What does your social life look like? - Page 3

[RiverSky]

Originally Posted by mumm

If I could get childcare for the $5/hr mentioned i might have a social life! The going rate for a 13 year old is $10, but I wouldn't leave my crew with a 13 year old! Most adults are looking for at least $25 which adds up might quick.

So no social life and honestly, not much time to have one either.

Make some friends, join a moms club or something, and start asking around and see if anyone wants to exchange babysitting for babysitting. For instance, you can watch your friend's children for an evening, then next time, she watches yours and it's all free!

[Storm Bride]

I have an almost non-existent social life. However, it has a lot less to do with being a SAHM than it does with being social phobic. I lost most of my old friends (some I'm still friendly with, but we're not really friends) when my ex and I split up. Neither dh nor I is particularly good at meeting people and making friends, so...we don't really have any.

My total social time is chatting with my neighbours a little, going to a homelearning meetup every other Friday, and occasional visits with my mom or sister. I also have a long talk on the phone with my bff every few weeks.

I'll be going back to choir in September. That means two hours every Tuesday evening. It's kind of a social outlet, but not really. I don't feel that I fit in very well, and haven't struck up any real friendships in the four years I've been a member. But, it's a lot of fun.

[kevinsgirl]

Personally, I'm really happy with where I am socially. I'm active in my church's moms group, plus I'm in MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) right now. Through those we have mornings out and I've made lots of friends. I am a super extrovert who needs lots of contact outside my home.

5 years ago when I was first staying home with DD#1, I was very lonely. I was 'stuck' out in the country with an extremely high needs infant. When I finally felt comfortable that my daughter would do 'ok' in the childcare, I joined MOPS. They have groups all over the country, you can find one in your area at their website. Now is a good time to be looking, because the childcare spots fill up fast for the fall.

Through MOPS, I've made my BFFs. Plus the group usually coordinates a playdate at least once a month, and mom's nights out (which, like some of you, I can rarely attend because of dh's work hours)

I just want to extend a virtual hug to those of you who have struggled making friends. I do think it can be hard to make friends with women--I used to feel I'd never have women friends.

But it can be done--please don't give up--you're created for community!

[MsBirdie]

I am a very social person. I just recently joined a local gym that has excellent childcare for my 3 yr old while I work out. So my goal is to do that for an hour each day with my mom who lives down the street. We hang out a lot together and carpool when we have to run errands. I have been in my local MOMS club for over 5 years and have made some really fabulous friends. We hike together, go to MNO, playgroups weekly. Before this I was isolated and was not in a good place. I have to say my moms groups made me a better parent and spouse.

[Happiestever]

It mostly involves me making plans with people and then not being able to go because of weather, sick kids, helping out with work... So it's mostly a lot of attempts because even when I get to the mom playdates, I get there and have to leave about 30 minutes later. It is barely even worth it.