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post #21 of 132
My son had a four egg breakfast. My free range hens provided the eggs so they are organic and tasty.

For lunch at school he took a whole wheat bagel with four slices nitrate free organic lunch meat. And a out of the box granola bar.

Dinner, I'm making meatloaf from grass fed beef. I'll be serving rolls from a package at the store and a lovely side salad with as much organic produce as I can get my hands on.

For me, I do my best but I honestly don't have the time or money to eat organic everything or prepare everything from scratch. I figure my kids are eating better than a lot of their peers.
post #22 of 132
I totally am like this OP, I do believe that good nutrition is necessary and we do pretty well. Are we perfect? Oh lord no, but those who are obsessed with never having anything processed, well that's their own trip.

I personally live in an area where it is locavores to the max, in fact to the point it annoys me beyond belief. I remember when a local mother had her second child and was asking for people to make her food, but it could only be organic, grass-fed beef and a huge list of no-nos. Not due to allergies, but just because they choose to eat like that. The best part was that their 3 year old was not allowed sugar and treats, but the adults could. It's been years since I got that e-mail and it still annoys me beyond belief, beggars can't be choosers.

Now we had our fair share of "junk", but honestly compared to any of my ILs with one exception we are doing awesome. My ILs are the worst or the worst, kids with sodas, candy and just TONS of crap. We are known as the "sugar free"(which is not true) family. We have to limit DDs sugar intake so she doesn't get hyper and out of control, they all seem to think that is a normal thing or something. We have to have balance, and for us that is just fine.
post #23 of 132
I have water kefir and kombucha brewing in my pantry while there is a stack of bargain basement pizzas in the freezer. My grass-fed beef may be leaning against a tub of Breyer's. My Highlander Grog coffee is enhanced with raw fresh cream and stevia. You get the idea!
post #24 of 132
Me.

They even get HFCS sometimes. Since what it's in they eat in moderation, I'm not worried about it.

We eat mostly from scratch. They eat a lot of good stuff. What I'd really like to just avoid completely is *candy*, and around here it's all over the place from November through the end of the Easter season.
post #25 of 132
Yep, this is me.

We eat pretty well most of the time (easy to do when you've got 3 CSA farms almost within walking distance, as well as a ton of nearby dairies and poultry/meat operations!) but that's because it's easy and I'm lazy and cheap.

I don't care what other people eat, as long as we're not about to go for a long drive in a small car and it's going to give them major reeking farts.

I'm no Sustainable Saint, though I do try to do my best most of the time, don't expect anyone else to be either.
post #26 of 132
Yep. I have no desire to be 100% perfect. I work full time and split shifts with dad and don't use childcare for the vast majority of the time, so we are busy busy busy and spending time with my son is my biggest priority. A bigger priority than worrying about the fact that he had his first piece of pizza by 10 months.

I cook, we eat healthy, shop the farmers markets, etc. but I just don't have the inclination to be fanatical. My 12 month old is the BEST eater or I really don't worry.

Today he had:

Steel cut oats with dates
Almond butter on whole grain bread
banana pieces
crab cake
a few french fries (handmade)
homemade bread dipped in olive oil
sweet potato
cherries

and a LOT of breastmilk. This kid can eat!
post #27 of 132
To be honest, I think trying to be super-strict with food is often a way of trying to control the uncontrollable. It can have a kind of puritan aspect to it almost. Our parenting culture has a lot of messages that say "you must do this or you will ruin your kids, but if you toe the line you will avert disaster". And of course it isn't true.

I saw a couple on a documentary once who ate a special low calorie diet that had been shown to lengthen life somewhat - by about a year or so I think. But they had to spend a lot of time meal planning, and were constantly hungry. I thought they must spend more time thinking about food than they gained, assuming they weren't killed in an accident or something.
post #28 of 132
I stay pretty relaxed and look at the whole picture. I absolutely draw the line at fast food though. But I wouldn't eat that even before I was a Mom.
post #29 of 132
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Originally Posted by Amila View Post
Majority? Really? That is interesting, because I know that where I live, the vast majority of moms really feed their kids junk pretty much all the time. Kraft mac and cheese, hot dogs, pb&J, and pizza make up 90% of the food kids eat around here. The only fruits and veggies kids know about are bananas, apples, and oranges. Maybe carrots. I am usually the outcast for bringing healthy snacks for preschool. Maybe it is just my area?
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I don't see pb&j and pizza as junk food. Just sayin'. (Although we usually go for almond butter and j).
post #30 of 132
I am not only okay with MOSTLY healthy MOST of the time, I think rigid and strict diets with many forbidden foods is harmful in the long run as it relates to teaching children about food and eating.
post #31 of 132
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Originally Posted by Amila View Post
I have two friends who eat extremely selectively- as in, no processed anything, no gluten, no dairy, no sugar, etc. They cook everything from scratch, never go out to eat, and have to bring food with them wherever they go. They NEVER make exceptions either. They eat very healthy, and sometimes I leave feeling like the worst mom on the planet for having goldfish crackers in my purse...
I was okay with it...until my dd stopped growing and never slept, and couldn't poop without suppositories. She can't have gluten, dairy, soy, or eggs or she wakes up every 45 minutes, gets itchy rashes, ear infections, severe constipation, and stops growing. If I am not 100% perfect, I and my dd pay for it.
post #32 of 132
Yep that's us. DD eats very healthy stuff most of the time but does have treats every now and then. Actually DH is more strict than me but that's because he has food sensitivities and I can eat just about anything. But even DH lets her have occasional treats which he monitors carefully. DD loves her fruits and veggies, brown bread, pasta and rice, and oatmeal for breakfast. I agree that moderation is the key.
post #33 of 132
I'm totally with you. Dd has a ton of food allergies and in a way I think that's helped me be LESS strict where food is concerned. I mean, it's so rare that she can participate in ANY food-related events/activities that I feel it's especially important for her to experience "treats" and understand that food can be fun and not just something that marks her as "different."

Today, for instance, we had for dinner: leftover roasted organic chicken, lima beans, fresh organic strawberries, and...Annie's gluten-free mac and cheese from a box. And then dd had the ice cream sundae that I've been promising her for days--Breyer's chocolate ice cream, marshmallows, and ORGANIC chocolate syrup.

So we do eat our share of junk, but fast food isn't an option for dd, so I guess that's one thing I don't have to worry about. The only things we are absolutely religious about with her, besides her many allergens, are soda (she's still a toddler, so that's a given) and aspartame.
post #34 of 132
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Originally Posted by NYCVeg View Post
I'm totally with you. Dd has a ton of food allergies and in a way I think that's helped me be LESS strict where food is concerned. I mean, it's so rare that she can participate in ANY food-related events/activities that I feel it's especially important for her to experience "treats" and understand that food can be fun and not just something that marks her as "different."

Today, for instance, we had for dinner: leftover roasted organic chicken, lima beans, fresh organic strawberries, and...Annie's gluten-free mac and cheese from a box. And then dd had the ice cream sundae that I've been promising her for days--Breyer's chocolate ice cream, marshmallows, and ORGANIC chocolate syrup.

So we do eat our share of junk, but fast food isn't an option for dd, so I guess that's one thing I don't have to worry about. The only things we are absolutely religious about with her, besides her many allergens, are soda (she's still a toddler, so that's a given) and aspartame.
Whoa...Annie's has GLUTEN FREE mac and cheese?!?!?! Yeah! I've been stealing the packages of cheese mix to put on GF noodles. Then, I have to figure out what to do with a box worth of regular noodles... The rest of us can have them, but, still...

(And add me to the list who is a bit fanatical about ds's food consumption. It's funny, though, the more refined/processed it is, the less likely it is to cause him a problem. He can't have gluten, but seems to be okay with white flour, highly refined on occasion. HFCS Candy? No problem. A homemade whole wheat cookie...no way...rashes, bathroom trouble, belly ache, etc. The other day he had some whole grain...wheat free/GF...bread, and within an hour was curled up holding his belly. It really seems to be the whole grains with him. That said...my food choices for him can look really bizarre if I don't have the time or the inclination to explain them. It's a hard road to find balance for a kid who can't eat just anything without issue. I practically jumped for joy when dd2 had wheat for the first time and nothing bad happened!)
post #35 of 132
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Originally Posted by Norasmomma View Post
I totally am like this OP, I do believe that good nutrition is necessary and we do pretty well. Are we perfect? Oh lord no, but those who are obsessed with never having anything processed, well that's their own trip.

I personally live in an area where it is locavores to the max, in fact to the point it annoys me beyond belief. I remember when a local mother had her second child and was asking for people to make her food, but it could only be organic, grass-fed beef and a huge list of no-nos. Not due to allergies, but just because they choose to eat like that. The best part was that their 3 year old was not allowed sugar and treats, but the adults could. It's been years since I got that e-mail and it still annoys me beyond belief, beggars can't be choosers.
This is totally us, too! I do most of the shopping, so I can make it that most of the stuff at our house is fairly healthy, but sure we have pizza, candy, pop and such as well.

I'm sure a couple of my friends think I'm in the same boat as your orthodox puritanical locavores, but I'm not-- there are a lot of them where I live, too. Walking into the grocery co-op gives me the heebie-jeebies sometimes though because they are everywhere! I may try to get good quality food that we eat on a regular basis, but good Lord, live a little, people! Everyone is entitled to a little junk every now and then. That forbidden fruit factor is going to bite a few parents in the rear when their non-allergic kids get older and know exactly what button to push with mom and dad.

I would be irked to NO END about that new mom food request snobbery, too. Could she come off any more pretentiously? Damn. If she chooses to shop that way (as I often do too) and food allergies aren't an issue-- wonderful, but you don't go expecting others to rise to your standards WHEN YOU'RE ASKING FOR GIFTS. Is she going to help pay for the "premium" ingredients?
post #36 of 132
Nope, we are in the minority here on MDC. We eat a pretty mainstream American diet, as far as I know. DD usually eats an organic Pop Tart w/ organic whole milk for breakfast. If it's not that, it's Kashi oatmeal or a real homemade breakfast of organic eggs, pancakes (Arrowhead Mills mix), and regular sausage if we have it. I eat the oatmeal almost every morning w/ a glass of organic whole milk mixed w/ strawberry Nesquick. DD and I eat candy every day & we drink water, juice, Gatorade (dd does not like), Kool-Aid, and milk during the day. I'll drink soda if dh bought it (dd does not like). I loooove soda! Annie's Mac & Cheese, beanie weenies, grilled cheese, frozen chicken nuggets, pb&j.. Those are all lunchtime staples around here. We also happily eat frozen veggies & veggies w/ dip, & various fruits. We love cookies & Ritz crackers for snacks. I buy variety snack packs of cookies & Goldfish crackers b/c they are easy to toss in the diaper bag. I do make our dinner almost every night (meat & veggie), but I sometimes use McCormick seasonings & Zatarain's w/out guilt. Even Hamburger Helper!

It has been proven that sugar does NOT cause hyperactivity & I love sugar & junk food, as does dd. I do make sure that is not all that we are eating all day, but I rarely say no to a request for a cookie. I will eventually say no to candy requests b/c dd is not old enough to self-regulate in that dept yet. We have a big ole candy bowl & I love that. I really really just do not care about sugar intake. We do take-out pizza about once a week & we do go to McDonald's often enough that dd knows that nuggets & fries come from there. A couple times a month, I guess. I'm just not that interested in being the food police.

If we had allergies, yes, I would regulate more b/c of obvious safety reasons. There is everything a-okay w/ that!
post #37 of 132
I grew up with a mother who was pretty controlling over food. When she was on a health-food carob-and-toasted-chickpeas kick, so was everyone. When she was on a diet where there were no carbs, so was everyone. If she made the highly processed green bean casserole or wanted to go to McDonalds, you'd better appreciate it.

I am only grateful that many of the things we know about food now were not on the radar at the time because then it would have been death by a single pesticide laden apple peel if I brought home the wrong apple.

As a result I snuck and hoarded food. It wasn't that I was hungry per se. I just needed some autonomy. I also needed to get along with people who ate differently. I needed to find my own way.

As an adult I finally had my lightbulb moment. I could eat whatever I wanted whenever I wanted.

As soon as I realized that, my relationship to food changed dramatically for the better. It's one reason I'm here; I learned a lot about CSAs and how to make non-processed food and it did lead me more towards NFL, even if I don't really have the crunchy credentials of champions.

I believe there is also harm in stress and self-hatred and having to control every bite and arguing with family if they bring something full of HFCS over. There is toxic stuff in some food. We really do need to move our bodies and not eat in a way which makes us sick and diabetic and heart attack ridden.

But there are other toxic things. When worry about your food is making you feel sick, that's not a good thing.

In my first pregnancy, I did everything right. No mercury-laden tuna, no processed stuff, nothing. Guess what? My daughter died anyway. What do I wish she had gotten to experience? The love of her family, the wind in her hair, the sun on her face, some really lovely meals, and the joy of the odd freshly made french fry, the sweetness of a vanilla milkshake, the taste of cake on her wedding day.

I absolutely am ok with mostly healthy, most of the time.
post #38 of 132
I am ABSOLUTELY with you!
I had a friend who was the person you described. I just couldn't stay friends as she was bizzarre; I didn't mind most of what she did, but she ALWAYS minded what I did! I couldn't take it and nothing was fun, always stress, always nagging her children.

Live and let live, but remember that when you're at my house I guess!
post #39 of 132


Most of what we eat is made from scratch (thanks dh!) but we certainly don't abstain from sweets or convenience snacks (although I keep them organic!) We never eat at McDonalds though. I just can't support a company like that (for so many reasons) and I don't like eating food that is engineered that thoroughly/extensively.
post #40 of 132
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Originally Posted by Amila View Post
I know that where I live, the vast majority of moms really feed their kids junk pretty much all the time. Kraft mac and cheese, hot dogs, pb&J, and pizza make up 90% of the food kids eat around here. The only fruits and veggies kids know about are bananas, apples, and oranges.
oh. that stuff is junk?

my kid eats about 5 things on this earth. mac & cheese, pb&j, and pizza are on the list. ok, so are hotdogs. but i can't see the others as junk...

eta: and sugar DOES wig him out... sure doesn't seem to affect every other kid, but sure does mine.
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