If you don't chart...

[lindsey8]

do you just wing it?

I normally have a regular 28-29 day cycle, so we figure day 14 is the day and just DTD several days either way in case it's a little early or late.

I had a D&C about 7 weeks ago, first cycle was way long, about 36 days, so I'm unsure if this month will be a normal 28-29 or long 36. DH says we should just DTD every day until I either get AF or a BFP but that seems excessive

anyway...that's a long way of asking - do you use OPKs or just wing it? What if you have an irregular cycle?

or am I the only one who doesn't chart?

[karmab]

YES! you are the only one! ha, just kidding. but seriously, do you check your cervical position and cervical mucous? that tells you tons of info. it wont confirm that you o, but it will give you warning. when you are gearing up to o, your cervix will be high and soft, and your cm will be wet and/or slippery. if you notice those things, and want to double check with opks, you might catch the surge. if you cervix is low and firm and your cm is dried up, you will know you aren't about to o. in any case, none of those things will tell you for sure your egg actually was released, but they're good clues.

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by lindsey8

DH says we should just DTD every day until I either get AF or a BFP but that seems excessive

Actually, that's kind of how we do it We just DTD really often and wait it out...that's how we got DS

[lindsey8]

LOL - see, that's what we did the first 3 times, we just did it every day for like 8 or 9 days, 'cause I could ballpark it. I don't check anything, I mean, I know where my cervix is and I can tell the difference in mucus, but I don't check it, if that makes sense?

I've been so lucky to get pregnant the first try 3 times, but that was with normal cycles...and this trying right after a loss is throwing me for a loop!

[ORLY?]

I don’t chart.
I believe in it, I just don’t do it. Does that make sense? I've read TCOYF and everything.
I have a 29 day cycle and I’m an early Oer. Before I conceived my son I had ovulation spotting, after him I have ovulation pain as a tip-off.
The last two pregnancies only took two months of trying to conceive. I'm on my second month this time around, wish me luck.

If you don’t take your temperature, I’d suggest keeping an eye on your CM... and if you have time to DTD all the time that NEVER hurts.

It's all about knowing your cycle.

[Lousli]

For my first I didn't chart, I asked my OB at the time what he suggested as far as timing and he said every other day for the middle two weeks of my cycle. So we did, and my daughter was conceived on the first try. My second time around I sort of felt like I wanted more knowledge about my body and my cycles, I was breastfeeding and coming off the mini-pill, so I charted that time around.

This next time, starting this summer, I'm not yet sure if I will chart or not or just go by my fertility signs. My cycle is super regular (to the day) now and my fertility signs are very clear, so it may be that I just go with the flow or use only OPK's. I haven't decided yet and I still have some time to think about it.

[Climbergirl]

I don't chart, because I have to get out of bed a lot to tend to DS and I never know which bed I will wake up in. Kinda hopeless in that regard.

Last time, we had DTD every other day from the last day of my period to a point where I was really sure I had ovulated. This time, we are seriously winging it. We were traveling and staying in my mom's very large communal room (for visitors) with my sister, so needless to say, not much got done there. We did it the first day we got home and I think I had a positive OPK that day, but not super sure. Every day since then, it has gotten lighter and lighter, so I really hope we got it this time around!

If not, then I will probably start buying thermometers and stash one in each bedroom and hope DS doesn't find it. And do OPK tests every day from the end of my period, just to be sure. And DTD probably every other day again. But I tend to go overboard with things like this

[mommytoallh]

You aren't the only one! I do not chart. I do not have regular cycles. I do check cm & postion and wing it. Often times I wish I had a chart, but it doesn't really fit in my lifestyle. Co-sleeping and random child & dh waking.... I think it's normal to have an irregular cycle after a m/c. If you are generally regular, I say start bding cd10 and keep going until you feel your cervix close and dry up. That's what we do. Good luck!

[lindsey8]

I'm so glad I'm not alone!

I know it sounds weird, but I just don't want to have to think about it that much - and to be perfectly honest, I'm sooooo lucky that I've never had to.

This weird post m/c cycle thing is throwing me for a loop

[alexsam]

I'm sorry about your loss .

No, never charted and I've got 2. I'm pretty irregular and the dr. said "Well, sperm can live about 48 hours, so if you DTD about every two days, there will always be sperm in the tract whenever ovulation happens."

So... we did that.

It worked . Twice.

Was it a glorious physical expression of our unending love every time? Uh, no. But, I could think of a lot worse things!

(Conversation while ttc#1 after 3 months. Me: "Let's go." Him: "I'm tired..." Me: "I don't care." Him: "But... I have a stuffy nose..." Me: "I don't care. Get in that bedroom." Him: "Can I take a shower first?" Me: "No. This won't take long." Him: "I'm not a piece of meat!" )

[SaraBravo]

Ii like the idea of dtd every day from end of af to begining of af or a bfp. But that's just me I could dtd several times a day and want more lol... is that bad ... abnormal for a female?

[mommytoallh]

Originally Posted by SaraBravo

Ii like the idea of dtd every day from end of af to begining of af or a bfp. But that's just me I could dtd several times a day and want more lol... is that bad ... abnormal for a female?

Consider yourself lucky not abnormal!!! My dh has an overdrive sexdrive & I wish I could keep up.

[CLH_X3]

Originally Posted by alexsam

(Conversation while ttc#1 after 3 months. Me: "Let's go." Him: "I'm tired..." Me: "I don't care." Him: "But... I have a stuffy nose..." Me: "I don't care. Get in that bedroom." Him: "Can I take a shower first?" Me: "No. This won't take long." Him: "I'm not a piece of meat!" )

Haha, Love this!

Sounds similar to myself a bit except on the end he will say 'you only want me for my sperm'

YUP.. Hurry up

[CLH_X3]

Originally Posted by SaraBravo

Ii like the idea of dtd every day from end of af to begining of af or a bfp. But that's just me I could dtd several times a day and want more lol... is that bad ... abnormal for a female?

same here!
your not abnormal

[SaraBravo]

Originally Posted by alexsam

(conversation while ttc#1 after 3 months. Me: "let's go." him: "i'm tired..." me: "i don't care." him: "but... I have a stuffy nose..." me: "i don't care. Get in that bedroom." him: "can i take a shower first?" me: "no. This won't take long." him: "i'm not a piece of meat!" )

awesome! Lmao! Hahaha

[~Demeter~]

I have 4 and am pregnant with #5. The extent of my charting is recording when AF happens so I have a ballpark idea of my cycles. With this last one I had a miscarriage 6 weeks before conceiving. I expected my cycle to be off for a bit but I was within the realm of regular. I was a little more aware of cervical mucous and actually recording some of those signs.... though we weren't trying, I really hoped to get pregnant. About 2 weeks exactly from AF we had a bit of an oops and here I am. Totally didn't think it would happen like that. Anyway... I do not think you need to chart to conceive, though it can surely help pinpoint any problems if you have any and also make you more aware of your cycles. I, too, don't want to think too much about the logistics.

[MaerynPearl]

Df loves to DTD and easily could daily, but twice a day is pushing it for him... For me sometimes twice isn't even enough lol...

Not a bad thing at all.

[lindsey8]

I love this thread!!

Yeah, I wouldn't say doing it every day for 10 days is exactly an expression of our love for each other -- we have conversations like that too!

me - do we hafta? really?
DH - do you wanna get pregnant or not?
me - ok, fine, if I have to. but be fast, ok?

We DTD from last Thursday until this Wednesday, then I took a night off and we DTD last night. I think I've ovulated, but I'm not taking any chances since the first post-m/c cycle was so long, so I think we'll give it a couple more days and cross our fingers.

The extent of my charting is to put a big ol' red X on the calender on CD1

[myk]

i haven't been charting. if this isn't our lucky month, i'll start, but for the time being i settled for BDing every couple of days until i got a +opk, and then right away again right after it. i think every day would have been a bit much for me personally, but i think every couple of days is almost as good statistically.