League of Ladies Who Will Still Be Pregnant in 2016 - Page 18

[Pepper44]

Yay JSH!!! I hope you had a baby last night!

Pooping like a diseased animal.
Mine cleaned itself out last night...and then I had mild contractions for hours, and then they tapered off and I fell asleep. I had a sex dream (lol thank you pregnancy hormones!) and during the sex in my dream I had to stop because I was having a contraction. I don't know why, but that seems really funny. I must have been having one in my sleep at that moment?

I've had a few since waking up, but nothing promising. Baby is still cooking I guess. All the ones I had last night caused me to efface more though, I think it's right around 75% now or maybe even more!

DD and I had cookies for breakfast. Living dangerously over here. I should go make some eggs before the crash...

[waiting2bemommy]

well, I was super crampy all last night, but nothng materialized. So I have three days left because SO is still insistig on induction if she's not here by Wednesday. I'm starting to feel desperate because i'm afraid my body just won't do what it needs to do in time, and I'm going to end up in the hospital with every intervention/experience I didn't want. Plus I spent so much time researching and convincing my family that homebirth is safeand wonderful, that to end up in the hosital after going to grea lenghts to have the homebirth I wanted, feels like a tremendous irony, and a failure. Especially when it's not a lif-or-death transport situation. I'm the only person I know IRL who does ths stuff.....not having a home birth is a much a defeat for me as it would be if I ended up formula feeding or someething. I'm just feeling really anxious and stressed right now and mad at m body for not doing wha I want/need it to do. SO will not budge on Wednesday, and this is his child as much as mine, so I feel that his opinion needs to be respected too. I just am so sad that things aren't going the way I hoped.

[kristencarder]

charlie is here! after my castor oil milkshake, blue/black cohosh AND my midwife breaking my water, my little man finally consented to being born at 42 weeks gestation! charlie michael was born 4/16/10 at 9:16am in our bedroom on a birthstool!! it was the hardest, most intense experience of my life, but it was amazing. just wanted to let ya'll know thanks for the support this last week!

[Shazer]

Originally Posted by laughingfox

I think Shazar is her husband's wife..
I had to reread that like 4 times before I realized you meant to ask if it was her husband's sister. I was like "huh?"

Shazar- I have one of those drama families sometimes, and it has to be the most draining thing ever. I hope it blows over soon!

LOL. Yes I am my husband's wife. It is his drama queen sister who went into labor. We live super close and DH and his family all work at the same company. So any drama gets magnified 1000 times because of proximity.

Waiting2be . . . I'm so sorry your SO is not willing to compromise. Can you two go for a long walk and just talk through all that you are feeling? Maybe direct him to your research? That is so tough. Hugs to you.

[leavemealone]

Originally Posted by kristencarder

charlie is here! after my castor oil milkshake, blue/black cohosh AND my midwife breaking my water, my little man finally consented to being born at 42 weeks gestation! charlie michael was born 4/16/10 at 9:16am in our bedroom on a birthstool!! it was the hardest, most intense experience of my life, but it was amazing. just wanted to let ya'll know thanks for the support this last week!

Congrats!

[smeisnotapirate]

Originally Posted by sehbub

Jess, good luck!!

Starting day 3 of labor. Good times.

I went 3 days with DS - good luck to you! Try to rest.

Originally Posted by waiting2bemommy

SO will not budge on Wednesday, and this is his child as much as mine, so I feel that his opinion needs to be respected too. I just am so sad that things aren't going the way I hoped.

I agree that his opinion needs to be respected, but remember that it's YOUR body that will be intervened upon and YOU who will be recovering from surgery/induction. You don't have to give in to his fears if you don't feel comfortable.

Originally Posted by kristencarder

charlie is here! after my castor oil milkshake, blue/black cohosh AND my midwife breaking my water, my little man finally consented to being born at 42 weeks gestation! charlie michael was born 4/16/10 at 9:16am in our bedroom on a birthstool!! it was the hardest, most intense experience of my life, but it was amazing. just wanted to let ya'll know thanks for the support this last week!

Congrats!!!

Still no baby. I made it through the retreat and will now be going to a wedding with a bunch of male college friends. Tempting fate? Perhaps. I plan on dancing like crazy.

[laughingfox]

waiting2bemommy-
Sorry if this is a stupid/repeated question (my brain is broken), but do you have a homebirth midwife?
Are you still seeing her? How does she feel about all the doctor pressure and the arbitrary deadline for induction? Does she have a cut-off date of her own?

If she knows that medical induction is the only alternative, is she willing to step up the "natural" induction methods? My midwife will do what kristencarter's did if you go past 42 weeks, other methods aren't working, and you need to get the baby out- castor oil, ROM, etc. She also recommends an electric breastpump (do you have one, or a friend who could loan you one?)
I know ROM is pretty drastic (and a lot of midwives are opposed to it), but if you and your midwife is comfortable with it, ROM + natural induction might be worth a shot if the only alternative is ROM + pitocin..?

Yes, your SO is a parent of the baby in your belly, but his parental rights don't trump your right to your own bodily integrity.
I really hope you guys can find some common ground here.

[GreenTeaGinger61]

Go Jess!!!!
Congratulations Kristen

Waiting2bemommy: I was wondering the same things about your midwife. My midwife ended up breaking my water when my contractions that had gotten me to 8 started to taper off (well we did some other things as well and she gave us the choice). There are other things to try first I would think. And well this is your so's baby it is your body. My dh and I initially had some conflict over where this birth would happen, and I ended up having to pull the "my body" card. He ended up being very happy with that choice. But for me it came down to the simple fact that I was going to be the one who was pushing the little sucker out not him.

Good luck to the rest of you. Sehub I thought you were voted off?!

[sehbub]

Originally Posted by sanguine_speed

You've been in labour for 72 hours? Dear Heavens!!!!

How on earth are you even posting here, nevermind conscious?

ELV from here on out!!!!

Not 72 hours straight no.

8am Fri to 8am Sat
2pm Sat to 1130pm Sat
10am Sun - present

So, 24+9.5+4.25=37.75? So far.

I'm freaking mentally exhausted. Just so done.

[sanguine_speed]

Originally Posted by sehbub

Not 72 hours straight no.

8am Fri to 8am Sat
2pm Sat to 1130pm Sat
10am Sun - present

So, 24+9.5+4.25=37.75? So far.

I'm freaking mentally exhausted. Just so done.

Oh , I hope you are getting rest in between. I had a similar labor with my second and I appreciate how hard and exhausting it can be.

[waiting2bemommy]

He isn't trying to be a "jerk" or a dictator, believe me. I am a whole new kind of experience forhim and almost everything about my parenting is totaly different to him. He was raised very mainstream and since he met me he has been slammed with a crash coursein cosleeping, non-vaxing, bf'ing and less punitive parenting (because "our" 2 yo is not his and he had to get on board with how I was raising him). He has agreed to bf'ing til 18 months which is ok with me, and not vaxing the kids until they are at least 4. So while I don't want an induction, you have to unerstand that for a first time dad who a year ago had never even HEARD of a midwife or home birth, he has been very open minded and willing to try things "my way" even though it made him vaguely nervous.

Unfortunately my MW pretty much just says to wait it out and if the baby isn't here by Wednesday she will be happy to talk to SO and try and convince him (but I know him) and at that point if he still insists on inducing she would make sure one of her assistants was at the hospital with us for support, which is wnderful, but she does not do any kind of inducing. She even told me not to do the cohoshes or castor oil or anything else. I would be fine with her stripping my membranes now, to give it a chance to work before wednesday, but I don't think she'll go for it.

Sorry for a novel.....

[sanguine_speed]

Originally Posted by waiting2bemommy

He has agreed to bf'ing til 18 months which is ok with me,

It strikes me as odd that he'd need to agree to your nursing your child to a certain age. I say so because I wonder if you'd otherwise think it's a normal type of thing for someone to negotiate. Why would he want you to stop at an arbitrary age?

I agree that the decision to induce is not just about your baby. If it was just a parenting decision, then you might get equal say. However, you are the person, the emotional and physical person, that has to live the induction now and for always.

[crazyeight]

waiting~ maybe ask him to give you a mental and emotional boost. "honey, i'm feeling scared and alone. please hold me and tell me i'm special and you love me" type thing. don't even mention the induction. maybe lay naked together and let him say special things about your body and you. i'm finding that although my SO is absolutely head over heals and may say these type of things (the positive love stuff not the "hot bod" stuff!) to other people and forgets to say them to ME.

the poor weekly thread is just a forgotten memory now huh? league of ladies is where all the basketballs hang out now huh? come on girls! how many births in the last week? 2, 3? this ddc is so weird....glad of it too cause I belong here!

[dogretro]

Originally Posted by sanguine_speed

It strikes me as odd that he'd need to agree to your nursing your child to a certain age.

I've actually read about dads having a weaning date mentioned more than once on MDC. For a dad who has had no exposure to breastfeeding, they do not realize how different it is from bottle feeding. Many times they approach it like bottle feeding, like that you would wean off the bottle at 12-18 months. Were it me, that is not even a convo I would have b/c so very much can change in 18 months. It would not even be a blip on my radar. For all anyone knows, you will want to be done nursing by then. DD weaned before 18 months; it was Mama instigated, but she finished it. Once they see what nursing is really like, I bet a lot of the dads don't even care anymore

I, too, would be worried and nervous about an induction that I didn't want. I know since pitocin is not really an option for a vbac that I face a c/s for postmaturity. Now, I'm not super concerned about it since I'm only just due today, but dh has zero problem w/ a second c/s. He knows that I do not want one AT ALL, but we both want a healthy baby. Since it is not happening to him & I've already done it once w/ no problems, it just does not seem as big a deal to him. It is my body, but it is our child. I can understand how complicated things can get v quickly. I say good for your SO for coming this far along on the spectrum. I don't agree w/ him about the scheduled induction, though, I side w/ you!

[waiting2bemommy]

oh yes, I'm not sweating the weaning thing one bit. He just needs a concrete date in his mind so he doesn't have to think to himself that this is going to go on forever...because remember he hs no frame of reference for nursing past 2 years or so (ds weaned around 2), so the thought of letting a child wean themself probably conjures up images of dd as a HS senior driving home at lunch to nurse or something when the time comes I'm sure we will get through it just fine.

[leavemealone]

waiting2bemommy - while I would not be comfortable going in for an induction because of my DH, what matters is that you are OK with it. In the meantime, I would probably go ahead and try a few more natural induction methods. Yes, even if my MW didn't suggest/recommend them, I'd still try them. However, that is me and it's totally up to you whether you try any of them. My DH was also raised very mainstream and wasn't open to anything "new/natural/crunchy/etc", but I did things his way the first time and ended up with an unnecessary c-section. I did things more my way the second and did the hospital birth he wanted, but the VBAC I wanted with the dr, doula, & hospital I wanted. He was very resistant to a home birth with our third child, but I went ahead with it and planned a meeting with the midwife, etc. He's admitted he was a nervous wreck but he still trusted me and went with it. He would still prefer a hospital birth (b/c "everyone else does that"), but we are having our second home birth in 2016.

I hope things go well for the induction. Well, actually I hope you go into labor before then and it's not an issue.

[mom2happy]

Oh my gosh!!
I thought this was just the thread to announce our long pregnancies.
I didnt realize it was an ongoing party!
Im so excited in a miserable kind of way to find this out.
Its so good to know we are not alone in this limbo.

Anyway, Not that this means much after 2 episodes 2 weeks apart of contractions 10 min apart for 24 hrs, but ... I lost my mucus plug about 7 hrs ago.
Curious to know who else did and how long ago.
Also, how many of us are pushing the limit on a vbac?

[tomtemama]

Right now I'm so ready to meet this baby !!!!

I keep going back and forth. I'm really enjoying the time that I have before the baby comes out and has a bunch of needs to be met all the time but toady s/he barely moved. If s/he were born I would be able to just look at the baby to see if it's ok. As it turns out everything is fine as there's a squirmy party happening in my belly as I type but I'd really like to meet the babe now.

It probably doesn't help that today is my due date and a woman who I know, who was a first time mama and due a week after me, just had her baby . I know due dates are really not worth a thing (both my girls were "late") but I would just really like to meet my baby now

[smeisnotapirate]

tomte!!! Come join us over here in our more recent thread and we'll commiserate.

Apparently your baby is as bad at reading the manual as the rest of our babies!

[tomtemama]

Thanks for letting me know smeis'. The very long and weird acronym totally threw me off the scent of the new thread. I'm headed over there soon