Did he really just say that??

[BethMama]

My husband and I have a 20 month old, and my three DSC are with us six wks a yr (they just spent Easter break with us). My neighbor just noticed I am pregnant (nearly 6 mos. along). He came up to my husband and I and said to me, "After having the kids out, you really want ANOTHER one??" After I said yes, we do, and are very excited about this baby, he turned to my husband and said, "What about you?"

What on earth would possess someone to say something so offensive?! This baby is hoped for, wanted, loved already!! Maybe instead of being irate, I should feel bad for his kids....

[RedOakMomma]

Yeah. I'd feel bad for him. It's sad if that's the way you feel about children.

[thefreckledmama]

Pregnancy has the ability to de-activate people's brain/mouth filters when they come within hearing distance...this strange anomaly also seems to occur over the phone.

[IAMommy]

I remember a comment like that when I was pregnant with the first baby that I miscarried. I told an acquaintance that I might be pregnant, and that I was really glad because I thought it was time to start having kids. She asked "why?". I didn't speak to her again after that. How rude. Just because she doesn't want kids doesn't mean other people don't enjoy them. I wasn't asking her to take care of them.

[beckyand3littlemonsters]

i just wouldn't give people like this the time of day.

[BreakfastyMichele]

I think it speaks volumes about his life. I feel bad for his kids (and his wife.)

[lunarlady]

My word, I guess when you said "we are very excited" he thought you were speaking for yourself and your bump? And did he really think your husband would say something like "Well, I'm not excited but you know how women are..." with you standing right there? Seriously, some people are dense!

[huggingmama]

Ugh. Some people really have issues.

This weekend we told people over Easter. Both halves of a couple DH and I know (we told them in advance in part b/c they have had fertility issues, now are in the process of trying to adopt their foster child) came up to me separately, looking dubious. The first thing the guy said: "And you're sure you want another one?"

Well, no. Maybe I should just send the baby back. I mean, what the hell? (This couple has been getting on my nerves lately... now that they're finally parents, they're very judgemental of other parents. I assume that, as with your neighbor, they're working through their own issues.)

[violet_]

A friend said something like that to me. This is my first pregnancy, and my DH has 2 children. When I told this person I was pregnant, he responded, "This is what, number 3 or 4 for your husband?" I said, "this is our first" (as he well knew) and glared a bit. He got the idea pretty quickly. MIL tried something similar, and I wanted to bite her head off. Not a good idea to suggest to a pregnant lady that her child is in any way superfluous.

[Kuba'sMama]

Originally Posted by violet_

Not a good idea to suggest to a pregnant lady that her child is in any way superfluous.

I think this sums it up really well!

[lotusma]

omg. unbelievable.

i had an aquaintence come up to me last time and say: "you want me to have a talk w/ your husband?" as if we can't get this baby thing under control and need intervention.

some effing people.