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Maternal instinct about sex of baby

post #1 of 55
4/4/10 at 11:14pm
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So, I keep reading these posts about babies being born and the mom was just for sure it was a boy/girl and the baby came out the opposite. I am wondering how often that happens where our instinct is not correct. So, did you have a strong instinct that your baby was for sure one sex and when it was born it came out the opposite sex?

Lisa

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post #2 of 55
4/4/10 at 11:17pm
DS I just KNEW was a boy.

DD I had no clue.

This one I just KNOW is a boy... ultrasound in about 4 weeks to find out but I am just absolutely positive its a boy.
post #3 of 55
4/4/10 at 11:26pm
I am 31 weeks and I have absolutely no instinct as to whether it's a boy or a girl. Perhaps it's a hermaphrodite? I can't imagine that anybody could feel for sure what it is, only guess and guess right or wrong! But maybe that's just my bad attitude
Sorry that doesn't help you! I just get kind of mad at all the people who ask me and really act like "how can you not just KNOW?!" grrrr...
post #4 of 55
4/4/10 at 11:29pm
I was 100% positive dd was a boy. With ds I didnt even try to figure it out.
post #5 of 55
4/4/10 at 11:54pm
I was 100% convinced during my first pregnancy that I was having a girl, by 12 weeks she had a name and I had drempt of her many times. Sure enough, she looks exactly like the little girl I drempt about.

With this one, I'm leaning towards boy, I had a "It's a boy dream" but I never saw the baby. I am having a hard time looking at girl names, I'm totally drawn to boy names. But I'm not convinced that it is a boy for some reason. I guess leaning towards just isn't a strong enough feeling for me. Time will tell!
post #6 of 55
4/5/10 at 12:13am
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Originally Posted by is it puppies? View Post
I am 31 weeks and I have absolutely no instinct as to whether it's a boy or a girl. Perhaps it's a hermaphrodite? I can't imagine that anybody could feel for sure what it is, only guess and guess right or wrong! But maybe that's just my bad attitude
Sorry that doesn't help you! I just get kind of mad at all the people who ask me and really act like "how can you not just KNOW?!" grrrr...
Lmbo! I kwym! It's pretty frustrating when people make the insinuation that I am somehow disconnected from my baby just because I'm not psychic. I am only 16 weeks but with this LO I have no clue what the gender is instinct wise...and fwiw, with both of my DDs, I was totally convinced they were boys, lol, so who knows. I'm sorry, I know that is probably not helpful, I just try not to get too worried about it, I mean my guesses were off with my girlies but I still think I have a great maternal instinct (just apparently not about their gender :P )
post #7 of 55
4/5/10 at 12:31am
I was eerily certain DD was a boy, particularly because at the end of the pregnancy we suddenly discovered the perfect boy's name. But nope.
post #8 of 55
4/5/10 at 12:56am
I definitely thought this baby was a boy.. i have only had boys so far, so it was a pretty safe bet, plus the facial hair and belly shape suggested boy to me.. and my timing for a girl was a bit off..

the only indications I had that this baby MIGHT be a girl, was that I was not sick as a dog like I was with my previous pregnancies.

My subconscious keeps rearing its head though as I admire cute boy diapers, etc..
post #9 of 55
4/5/10 at 7:13am
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Originally Posted by Pinoikoi View Post

My subconscious keeps rearing its head though as I admire cute boy diapers, etc..


Same here! I was positive that this baby was going to be a boy too, so did my DH. So it was a big shock when we were told at our 20-week scan that this is one is a girl! Actually I still cannot get over it and sometimes I catch myself longing for another baby boy

And although I spent my entire life wanting a baby girl merely to dress her up in those cute girlish clothes and do her hair with super cute pins (that was before I had my DS) now whenever I go shopping I find myself admiring the boy clothes
post #10 of 55
4/5/10 at 7:33am
My instincts have been right every time even before i even positive and even though i'm not yet pregnant (at least i'm pretty sure i'm not actually pregnant, maybe having a phantom pregnancy) anyhow i have this real strong gut instinct that my next baby IS going to be a girl so much so i bought a couple of girl's clothes items in a sale and i have a girl name already picked (also have a boys name but thats incase i have twins loll because there are twins and triplets in our family)
post #11 of 55
4/5/10 at 7:39am
I was convinced my baby was a girl-- dreamed about a girl, came up w. girl names...I had no doubt...

and had a boy. If I had had a girl I would be out there saying I knew for sure etc

but it's possible to be wrong! And whatever you think or guess you are having you have a 50/50 chance...


Zoe, mama to Thomas 1/06
post #12 of 55
4/5/10 at 8:02am
I was right about the gender 3 out of 4 times. WIth my first ds I just had a feeling. Before I even knew I was pregnant with #2, I dreamed that my mom's friend told me I was pregnant and that it was a girl, and all throughout the prenancy I just knew it was a girl, and she was. I dreamed that baby 3 was a boy, and during the pregnancy I had "boy" feelings, and he was.

WIth my last pregnancy I really wanted another girl and I was convinced that was what I was having.

Then about two weeks before baby came I had a dream that it was a boy, and every time I pictured myself with the new baby I could only picture it as a boy. I couldn't imagine having another girl.

When ds was born I was a bit surprised and a bit disappointed, but then it just seemed totally natural, like "Of course it's a boy!" And then I remembered the dream I had before I found out I was pregnant in which a friend sent me a bunch of newborn boy clothes.
post #13 of 55
4/5/10 at 8:55am
I've got a 50/50 track record. With my first, I was sure she would be a girl, and she was. With my second, I was SURE, SURE it was a girl. At my 20 week u/s I kept asking, are you absolutely sure it's a boy, like 100% sure? They were. I had two more u/s, one due to partial placenta previa and one due to a car accident at 38 weeks, both times I kept asking, still a boy? Yep, still a boy. My pregnancy this time is totally different. It's been MUCH harder, I've been way more sick, more tired, it's been rough. But after two very easy, eerily similar pregnancies that yeilded a boy and a girl, and I have no guess at all! I don't think we are going to find out either, and really, I'm clueless!
post #14 of 55
4/5/10 at 10:36am
DH and I were both convinced we were having a girl this time. And my mom and sister thought so too. I even almost bought a few adorable dresses and coats I saw when on holidays during the very early part of my pregnancy. We already have a name picked out for when (if) we have a girl, so I thought we were all set.

Well, we were both super surprised to find out a month ago at the u/s that it's a boy! And it's definitely a boy. We have a few clear shots of it.

I am generally a fairly intuitive person and this is something I thought I would be right about. (I was right about the sex of our loss last year though.)
post #15 of 55
4/5/10 at 10:49am
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Originally Posted by zoe196 View Post
but it's possible to be wrong! And whatever you think or guess you are having you have a 50/50 chance...
From what Ive seen moms tend to have around a 70% chance of being right if they are following their gut instincts and not just what they want... oddly enough. (based on some actual studies... im doing a very unscientific study in my DDC right now to see what our odds are lol)

Much better odds than any old wives tales.
post #16 of 55
4/5/10 at 12:15pm
Didn't have any real instict with our boys, but had very clear dreams that this one is a girl. I've never been so certain as in this pregnancy. My dreams were right.

I always seem to start out suspecting one sex, though, and around the start of the second trimester I switch, or at least my leaning firms up. After that switch I've been more "accurate."
post #17 of 55
4/5/10 at 12:24pm
For the first, I was reluctant to guess, but I had a boy name I loved and no girl name. Somehow, I took the fact that I couldn't think of a girl name as a sign that it was a girl and it was!

And then second time around, I felt like it was a boy right away, and on top of that was stumped for a boy name, and he was a boy.

This time, I have no strong feeling, no names... fraternal twins?!! Or maybe I'm just tired!
post #18 of 55
4/5/10 at 12:25pm
I have a 100% track record. Four kids all guessed perfectly-and my friends' kids. I always just know. There is a fine line between wishful thinking and instinct, though. This one because of symptoms and a dream, I believe is a boy. Plus I just can not think of girl names! With my other four I had dreams before I even knew I was pg about what they were.
post #19 of 55
4/5/10 at 12:29pm
I was really expecting DD to be a boy. I honestly did not care whether I had a boy or girl, AT ALL, but I just felt like she was a boy, all my dreams were of boys (except one at the very end), everyone else said it would be a boy, etc. I even bought a couple of boy clothes. Girl. I was very surpised but definitely just as happy!
post #20 of 55
4/5/10 at 12:30pm
1 out of my three was wrong... I was right w/my first two, but was totally convinced up until he was born (despite having had an ultrasound at 18 weeks and being told "boy") that ds2 would be a girl.
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