[Laggie]

Originally Posted by iheartmyfamily

got bad news on dh's sperm yesterday and he isnt taking it well so it looks like he doesnt want to be anywhere near me today. dr said that his sperm count is very high, 81 million but his morphology is abnormal. 2% of his sperm is normal with 97% of the abnormalities being in the head. dr said that i am unlikely to get pregnant naturally with dh's sperm. (but i have gotten pregnant b4 and mc). i am scheduled to go in for a dnc tomorrow to clear everything out and then he wants to discuss insemination. dh is not on board with the dnc or the insemination.

Well, we're dealing with low count and zero% good morphology over here... DP has been taking some supplements and we're waiting it out and hoping. Normal morphology percentage is quite low though, I've heard numbers as low as 4% can be fine although our test results say 12% and over is good. Are you seeing a specialist? Morphology can be affected by heat, so no tight underwear, etc.

I think we can go to IUI next, and then IVF, but the research I've looked at seems to suggest IUI can be a good choice with morphology issues. All is not lost... and if you've been pregnant once already, I wouldn't freak out about this number. They also told us it could be a fluke, DP is supposed to have another test in a couple weeks (3 months after the first one) to see if the numbers are still bad.

As for the emotional side, they do take it pretty hard. I would just give him some time and space. Some people have their heart set on everything happening "naturally" and it might take awhile before he is comfortable letting go of that ideal.

[welshwife08]

Adorkable--thank you so much for updating the thread and including an annoucement of my baby boy!!

Good luck to everyone this month!!!!!!