lurker confession

[gnutter]

I have found myself here lately. Why am I lurking here? I have three boys-the last one was a complete surprise-a happy one-but he is now almost 4yrs old. I havent felt this baby lust in a long time and it has taken me totally by surprise. When I see a little baby my eyes well up with tears-its so embarassing! Uncontrollable and embarassing
Why is this happening? So for the first time since I began showing symptoms I must openly admit something---I want to have another baby---there I said it. Now my eyes are tearing up again---geez! Isn't there some sort of baby fever medication out there? I tried getting ap uppy instead-it did not work! Now I have a dog and I still want a baby. I borrowed my cousins baby thinking it would cure me-sort of like a vaccine LOL! Nope-it just made it worse! Those cute little toes and that wonderful baby smell right there when you nuzzle into their neck. Dh is so not going to go for this people. Help me.

[NeverBeenHappier]

Hi gnutter!

Ahhh, baby fever! You're certainly in the right place to share those feelings! I can certainly relate. After I had my now 7 year old DS, (my 3rd child) I thougth I was cured for good. He was NOT a fun baby, whiny, crying, screaming, etc. But then I left my moronic now ex-husband, met my wonderful now-husband and babies were all I could think of. Well, it was mostly his fault as he was telling me we needed to make one of our own! So now here I am pregnant with #5! We did end up making that baby of our own 2 years ago and now we're doing it again! And I couldn't even promise that we're done (and I'm about to turn 40 and he's 45!)!

I guess I just looked at it like I didn't want to find myself at the end of my life and have such a huge regret as not having tried to have more when I KNEW it was something I/we really wanted and was really important. I can give up a lot of things that are basically meaningless in the big picture, but once my target was set on "baby" it was a done deal!

Good luck with either learning to control the baby lust or convincing your DH that he also wants another one! For me, it's always easier to go with the latter!

Tracy

[trace364]

I hear you!

I am in the exact place, too. My youngest is going to turn 6 this summer. (dd 9, ds 5 and step ds 14) It is nice to be able to sit and relax (a bit). To sleep in a little later and not get up through the night. BUT...but I miss the baby stuff. Also, in a new marriage, I want to have another baby to solidify our new family. IDK, the heart speaks louder than the mind. And as it's said...listen to your heart, right!? And who wants regret.

If you are emotional about having one then I think you should talk to your dh and tell him how you feel. Hopefully he will see how much this means. Tell your dh that you want a little girl, maybe that would get him thinking? Also, seeing a counselor might help, too. I was going to one and she made me feel okay about wanting another and then we also talked about how it would feel not to have another.

Dh says he might (!?) want another but he's not sure. But we aren't actively NOT trying. Now I am 17 dpo and no AF. But I can't get my hopes up yet and I won't test because I can't see a bfn right now. My cycles are 26-29 days and with my last two kids I got late + hcg. Enough to drive a woman crazy!! Anyways, good luck.

[gnutter]

A girl would be so nice---I would be so thrilled with another boy too. The biggest tease of it all is that I am not on any BC and my cycles are so long-like 34 days. I a always a little hopeful every month. We sorta use NFP-but honestly lately its just been that we don't have any alone time LOL!

He would be fine with a happy accident-but not TTC. We did that once and he really got tired of it-and me obsessing over it. We lost a baby at 18wks and then spent the next year and a half ttc-it was the "dark time" in our lives. I think that sort of haunts him still.

On the bright side-we are hitting the time of year I always get pg-I always seem to get pg in the summer and then have spring babies-so maybe I will get lucky this summer. I have been drpping hints too though. Pointing out that I may only have a few more fertile years (I am pushing 40). I think that may have something to do with this whole urge too-one last baby before I don't have that option any more. thanks for the encouragement and advice