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DH works, he's military and has up to 30% of the month off. When he works, he's gone for 36 hours and then stays home for 36 hours. So overall, he's home quite a bit for working full-time just with the little issue of him being gone for 1.5 days about 5-8 times per month, depending on the schedule. During his time in his bunker, he gets to watch satellite TV with Starz, has an internet connection and only here and there has to do something. Of course sometimes it's a bit rougher, but mostly he comes back home having watched 4 movies or so.

I work too, full-time. And I don't get a break. I'm a babysitter, teacher, cook, maid, bookkeeper, financial adviser, mechanic, computer repairwoman, head shopper, family-business-boss, researcher... And so on. When DH comes home, I expect him to help. He does spend time with DS. I cook cause I'm good at it and he isn't. He cleans a lot cause I hate it and he doesn't, he does the lawn mowing and spider killing. I do laundry, clean the litter boxes. I don't think I'm asking too much here.

When DH comes home, there's food, it's reasonably clean, DS is fed and happy, there's clean laundry... So I think I can expect quite some help there. I need some time for myself, DH gets it during his job all the time. And he does help me out a lot, but moans about it here and then, but then realizes that his sister is a SAHM with maids, two grandmas, a gardener and supportive husband, while I only have the latter, so he does say often that I have it "harder" and acknowledges all the work I do. I do think the work of stay at home parents is completely undervalued.
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Originally Posted by Kelly1101 View Post
I think this is the summation of the thread:


Some women do all or the majority of the housework and don't mind a bit, and that's just fine.
Some women split the housework, and that's just fine.
Some women do all of the majority of the housework despite asking their husband for help, and that ain't fine.
Well said.
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