your MIL was all sensible so you can't say something like the following to your dh:"awwww honey, I'm sorry your mom feels bad for letting them CUT YOUR PENIS when you were a tiny baby, but it's not going to help her feel less guilty to slice away our small helpless son's flesh."
Grrr. In any case, I guess he went to talk to his parents, who live close by, even though I thought it would have been better to wait and bring this up AFTER the baby. My FIL, bless his heart, is not exactly with us on it, but at least he said "eh, you'll love him and enjoy him and it will end up being no biggie." My MIL, however, is a fusspot, and she keeps emailing dh things like (I heard there was this one guy in Ireland who got phimosis at 21 and had to be circumcised then....) So now I am back in aggravationville, trying to get dh back into the right frame of mind that THIS REALLY ISN'T SUCH A BIG DEAL. Our son's penis will NOT self destruct in a puff of smoke and the sun will come up the day after he is born despite our decision to do things our own way. I know, this story gets repeated again and again ad nauseum on this board, but I just want to vent to people who are on the logic band wagon. My argument MAKES SENSE and is literally being stacked up against thin air and people question why I am the weird one? I basically told MIL that she made her decision 30ish years ago and now it is my turn. Butt out. No further discussion necessary. To dh, I restated that I have nothing but respect for what I know is a very difficult thing for him to aknowledge, but that he really knows deep down what is the right thing to do. I do not feel like I am just steamrolling over him, and took great pains to listen to him. I can't wait until this baby comes so everyone will just shut up and get over it!! 
. Ds is beautiful and intact, and both MIL and DH are supportive now, and it is nice to hear them discuss it with other family members in those terms. I guess they have become intactivists in a way, just by way of their verbal support.
According to him that meant that my DS wasn't his real grandson. Guess who hasn't seen DS since he was a week old?
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