Looking for "dad" stories

[hrsmom]

Hi- I'm collecting "dad" stories for my dd. She actually doesn't know her dad, and who knows if she will ever meet him. (He was a friend, his name is not on the birth certificate, and we currently have no contact.) I'm starting to think about how I will tell her the story of her dad, and I would like to share with her stories of other dads. (Plus, I'm a story-collector, I love hearing people's stories!) So I'd love to hear about your children's dads. Do they live with their dad? How often do they see/do things with their dad? Do they have a step-dad? Live with just dad? Live with dad and step-mom? Is dad deceased? Were they adopted? Etc. Etc. Every story is different, and I'd love to hear them all! In this thread, or PM, whatever works for you! I'm thinking about putting this in a book for my dd.

Thank you for sharing!

[mummyofan]

I'll word it 'properly' and pass it on.

(as in when I've enough time to do it!)

[hrsmom]

Thank you!

[GoBecGo]

DD (4) helped me to write this:

My DD has two dads. One is her Dada, he helped make her when she was a tiny baby inside mama's tummy. But he and her mama didn't get along well and made each other unhappy, so after DD was born they decided to live apart. DD was a tiny baby when she and mama moved to their own place, but she still saw dada about 4 days in every week, sometimes more, so she doesn't miss him too much. On Tuesdays Dada comes to see DD in her house where she lives most of the time, they play together and have a lot of fun. On Thursdays after playgroup DD and her Mama meet Dada in town in a special place (a cafe/bar actually!) where all the staff know and like DD and where she and dada can read, draw and play. Mama reads a book and joins in with their games when requested. Saturday night is special because it's Dada-night, when DD goes to stay in her room at Dada's house. On Sunday Dada and DD spend all day doing fun things and playing.

DD also has a daddy, he is her step-father. She and Mama moved into a house with him when DD was nearly 3. In the mornings DD gets up and daddy makes her breakfast and the two of them chat and spend time together while mama sleeps in a little. DD loves to sit with daddy while he has a shower or shaves. When Daddy shaves he lets DD put the soap on her face, helps her rinse it off, and gives her some "monsteriser" to make her skin soft afterwards. Daddy also takes mama and DD swimming every week and loves to splash and play with her. Sometimes daddy puts DD to bed and he always reads her an extra story. This summer daddy and mama are having a baby called pop-pop and then DD will be a big sister, which is Very Exciting.

[mommy212]

My husband and I got married because we accidently got pregnant (whoops!) when I was 18, and he was 20. He is going to boot camp next this june. LO will be 7 1/2 months when he leaves- we are just hoping he doesn't totally forget his dad while he is gone (he will be back in december).

But the most special story is when my baby was born. they had to take him away from me for a few minutes right after he came out because he had breathed in the meconium, so I didn't get to go to him immediately, but DH did.He went over to DS on the table and said "Hi, Orion. hey there." Orion immediately quieted and looked at him, and grabbed his finger and held on to it while they sucked the stuff out of his mouth and lungs. But it was so sweet- he recognized his voice

[hrsmom]

Thank you both of you!!

[Bellamaphone]

My husband and I have been married for less than a year. We have been together for nearly four and our daughter is nearly two. She has still yet to warm up completely to daddy. I've never been quite sure what it was that kept her from warming up but I suppose it could be a combination of things. He works out of the house full time days, and he is also a musician making him away alot of evenings as well.
When he is home he is often tired and lacks energy. He interacts with her as much as possible including during his tired times. But I think that perhaps one can sense his detachment due to his exhaustion.
I am in school and often times when DH is home I am not so I also feel that she sees him as an obstacle to me. As in she knows that seeing daddy often times results in me leaving and she made this connection very early on.
I know she will eventually love him more and cut him a little slack. And they do, have special rituals together right now regardless. Things like sharing cereal or toast in the ten minutes he has early in the morning before he leaves. He bathes her nearly every night and they play silly little games in the tub. He is the chief artist in residence and draws all of her requests.
He is a very good daddy when he is here. And one day when I am done school he will no longer have to work so hard and then he can be home with us more often.

[kcstar]

My husband and I would each read a story to DS before he was born. DH usually picked Dr. Seuss's ABC's as one of his primary books. DS was born in the hospital, and for his baby photo they wanted him in this cold, hard bassinet. That and the flashing lights bothered little DS, so daddy started reciting the story to him. DS instantly calmed down.

In our family, Daddy stays home with DS while Mommy goes to work. So daytime is his "Daddy time", evenings are usually "Family time", and night is "Mommy time".