Waiting to Adopt NON DDC ~ April 2010

[BeckC]

This is a "Non Due Date Club" for all the Mamas waiting to adopt kiddos, whether newborn or older. We can share our stories, encourage each other while we wait and be patient (or not) for our little ones to arrive.

Feel free to join in if you are waiting for a foster kiddo, a relative or an adoption in any stage. We're not trying to be exclusive at all. Mamas who don't have any kids yet but who are waiting to adopt or foster a kiddo are also welcome. Also feel free to chime in if you have previously adopted and have stories or advice to share.

Please keep this thread supportive and gentle. We all have different journeys and different ways of "getting there".

Here is the link to March's NON DDC

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Waiting to Adopt DDC Roll Call!!!


BeckC (Rebecca)
Domestic Transracial Newborn Adoption
Homestudy approved 8/09
Waiting to be matched

Whistler (Erin)
Domestic Transracial Newborn Adoption
Baby boy born on 9/29
Home on 10/9!

mamalemon
Domestic Newborn Adoption
Baby boy is home!

mamarhu
Foster/adoptive parent, hoping to adopt DFC
Maybe waiting for 5yo twins, sibs of DFC

tiffani
International African adoption
Received referral for 2.5 year old boy and 5 mo old girl!
Waiting on a court date

lamamax3
Domestic Newborn Adoption
Licensed and waiting to be matched
Applying for adoption through state

curliemama
Private domestic adoption
Baby girl is home!

HeatherAtHome (Heather)
Hoping to foster/adopt
Bought a house, renovating before starting the process

candm
International Haitian adoption
Finalized, our son and daughter are home!

crl (Catherine)
Updating homestudies for China and Kyrgyzstan
Homestudy for domestic adoption approved 12/09
Matched with an emom having a girl due in April

sesa70 (Theresa)
Domestic Transracial Infant Adoption
Homestudy approved 11/09
Waiting for a match

airmide_m
Beginning adoption process
Working on getting lawyer and homestudy right away

chanibell
International Adoption
Thinking stage for #2

angie6191
Hoping to adopt current foster kiddos
Starting process for domestic transracial newborn adoption
Approved 11/09

azedazobollis (Christine)
DD came home on December
Waiting for finalization

Polliwog (Beth)
Hoping to adopt DFD who is free for adoption
Next court date in Nov

DTmama1
Matched with sibling group from foster care
Ages 6, 9, 10, 11, and 13
Kids are moved in!

raqmykids (Raquel)
Transracial domestic adoption
Waiting for placement

someonenamedleah (Leah)
Domestic Transracial Infant Adoption
Baby boys born 1/09!

Alvenchrst
Foster/adopt
Working on paperwork

ftlmom2001
Domestic private adoption
Baby boy born 10/13

hdeering
Foster parents to 3 yo, 3 yo, and 5 month old.
Moving towards adoption with 2 out of 3, but maybe all 3.
TPR hearing for 1 or 2 of them in Jan.

excitedtobeamom
Adopting from Thailand
Waiting on referral (hopefully summer/fall 2010)

hi abbott
Working on agency paperwork

rebyell
Domestic adoption
Baby girl born 11/10/09
Baby is home!

Luv-my-boys
Special needs Foster/Adopt through state
Approved, Waiting for $$ to finish homestudy

Crpsmnwife
International adoption from Ethiopia
Homestudy completed
Waiting for approval

Ttoes
Domestic Newborn Adoption
Homestudy approved
Waiting to be matched

SimplyRochelle (Rochelle)
Hoping to adopt from foster care
Just starting the process

griffin2004
State Foster-to-Adopt Program
Waiting for a placement
Signed with private adoption attorney

christophersmom
Hoping to foster
Approved 10/09
Waiting for a placement

leahcar
Homestudy approved 07/09
Hoping to adopt an older child (girl)
Matched with a 9 year old girl

ladycop79 (Heather B)
Hoping to foster
Taking MAPP classes

Sbrinton (Sara)
International African Adoption
Researching agencies

mightyisis6874
Domestic Infant Adoption
Applying with agency
Waiting for homestudy

willowbean
Licensing for foster hoping to foster-adopt
Working on home study

Bella Catalina
Hoping to adopt from Ethiopia
Researching agencies

Veronika01
Hoping to adopt
Researching programs

MamaK (Kim)
Domestic Transracial Newborn Adoption
Homestudy approved 12/09
Waiting to be matched

azmomtoone
Researching domestic and foster-adopt

just_lily
Domestic Public Adoption
Waiting for approval

Armom
Adoption through state foster care system
Homestudy approved
Waiting to be matched with a 2-5 year old

miche28
Domestic private adoption newborn through 2 years
Waiting for approval

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[BeckC]

April DDC is up. I haven't updated the roll call yet, but I will later today.

[queenjane]

Wow so many people on the list!

I guess i'll join in too.

I'm adopting my 2 yo foster son and his 8 yo sister will be joining us in mid-June as an adoptive placement as well! She is coming for easter break for a week, and will be spending every weekend with us until she moves in. I dont know much about "tween" girls so it should be exciting.

[krisnic]

I guess I can join...my husband and I are taking the steps to adopt from Korea. We are currently researching agencies.

[sesa70]

Originally Posted by queenjane

Wow so many people on the list!

I guess i'll join in too.

I'm adopting my 2 yo foster son and his 8 yo sister will be joining us in mid-June as an adoptive placement as well! She is coming for easter break for a week, and will be spending every weekend with us until she moves in. I dont know much about "tween" girls so it should be exciting.

I am so happy to hear this news I remember all the trouble you had trying to do straight adoption through foster care and how hard it was on you emotionally and it makes me happy to see you are finally able to grow your family

[queenjane]

Originally Posted by sesa70

I am so happy to hear this news I remember all the trouble you had trying to do straight adoption through foster care and how hard it was on you emotionally and it makes me happy to see you are finally able to grow your family

Thanks....it kinda blows my mind that i'm going from one to FOUR kids in just over two years! who would have thought?!?! And i always expected an older boy and he is turning out to be a GIRL!

[sagewinna]

Can you add me to the list? We are fos-adopting and are waiting for our first adoption class (hopefully) this month.

[veganjoy]

I'm so excited to finally post here--please add me. We're doing foster-adoption and have completed all the training/background checking up to the homestudy, which should be scheduled for next month.

[Whistler]

You can update my status! We're beginning the process of adopting from Ethiopia!

Also Baby Bear's Adoption Day is tomorrow! We're thrilled!

[SimplyRochelle]

Congrats Erin!

Thanks tiffani for your advice in the previous thread about what information to put on the questionaire. My in laws live about 4 hours from us so I don't see them very often and while my personality clashes with my MILs, I am always polite and make it work. The question asked what words you would use to describe your mother and father and then asked a few questions later if you would use the same words to describe your mother in law and father in law. So I answered exactly what the question asked and said that while I would use very similar words to describe my father and my FIL, my words describing my mother and my MIL would be different.

I feel like we'll be buried in this paperwork forever at this rate. And DH doesn't think anyone will be able to read his handwriting and keeps asking me to write for him while he dictates, but I just haven't had time for that lately. It's getting towards the end of the semester for me and I am drowning in assignments and last minute tests. At least I feel like there is some sort of forward motion towards becoming parents. Some progress is better than no progress, right?

[ladyofmoonlight]

I didn't get added in from last month but there's so many people I can see why!

Ladyofmoonlight
International Adoption from DRC
Just beginning the process

Looking down the list there's a name I recognize, christophersmom, and I believe I know her (that's her name on another site and she was approved to foster end of last year). Can I give an update for another member or is that just rude? It's a happy update too

[Polliwog]

Probably not a good idea but maybe she'll post an update when she can. And yes, I'm pretty sure that it's her.

[tiffani]

Originally Posted by SimplyRochelle

So I answered exactly what the question asked and said that while I would use very similar words to describe my father and my FIL, my words describing my mother and my MIL would be different.

perfect! your social worker will grill you on that, most likely, so figure out how to sound diplomatic.

Originally Posted by Whistler

You can update my status! We're beginning the process of adopting from Ethiopia!

Also Baby Bear's Adoption Day is tomorrow! We're thrilled!

congratulations Erin!!!

we're preparing to travel, and will hopefully get a court date soon after we arrive (our whole family is going ) then dh will come home and work while the kids and I live it UP in Uganda waiting for visas! feels good to have a plan, even if the plan is kind of crazy! s aiming to go there mid to late may...

[tiffani]

Originally Posted by tiffani

perfect! your social worker will grill you on that, most likely, so figure out how to sound diplomatic.

sorry, I don't mean grill, she'll ask you follow-up questions about it, but I think many families have in-law struggles, it's just how you deal with it that counts.

[Whistler]

Originally Posted by tiffani

sorry, I don't mean grill, she'll ask you follow-up questions about it, but I think many families have in-law struggles, it's just how you deal with it that counts.

That's a good way to put it. I know my MIL and I don't exactly see eye to eye.

Tiffani, I am SO excited for you! Please send lots of stories our way!

[tiffani]

Originally Posted by Whistler

Tiffani, I am SO excited for you! Please send lots of stories our way!

thank you!!! I will share what I can as it all unfolds, and expect an epic saga post once we have them home with us!!

[SimplyRochelle]

Originally Posted by tiffani

sorry, I don't mean grill, she'll ask you follow-up questions about it, but I think many families have in-law struggles, it's just how you deal with it that counts.

Thanks! I totally expect to be grilled. I'm hoping we get assigned to one of the case workers that I know from my CASA adventures, but that isn't how our luck generally goes. I am so busy with school this week and I leave tomorrow for a wedding where I am a bridesmaid and definitely feeling a bit overwhelmed.

[sesa70]

Well...

The emom looking at our profile chose another family. I am pretty dissapointed. We are back in the pool of waiting families, feeling like we will always be passed over. In 6 months this is the 1st Emom to even express interest in us, so it is disspointing that she didn't choose us.

The entire adoption process is so hard. I can't even begin to imagine doing this for another year or more.

[Whistler]

Originally Posted by sesa70

Well...

The emom looking at our profile chose another family. I am pretty dissapointed. We are back in the pool of waiting families, feeling like we will always be passed over. In 6 months this is the 1st Emom to even express interest in us, so it is disspointing that she didn't choose us.

The entire adoption process is so hard. I can't even begin to imagine doing this for another year or more.

Oh sesa, I am so sorry. This happened to us twice and to me it feels just a little bit like a miscarriage. Like it will never happen.

Hang in there! The thing that comforted me is the idea that the "right one" will come at the "right time". I have gotten criticism from the anti-adoption crowd for saying that but hopefully people here will understand what I mean by that. It is so hard to wait when there is no "due date" isn't it?

[tiffani]

ok, not necessarily going in late may. might be going, but might have to wait a bit longer. probably have to wait a bit longer. being responsible about things sucks. *sigh*

on the good news front, there was a big meeting in Washington DC with the congressional and senatorial staffers of every state with affected families from this Visa stall situation, and it's now being worked on from the US side. The opinion of a professional adoption advocacy group is that the embassy is not following it's own rules, and that they need to resume issuing visas for these kids. so yay about that. hopefully it will do some good to have them all on our side!