How has TTC effected your relationship w SO - Page 2

[annablue]

It hasn't changed too much yet. Then again, we haven't been TTC for that long... I try not to make a big deal about it because I don't want him to feel like I'm just "using him" to make a baby, or that's the only reason we're being intimate.

[trekkingirl]

refreshing this topic to see if any one else wants to share

[pinkgeek]

Originally Posted by Mama~Love

I felt like we were roommates instead of a married couple. Prior to this past November, we'd only BD like 1-2 times a year, if that.

This is kind of how I've been feeling for the last 6mo-1yr. We aren't TTC right now (his choice, not mine) and for a multitude of reasons (him being stressed at/about work, my body-image/self-esteem and weight issues, etc.) our sex life has definitely decreased over the last couple of years.

It makes me sad; I'm really hoping that over the next few months, we can work through some of the overhanging things that we disagree on that I think are affecting our bedroom life...

[trekkingirl]

I'm sorry. I really had a lot of issues with my body after each of my kids were born. Especially with the first because of all the stretching. I gained 80lbs my first pregnancy, lost it all, then gained 50lbs with my second, and lost it all. That's a lot of stretching. I tend to dim the lights when I'm intimate these days. Hope you get to TTC very soon!

[carfreemama]

When TTC dd, our sex life didn't change very much. I have to admit, it WAS more fun; both from the excitement at what it could bring and also because I have always used condoms for BC and it was nice to feel bare skin! It only took us about 3 months to TTC dd and I was 35 at the time.

Now I'm 42 and we are TTC again. Dh is doing this entirely for me, because he knows how much I want another baby. I am very, very conflicted about this. I am full of love and gratitude for him being willing to go ahead with TTC, despite his own preferences (though he acknowledges he will be excited if we get pregnant)! Although I love sex with my DH, something doesn't feel right about DTD when this is so much more what I want. I almost feel sorry for him. I CARE about him and how he feels. So it's especially important to me that sex feels to him like it's for love and not just for a baby. So TTC intimacy doesn't have that feeling of shared excitement this time and it makes me anxious about approaching him when it's my fertile time. This, of course, is layered with the sense of urgency about my "advanced maternal age."