Originally Posted by Amys1st
So Introduce yourself and..
-discuss what brought you to this place
-how is this path and what has it taken you to?
Is it material things, an overabundance of too much in your life or something else?
I'm Lexmas, Mama of two, DS is 3 and DD will be 1 on Saturday.
Gosh, so much has brought me to this place. We've been slowly becoming more and more minimalist over the past 5 years. My parents are the opposite. My dad died last year and we moved in with my mom so that she could stay in her house and we could do the upkeep and help her taking care of my grandmother who lives with her. (We have a four generation household!) My mom has gotten better, she's thrown out lots of the boxes and boxes of stuff that my dad kept, but she still has that "but we might use this some day" mentality. We have 12 pie pans in our cupboard that she won't even let us put in the basement because she doesn't want to have to go find them if she wants to use them...we've lived here almost a year now and I've never seen her bake anything, muchless 12 pies. It's frustrating, so DH and I are as minimilist with our stuff as possible to cope! We have a seperate living room upstairs, attached to our bedroom, so that helps, we can keep that clean and clutter-free. Plus, it's really in our benefit to keep things simple, because my Mom gets frustrated easily when the kids toys and such are all over, so I try and keep anything with lots of pieces upstairs, so it keeps things cleaner downstairs. Of course, my mom has saved every toy from when we were little, so she keeps bringing those out as well. She means well, she really does! Luckily (I guess?) I have rules about acceptable toys (no soft plastic, trying to avoid phthalates at the very least since my kids have cancer on both sides of the family...) that she respects and that cuts down on lots of the toys. I don't know how to get her to understand that "someday" really isn't a reason to keep everything! We do keep some things (I just packed away a bunch of baby clothes for the attic, for example, because while we're done having kids for now I do expect to have more kids in the future) but we just don't need to keep everything. We donated our pots and pans from the apartment and my mom freaked out because "what if you move out?" Um...we'll buy more pots? The plan is to live here with her and help her and just keep her from getting lonely as she gets older. There is no plan to move out. If the plan changes, I will happily deal with it then, and have less stuff in the basement to walk around!
We cloth diaper the babies. I did full time EC with DS until just before he was 2 1/2 but it was too stressful for me and I was unable not to focus on results. Now I just part-time EC, and potty DD when I change her diaper. I did the same with DS from the time he was 2 1/2 to when he potty trained a week before he was 3. Part of simplifying for me is being able to look honestly at myself and recognizing my limitations. I hung on to doing EC full time for so long just because I wanted to prove to all the nay-sayers that it worked. Because I didn't want to be wrong. Because I felt SO guilty for wanting to not do it. And I should have stopped much earlier...DS and I both suffered for it. So I try and be honest and open with myself about who I am and what I want to do and be true to that.
We're starting our own garden this year, and we're very excited about it! Mostly, we just stay at home and cook and clean and do chores, and play, and read, and enjoy life! I'm the kind of stay at home mom who stays at home, and I absolutely love it. I do some loose homeschooling of preschool with DS, because he loves doing workbooks and the like. And of course, living life is homeschooling in it's own right! I don't expect we'll do any kind of structured pre-school, it doesn't really fit into what I want for my kids. They will go to public school, but DS won't be going to kindergarten until 2012, anyway. I really believe he belongs at home with us for as long as possible.
We buy used as much as possible. Not just for the price, but because I like to see things get recycled.
Oh, I'm rambling. But I'm sure you get an idea of where we are. Right now I'm packing up the baby toys as DD is getting older, and neither of my kids really play with toys anyway. Have to decide what to keep for 9-10 years for the next kid (I'm 25 and want one more once these two are grown up quite a bit). I also have a good friend who is trying to get pregnant, so hopefully I'll be able to hand on a lot to her. I'd love to go pretty much toy-free and just have art supplies and puzzles and just really open ended stuff, but we're not there yet.
Today I'm sorting through books. Trying to donate the ones that never get read, and only hang onto the ones that do. I mean, it's nice to have a lot of books, but lets face it, my 3 year old would be happy reading his top 5 favorite books over and over and over! Small goals each day.