i've thought about this too. it would be weird for me to go back to my maiden name as that hasn't been my name for 10 years. it would also be weird to keep dh's last name, because i don't want to be mrs. lastname for pete's sake, yet that's the name soooooooo many people know me by (and is my kids' last name). plus i think, if i ever get married again - even if that's not for 10 or 20 years - then, what, am i going to change it again??? madness!
if i change it, i probably wouldn't change my kids'. their dad is still their dad. and i grew up having a different last name from my mother. i had my dad's last name. she changed back to her maiden name. then 10 years later, she got married and changed it again - so even if she had kept her married name, or changed mine to her maiden name, i still would have eventually had a different last name from my mother anyway when she became mrs. stepdad. i don't recall it being a big deal that it was different from hers though. it was my dad's last name, which seemed normal to me that i would have his last name even though i lived with mom.
"we're divorced" or "my parents are divorced" is simple and common enough, nobody would need any more explanation than that as to why kids have different last names from parents.
just my rambling thoughts. i guess ultimately i'm trying to say that whatever you want to do should be fine!
