I had to transfer for exhaustion after 48 hours of labor at home. It was necessary, though certainly not an emergency transfer. And
I cannot stress enough how important our transfer birth plan was for our birth experience.
Like all of you, I had no intention of going to the hospital for any reason save an emergency, and I certainly had no intention of getting an epidural. But in the interest of making my husband feel better about our HB, I made sure I had a foolproof backup plan, and I am
so incredibly grateful that I did.
Here are the pieces that made a big, BIG difference for us in negotiating our hospital transfer:
- having a hospital bag packed and tucked away in a hall closet
- filling out the hospital registration papers ahead of time, with some lines crossed out and a few things added (I think I added a caveat like, "no treatment may be given to me or the baby without the explicit verbal consent of myself or my husband to that specific treatment")
- having my OB look over
and sign our birth plan, put it on file with the hospital, and then give us back the original so that I had it to give to the hospital staff when we walked in the door. His signature made our birth plan into "doctor's orders" which spared us a whole lot of fighting.
- being really candid with my OB ahead of time about our HB plans. He gave me his cell phone number and said to call if I was transferring. He ended up coming in at dawn on his day off to attend my birth, because I was terrified of what might happen if the resident on-call physician was there. (After meeting the on-call physician, I was especially terrified!!!)
- Education, Education, Education. I learned as much as I could about the hospital's policies and procedures, so that I would recognize them when I saw them and be able to consent or not. The on-call doc actually started to put an internal monitor on the baby when we arrived! And because I'd made sure I did my research, I knew what the thing was in his hand, and was able to yell, "stop!!! don't you dare screw that thing into my baby's head! The baby is fine!!!" And sure enough, the baby WAS fine, and the monitor unnecessary. He took one look at my face and didn't argue.
Our transfer birth plan specified a lot of things that were against hospital policy, but we ended up managing to get all of them without too much trouble. There were a few small fights, but we won them. I am SO GRATEFUL that I prepared myself for the possibility that I might end up there, because that preparation meant that I ended up feeling like I was still in control of my birth experience and that I managed to do the best for myself and my little one.
Our birth plan is in the thread that a PP posted:
http://www.mothering.com/discussions...60&postcount=5
ETA: Quiver, I noticed that you mentioned your MW coming as your advocate. My MW followed us to the hospital (dad drove me and DH, she followed in her own car), but when I arrived they whisked me up to L&D really fast, and they didn't let her into my room right away. So, it was good to have a birth plan because she wasn't right there with me to help when I first arrived. Then, when she did get there and things settled down, I sent her home to rest because I needed sleep and so did she. Plus I trusted my OB to respect my wishes for the birth, so I knew I'd be ok once he arrived. So... I guess I'd say, expect that your MW will come, but make sure you have a backup plan in case they don't let her in.