~*February '08 Mamas and Toddlers*~ Spring Thread!! *April-June* - Page 3

[PlayaMama]

lauren- i nightweaned lazlo when i was in pretty much the same place you are. i just.needed.sleep. he was 18 months and it was pretty much a cold turkey type deal. he sleeps great now. i think i may just do the same with linnaea though she's already better about it.

ahh, i have to get to work.

rynna- depending on the college you can test out of courses and get credit for them. it might be worth looking into?

[Teenytoona]

Hello all! Lauren, go ahead and nightwean, I think. However, I have no idea how to manage it with a baby. For the past week or so we've been finally (finally!!!) able to work on a solution for nightweaning DD. She usually wakes up when I'm anywhere near her and wants to nurse, with cosleeping nightweaning has been completely impractical, and she refuses to sleep in her bed. So, for the past week or so, I'm sleeping downstairs on the couch. She sleeps with DH and she has been waking up about once a night, he gives her some water, and she's back to bed. I've been sleeping better (waking up less, too), and so has DH and so has DD. Except for the fact that DH and I really love sleeping and cuddling together, this really has been a boost. Now we just have to figure out how to get her to sleep in her own bed so DH and I can cuddle the night away. That's a ways off, but it's been really good to get some solid night's sleep this past week.

Well maybe that will work for you, do you have somewhere else that you can sleep with baby away from Robyn and can your DH do Robyn's nighttime parenting?

[Mommy2Austin]

DH and I went out on Saturday night and had fun, but tension is still high around here. The word 'divorce' has come up more than once. So we're making good use of the job benefits I have for free counseling and making an appt. We have to do something before 'divorce' becomes a reality instead of just a word.

The kids are doing ok. Just the same as any other day. Right now we're trying to take it day by day to not end up another statistic...

[PlayaMama]

oh sarah lynne!! :

counseling can be really helpful and you are in SUCH a difficult place right now with a new baby and your schooling and him transitioning into being the sah parent. i think you are right to take it one day at a time. have you been able to scrape together any funds for your anxiety meds? i'm thinking of you!

[Mommy2Austin]

Originally Posted by PlayaMama

oh sarah lynne!! :

counseling can be really helpful and you are in SUCH a difficult place right now with a new baby and your schooling and him transitioning into being the sah parent. i think you are right to take it one day at a time. have you been able to scrape together any funds for your anxiety meds? i'm thinking of you!

I'm trying 5-htp for the moment. I can't afford the $25 co-pay to get the prescription that costs $10...DH has been taking it in place of his adderal and its been helping him a lot. So we shall see. I know its uncharted territory when it comes to taking it and breastfeeding, but at this point I think its worth the risk.

Steven just crawled up on my lap to stare at the smiley's

[Teenytoona]

Sarah Lynne, Gosh it's so hard. Yeah I threw that big D at DH several times in DD's first year/DH's 1st gung-ho year with his new religion. I"m sorry you're going through this. Not to be a pusher, but have you read The Mood Cure? I'm wondering because along with 5-htp, another thing you could take is GABA. And, I happened to way over-order it (I thought I'd need it for at least a year, but didn't), so I've got 2 100-capsule bottles just sitting around if you'd like them. But I'd advise reading up on it first before deciding yes. Anyways, they're yours if you'd like them.

[eilonwy]

Teeny, where can we read more about 5-HTP? I heard a rumor that it might help me sleep... and taking 15-20 mg of Ambien isn't exactly my favorite thing to do (especially when I have to take it with NyQuil to be effective ).

[Mommy2Austin]

Originally Posted by eilonwy

Teeny, where can we read more about 5-HTP? I heard a rumor that it might help me sleep... and taking 15-20 mg of Ambien isn't exactly my favorite thing to do (especially when I have to take it with NyQuil to be effective ).

I actually found a book about it at the thrift store.

[Teenytoona]

I got The Mood Cure from the library and read it through like it was food and I was starving. It really really helped. Also there's a thread or two in health with 5-htp, and also something in the PPD forum called "a true natural remedy" which I also got alot of information from. Seriously, after I started on that regimen, I feel like a light's been turned on, I think it got flipped off when DD was a few weeks old. heh.

I hope it can help! I don't take either GABA or HTP anymore regularly. I take HTP occasionally, but I don't feel like I need them anymore on a day to day basis.

Actually I have some 5-htp left. They're 100 mg capsules (where the book recommends 50 mg to start, but I was trying to be frugal). It's not a full bottle, but you're welcome to what I have, if you want to try it.

Oh and by the way, DD corrected me today! I am always stumbling over words, and frequently say the wrong thing or just say thing/ie instead. Well I told her to come down the steps so I can put her in her chair (meaning carseat). She told me "you mean seat!" D'oh!!

[Dea]

hi mamas!
what is htp?
and can you believe that Hudson is 3 months old? ack!

[ema-adama]

Oooh, I need that thread on inostol and 5HTP. It's not that big of a surprise, but I am quite miserable. Not really wanting to be pregnant, not feeling at all bonded with this baby, just wanting to be left alone..... and just not really managing day to day life right now.

I am going into therapy, which is a good thing. I found a feminist organisation that does not charge an arm and a leg, and they are not into the whole paternalistic style of therapy that really annoyes me.... first meeting on wednesday.

I really hope that this sorts itself out. I don't really want to tell people yet that I am pregnant, as I just don't know how to deal with the happiness expressed, when I am so not happy.

Anyway, enough whining from me.

Sarah Lynne, .

I'm going to look into the mood cure book too.

[eilonwy]

Megan, I hope you're feeling better soon.

I'm feeling fan-freaking-tastic. Beltaine was just incredible! I forgot to get a pseudonym out of my lover, but aside from that things were just brilliant. Best Beltaine yet, and he says to me, "Of course next year will be better" just like it's perfectly self-evident... and it is. I'm crazy in love with this man, he just complements me in every way. We're ridiculously happy.

[Mommy2Austin]

Originally Posted by eilonwy

Megan, I hope you're feeling better soon.

I'm feeling fan-freaking-tastic. Beltaine was just incredible! I forgot to get a pseudonym out of my lover, but aside from that things were just brilliant. Best Beltaine yet, and he says to me, "Of course next year will be better" just like it's perfectly self-evident... and it is. I'm crazy in love with this man, he just complements me in every way. We're ridiculously happy.

You should just call him Beltaine :P

Had a fantabulous weekend! Much needed after the long week...

Still having panic attacks...not sure what I'm gonna do about it.

Austin turns 4 today! I'm feeling a little nostalgic and slightly aged lol

[sarahn4639]

Megan, I'm so sorry you are still having a rough time! I hope you find the therapist very helpful. I'll be thinking of you and please let us know how it goes!

Saray Lynne, Yay for a good weekend. I really hope you can find something to help with the anxiety attacks. Anxiety is so difficult to live with. HAppy birthday Austin and Sarah Lynne!!

Rynna, yay for happiness! Are you still seeing THR?

Dea, I can't believe it's been 3 months already! He's so adorable!!

Carrie, how are things with the move and school going?

I'm wrapping my brain around a new baby coming and if I wasn't so darn sick, I'd be pretty excited! I'm using a new midwife this time and we meet her for the first time on Thursday, she wants a dating ultrasound since my dates are pure guessing. I didn't want one at first, but now I'm excited to see a heartbeat and get reassurance that there's only one! We'll probably do that next week sometime, so I'll be 8 weeks. I feel a little better today and that is an absolute blessing!! I have felt so terrible this time! I had a really difficult overnight birth last week that was a homebirth turned transfer and then my kids wouldn't nap so I went from 7am on Tuesday to 9pm Wednesday without sleep and it was bad. Then James started running a fever that night and then Grace got so I haven't even had a decent nights sleep since last Tuesday and it's been hard!! I have another client due next week and I'm kind of dreading it at this point. I will just be smarter and ask my sitter to keep the kids while I nap befoer getting them if it's an all nighter. I have to take better care of myself! The kids are SO EXCITED about a new baby. Grace checks my belly first thing every morning to see how much it's grown (it's still just fat, os no real changes yet!) and they talk to and rub the baby. I can't wait until they can feel it move! Grace calls the baby "she" and "baby sister", she did that when I was pregnant wiht James too and she's accepted him pretty well so I'm hoping it will be okay with her either way!

Do any of you remember how long it was until we started bonding in our DDC? I am thinking it was towards the end of the pregnancies. A new DDC feels really weird, I'm really glad Megan is there with me, it's nice to have a familiar "face"

[eilonwy]

Originally Posted by Mommy2Austin

You should just call him Beltaine :P

I like to get their input, but I'll ask him what he thinks. I'm desperately looking forward to seeing him again. I'm sure you all think I'm crazy, especially as this time last year I was all about THRH and I haven't talked about him in a while... but it's not exactly the same.

I haven't heard from THRH in a while. I'm tentatively planning to go visit him a week from Friday, and hopefully things will go well. Everything that was remotely difficult about my relationship with THRH is blessedly simple with this other fellow, though. It's difficult to explain without furthering the impression that I'm crazy, I think, so I'll stop.

[Dea]

sarah, I found it awkward with Hudson's DDC too, I still find it a little odd, I guess nothing can match this group!

Rynna, you make me smile.

and what is htp?

[eilonwy]

So I sent my lover a text and he replied, "My pseudonym is Jason." So that's that-- he's Jason. He's gorgeous.

[Mommy2Austin]

Originally Posted by Dea

sarah, I found it awkward with Hudson's DDC too, I still find it a little odd, I guess nothing can match this group!

Rynna, you make me smile.

and what is htp?

5-HTP is a supplement that's supposed to help with the production of seratonin (sp?) in the brain which the lack of can cause the symptoms of depression and anxiety as well as a host of other things. I haven't been able to get myself to take anything regularly...

I did find the other day I was feeling an attack come on and we were doing PT. I think the exercise actually did help for the temporary period, because while I still felt a little blue if you will, I didn't feel like my heart was coming out of my chest.

I haven't study for my test today I just didn't feel up to it yesterday. Thankfully we have 2 hours of "self-study" before the actual test so I should be fine.

[eilonwy]

Sarah Lynne, I hope the test went well. I've been studying math in my "spare time" and that's going pretty well for me. I kind of feel like I want to go back to school but I'm not absolutely certain... I think I might just want to do all the learning/knowledge acquisition stuff I can manage and put it to use without necessarily getting my degree. Who knows. Jason's promised to start mailing me homework assignments. Have I mentioned that he's a mathematician? He loves my random, weird obsession with math. Who knew? I'm kind of stoked to be with a guy who is better at math than I am.

[Mommy2Austin]

Originally Posted by eilonwy

Sarah Lynne, I hope the test went well. I've been studying math in my "spare time" and that's going pretty well for me. I kind of feel like I want to go back to school but I'm not absolutely certain... I think I might just want to do all the learning/knowledge acquisition stuff I can manage and put it to use without necessarily getting my degree. Who knows. Jason's promised to start mailing me homework assignments. Have I mentioned that he's a mathematician? He loves my random, weird obsession with math. Who knew? I'm kind of stoked to be with a guy who is better at math than I am.

96% and I didn't really study I wish Math was a part of my curriculum because I love it! But alas it's not.